Moderator Complaints

Have a complaint about one of the chat room moderators? Or forums moderators?

If you want to make a complaint about one of the moderators, you can email the site admins; jmes and nash read the emails sent to adultwebmasteronline atthe yahoo dot com – if you ask that your information be kept private between you want the site admins, when you email, then it will be.

You can also submit a comment in the form below, and you can choose to use your real screen name or just type anonymous. All replies made here on this page will be first sent to moderation by the site admin, “Nash”, unless you have already posted a comment (and had that comment approved) somewhere else on the blog. If you already had another comment “approved” on one of the blog pages, then your comment left below in the reply field will be posted immediately, and all the world will be able to see your comment, and the name you have typed into the name box.

Only the site admin “Nash” will be able to see the email addy  you enter into the field below, and your associated ip addy. This info is to keep spammers out of the comments, and provides a way to show gravatars or globally recognized avatars next to your comments.

You could type in a fake email addy – just know that our auto-spam reduction system may auto-delete certain messages (comments that have lots of links or talk about erectile dysfunction drugs, etc).

More about the mods

Every one of our chat rooms mods has volunteered to help make the chat room a better place. They are taking time out of play time to help the room and everyone in it experience a happy neutral place to enjoy mature conversations. Every one of our mods has read a very detailed set of “mod rules” – and we constantly discuss with each other things that come up, and what to do in edgy situations. Every single one of us is prone to make a mistake once in a while, and some of the mods may interpret the rules in harsher way than others, and act accordingly.

It is a very tough job to defend free speech, even when you are not a fan of some of the things that other people way want to express. Every day we are put in situations when personally we’d like to just kick and ban someone for being an idiot, rude, or taking their conversations to the edge of indecency. We constantly deal with spammers, mean people, user complaints, chat bots, and all kinds of ridiculous things, the last thing we need is someone who comes into the room, breaks a small rule, and then gets all bent out of shape about being asked to comply.

I have had users that made small mistakes end up causing big disruptions for the room. If you message me and say, “hey I only used all caps twice, I shouldn’t be permanently banned for that, your mod is abusing me just to make his or her friends happy, blah blah blah.” You know what probably happened? Most likely a small mistake was made, you were asked to stop, and the came back with an attitude problem. Now as moderators, we are used to that to some degree, and we know what it’s like, heck, most of us have been on the other side of the coin. But it’s the ensuing drama that generally gets people kicked or banned.

I back up our mods decisions most of the time. I do not expect to get the whole story from you or anyone else, if you message me about a problem, I will listen, but don’t think that I am going to believe that you have the whole story. This is a free service, if you don’t like the way it is moderated, if you don’t want to play by the simple rules, then don’t, you can always go chat somewhere else. You don’t have to use our site.

Also realize that with text chat it may be easy for me to read something and take it a different way than it was intended. The same goes the other way. I might ask something and in my mind I am saying it politely, but you might read the text and thing that I am coming off mean or demanding. Every day all over the world, through chat rooms, text messages, pms, emails, people are reading (hearing) things one way, when the intention (writing) was meant another way. It happens. Even with the “LOLs” and smiley faces we all use, it is really easy to take something the wrong way on all sides of a text conversation.

Understand that every moderator is taking time away from their play time to help the community here, and please understand it is a mostly a thankless (and unpaid / volunteer) job, and we deal with many people who don’t know all the rules. We also deal with all kinds of crap behind the scenes that you will hopefully never have to worry about. Respect the mods, play well with others, and have fun. Be glad you get to chat away and don’t have to deal with all the other crap.

A note about user created chat rooms, room operators and mods

If you enter a user created chat room, there may be a username in purple, and that user will have the some of the abilities of a site moderator, including the ability to kick you from their chat room. User created room mods do not necessarily have to follow the rules and guidelines that are established for our official site admins and moderators. If a user created room mod decides to kick you for whatever reason, please do not complain to the site admins, as we do not have any control over user created room moderators. Our official site admins and moderators may choose to enter user created rooms on occasion, and their names may appear normal, in red, yellow, purple or simply be invisible. As outlined on our privacy policy, site admins and moderators may on occasion also enter password protected rooms as well. We highly suggest you read and understand the privacy policy information, and check for updates when you use our site.

This page will be updated, have more info to post on other subjects! comment or email away of you have any complaints.

Nash

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2,966 Comments:

  1. nash, now here is an idea for selecting mods. Why not hold an open election and let the registered members vote for mods. Hey if Britian can vote to leave the EU maybe the members could vote of mods. Maybe hold the electiom on a Saturday people don’t work then. Have names submitted then let the people deside. Sounds good to me. What you think? Just trying to find a way to keep political and religious talk out of lobby in new chat. Please on our election day in November have a mod in lobby. People were leaving lobby when the Brits voted to leave there was so much discussion and bad feelings. Since I’m American I voiced no opinion in the matter just kept telling people to use their block buttons. Of course they did not listen to me finally I left also. Thank you miley4u

  2. nash, i get to new chat by going to MV clicking on Free Chat rooms scrolling down to the old chat chech in page clicking on lobby then down to the New Chat box click on that it takes me to new chat. Please don’t ever take that down. people have given me this link http://www.sexchatspace.com/new chat when i do that it asked for my user name and password it was so long ago when i registered i can’t remember what i used is there any way i can find out what i used for new chat or mv chat i should have written it down but i did not, so my email is below if you could send it to me i will be greatful . i tried once it said error and i have one try left if i put in wrong information it makes me wait to get back in, or can i register with new email and pass word i just want to get in new chat with no problems. this time i will write it down. Thank ypu mikey4u

  3. Nash, I know i’m a pest, but is there any reason I can’t get in new chat? i type in sexchatsexchat new chat like I do everyday. Now all it gives me is every MV chat information there is no option for new chat. I’m at a loss as what to do. I would appreciate any help you can give me, Maybe the site don’t like the fact that I have 175 votes. More than the mods. That is meant to be funny. What do you suggest that I do to get in new chat? mikey4u

    • @mikey4u – well if you find yourself on the mv-chat page, there is a navigation in the middle-ish top area – and one of the tabs is for ‘cams chat’ – (http://www.sexchatsexchat.com/peeps/cams-chat/ ) – which will get you the NC system as well I think.

      I am guessing it’s not the site, or your votes that are having influence on what I am assuming is a search engine you are using that is guiding you to our chat system.

  4. Nash there is a person in lobby named ramlove who keeps posting personal information and using capital letters. I told he to go read site rules. Otherwise I don’t know what to do. We need a mod he is annoying. mikey4u

    • @mikey4u- I popped in the nc and did not see this name there or anything about this situation. Best thing to do in these situations is to use the block button, perhaps teach others how to use the block button.

  5. Nash, is there a painless way to delete buddy list ? I have asked in lobby, porn and gay nobody knows. Thanks Mikey4u

    • don’t remove it! i and many others use it for leaving offline pms for friends and when you don’t want people to pm you we set it as set for friends only pm me.
      don’t remove it!

    • 2mikey4u – I don’t know anything about the buddy list in the nc system – sorry. It’s really really old code and I’m not jumping back into that system that deep again – sorry.

  6. Nash, thank you for your reply, of course my comment, “a mod appears out of thin air” was feckless, bad analogy.. What I should have said is a mod is never around when one is needed. People have me confused with Mikey™. I am asked at least 2 times a week,”mikey4u I need your help having a problem” I explain that I am not a mod, I go looking for a mod and cannot find one on site. Maybe you could install, call a mod button. Or use temp mods as I suggested, Of course they would be under strict orders to be careful n try to educate users of site rules and give warnings. I seen in the past when a mod warns someone the person usually settles down and behaves. No one wants to be baned or kicked out. On Chat avenue the mods talk to each other rarely to users and they kick alot. Usually for 24 hours. My only desire is to see Sexchatsexchat the best chat site on the net. Most chat sites are cess pools. But you have a great site people love lobby in new chat. Not so much in MV too many guest. People like to form friendships and can’t with guest. As far as new mods go AmericanHoney would make a great mod. Maybe Call a Mod button is the answer thats where a temp mod would be good. Users don’t like to block other users. Now I’m rambling. The mods here do a great job under stressful situations. Thank you. Mikey4u

  7. Nash, why is it that during the day they can speak German and French in new chat lobby and no mod is ever around and all I have to say is Hilary no last name and a moderator appears out of thin air and warns me? Where is the justice? I still think temp mods would stop this maybe have the ability to kick abusers out for 30 minutes or so no permanent ban leave that up to you. Thank you. Miley4u

    • @mikey4u -This:
      “all I have to say is Hilary no last name and a moderator appears out of thin air and warns me?”
      Is awesome.
      I’m so glad it works out like that when it does. We are very strict about certain things in the main rooms, religions and politics being a couple of those things that are really big pet peeves for us. Of course we have many pet peeves and rules, and the other languages issue is included in that long list of rules we have.

      I have kicked around the idea of temporary moderators, and even group vote to kick options.. however good these things sound, they become ripe for abuse – and other issues surround them.

      We will consider adding new mods once we get things ironed out more in the mv chat system, a few more updates and we’ll be getting back to speed with everything I hope.

      In the meantime, I would love to see all of the users use the block button and share with others how to use this feature, as having a large group of people clicking the iggy / block user button will generally remove 99% of the problems, including the language thing.

  8. nash new chat won’t let me in . It asks for my *edited by admin to remove info end admin edit*. I registered so long ago i can’t remember. How do I fond out? mikey4u

  9. 4:35 pm British who the fuck actually cares ?
    4:35 pm Sai_(M)*El Tigre* Do you need a spork?
    4:35 pm Tori22 having a bad day british
    4:35 pm Gst-Bi-Cate-40 hi everyone
    4:36 pm British anybody who really..deep down cares about the “way” me and GD have been acting can literally go and fuck themselves
    4:36 pm British we can act the way we want..there are no rules against it
    4:36 pm British so fuck off. seriously
    4:36 pm British rant over
    4:36 pm Sai_(M)*El Tigre* You two finally getting down n dirty?
    4:36 pm Sai_(M)*El Tigre* Good for you
    4:36 pm British finally ? xD
    4:36 pm Gst-karen18 well that was a wild one lol
    4:36 pm British apparently there have been many complaints about it
    4:37 pm British and literally..who the fuck cares ?
    4:37 pm British seriously ?
    4:37 pm Sai_(M)*El Tigre* I saw your essay on the peeps page
    4:37 pm Sai_(M)*El Tigre* Way too long
    4:37 pm British its actually starting to piss me the fuck off
    4:37 pm Gst-Bi-Cate-40 lost
    4:37 pm Sai_(M)*El Tigre* Didn’t read it

    A prime example why most of us don’t complain about a moderator. British’s rant brought the room way down -sighs-

    • @anon3 – I appreciate the info here, and I think this is an example of something real that can happen with dual relationships. This is something that I touch on in the ‘how to be a mod pages” – this kind of thing could use more details in future pages I imagine.

      I see that the current situation is spilling over a bit into clicks and stuff, and I am sorry to see that. It’s hard to seperate what is drama that should just not happen, or what is drama that is created by those who are just having a personal issue about something and not really in the mix per se.

      I do not think this kind of thing happens often, and certainly would not be a reason that many people would consider when choosing to send a complaint or not. I could be wrong, as I am unaware of all the current regs connections, and so it could be with how things are and have been the past month or so, that this is indeed a larger concern today than it would of been the past few years.

      Hmmm. I think all this will soon pass and people will accept that some others have hooked up and whatever feelings that may cause. My main concern is that we do not have the appearance that mods are letting one person or group of people violate rules while enforcing rules on others. This is the kind of thing I would really like to see chat logs or screen shots of.

      Of course if there are other issues that are cropping up in the chats in relation to the mods we will address those as well.

    • did u all fuck today

      • @dennis – I almost fucked today. Then felt like I got fucked, then things got better! Then delayed. Then I tried like hell to not think about fucking. After fighting that urge while staring and trying not to stare at amazingly beaufitul temptation… I got to make out! Which was awesome.
        Now I might go fuck myself. While looking at some other people fucking, while thinking about the girl I’d really like to be fucking. Maybe. we’ll see, sometimes plans change, and you gotta roll with it.

  10. MV used to be a fun place but for the last month or so, it’s gone down hill. Goddess is drunk half the time and doesn’t moderate as she should. She abuses her powers when she’s in a “bad mood”. Some of the regulars that visit at night are talking about leaving the site because of this. Yes, there is NewChat but most from the OC have registered already in MV and have made friends there. I have also seen a group of them gang up on other regulars if they don’t agree with what’s being said. It’s become a very rude place and not fun at all unless you’re part of Goddess’s group. You wanted MV to be the place to be, Nash, but you are losing people at a high rate because of this. I and others hope you make some changes.

    • @Anonymous – I appreciate you sharing this. I will definitely look into this. If others are talking about such you can let them know that I am here in the comments area, and will be popping into the chat to see what’s happening, and my email addy is posted above on this page if anyone would like to send me any screen shots.

      • I appreciate Anonymous being the one to bring this issue forward because it has been an issue for me as well. In fact, GoddessDivine is the very reason I don’t log into chat anymore. Goddess plays favorites when she is “modding” and she is much more relaxed with the rules when it comes to British (I’m not against mods “fucking” other users but you shouldn’t show favoritism when they clearly break site rules). I’ve also noticed just how much differently British acts when GD is the only mod there versus a mod such as Mikey or BigTex. I’ve always been hesitant to complain about a mod because rarely anything ever comes of it however, other people clearly feel the same way I do (and I know of other specific users who do).

        Thanks for taking the time to read this Nash.

        • anon2 – I appreciate your sharing this view. As far as “rarely anything ever comes of it ” in realtion to mod complaints, I must say that most complaints I get about the mods are when the users have broken rules, and the times when people suggest that a mod is breaking rules there is rarely any concrete examples of such. Also there are many times when the mods will get together, discuss, and change some things in how we do things, and those discussions and changes are not posted in the public areas, so sometimes we make changes based upon comments, but those changes are not seen by everyone, so it could appear that rarely does anything come of complaints, when it may be more accurate that often times users think we should do one thing, and we do another… but be sure that I/we rarely do nothing 😉

          also additional comments related to this I guess – http://www.sexchatsexchat.com/blog/moderator-complaints/comment-page-19/#comment-45543

        • I think another reason most are hesitant to complain about a mod is if that particular mod hears about it, they may treat that person differently in the room. Example: I logged into MV eariler today and saw the Divine One ranting about FF35’s complaint in the lobby. A few of her “friends” made some rude comments, etc. I don’t think that was the place to vent. Do it in a PM or something. I also read something about getting screenshots? Who wants to sit there until something is said, mostly when it happens more late at night. We do have jobs in the morning, Nash.

    • I have to agree with this person. I finally had to leave MV because of the rudeness and bad moderating. GoddessDivine lets her friends do as they chose but if someone else does the exact same thing, she goes off on them or they all gang up. The lobby is for everyone but U can’t get a word in edge wise. I feel sorry for any newcomers that pop in.

      • might be time to re-promote the old challenge to the regs post.

        I try to encourage our regular users not to gang up and such… perhaps some reminding of why would be helpful.

        As far as mods being in the room and not modding properly, I’ll need more specifics. In some cases we need mods to resign, in other cases we need to establish better lines/ boundaries on when we should be in the room as a moderator and times when we should not be in mod mode. Of course this is different with the mv system, so we may need to develop mod names and different names / logins for times when we may want to be in the room to play around and not be serious or whatever. Will be thinking on this.

        thanks for chiming in you all.

    • I am very glad that these complaints were brought to this page. As a mod it’s hard to always gauge if we are doing our jobs correctly. The shift over to MV chat has been an interesting and some what stressful change for all of us. I definitely encourage people to challenge what I am doing if they think that I’m not doing something correctly. My PM box is always open for regular users and guests are more than welcome to request that I open a PM box for them to contact me. It’s been mentioned that I let certain people get away with things and not others and if this is actually the case PLEASE feel free to PM me and point out when a rule is being broken that I am missing. I am human and I make mistakes. I also have emotions which I do my best to control as a mod, but again, I am human. I am taking all of this to heart and keeping it in mind, thinking things over. I fully intend to pay closer attention to my modding and make sure it is indeed the best it can be at all times. If it has slacked off recently and caused issues, I do apologize to our users and will do everything I can to change. Something also to remember is that we mods mod for nothing other than being able to educate users. We don’t get paid, we receive no praise, and it is a very thankless job most of the time. With that being said, I mentioned the transition has been stressful for everybody, this move to MV. There has been A LOT OF COMPLAINING and so perhaps there are times when it gets frustrating. Lots of drama lately as well. I encourage users to bring complaints to here or to PM, so that it doesn’t bring down the atmosphere of the room with the negativity. Not because we don’t want the feedback, but everybody is having a good time, or trying to and the negative attitudes have been abundant lately. And there are a lot of things that go on behind the scenes that many users do not realize is happening. Please keep that in mind.

      Something else has been mentioned that really actually bugs me and I want to address it. Some users complaining about the the large group of people that “take over the lobby”. I know I’m included in this because I am a VERY active user. I welcome people openly over and over again. And I chat. A LOT. Just because I’m a mod doesn’t mean I’m not going to screw around and laugh and have fun. I’m not going to limit how much I’m talking so that people can “enjoy a quiet room”. It’s a chat room, meant for talking. And PLEASE TALK. I love when people join in. It’s a really really fun place to be. I’ve been on site for over 4 years and have met some of the best friends in my life. I highly highly encourage people to do the same.

      Again, thank you all for the feedback.

  11. nash, alot of people tell me they click on my 5th star it won’t lite up it must be burned out call the repair people fix it lol mikey4u

  12. hi yeah not sure why i ve been banned

    name is seekspetite

    i wasnt even at my keypad when banned actually hadnt been at it for half an hour or more

  13. nash then i got a message saying error was not baned lol mikey4u

  14. nash we had a little problem in new chat lobby everyone was joking and having fun i said only kosher pickles, nash i’m a cajun jew if i can’t say jew who can the conversation went on and a jewish girl was sais i said jewish pussy someone named Reddi jumped all over me bout slurring her religion I told Reddi I am jewish too Reddi said you have been warned I repeated I’m jewish Reddi said i copied the chat records and sent them to nash if i can’t joke bout my people who can everyone came to my defense to me Reddi was an edvil person always looking to cause trouble i hope this is not a problem since i was making fun of myself. Thank you Mikey4u

  15. It appears that I am blocked or banned from NC nash, for whatever reason. Would you look into as to why? I was abruptly disconnected and am unable to reconnect. Would you please look into what happened.?
    TY janie

    • @Janie – you were banned by one of our moderators, along with 2 other people at approximately the same time.
      I am not sure of the details or reasons for these bans at the moment. Most people that read our rules find a reason or reasons for them to be banned.

  16. nash, have i been baned from sexchatsexchat for some reason. I can’t get in.
    Thank you for your assistence in this matter
    mikey4u

    • @mikey4u – why do you think you were banned? (you could of been, I will need to check around) – is there some kind of error message or did you get some kind of warning about breaking rules or something?

  17. need Mod in room to kick out a guy called Platonic
    he is causing nothing but trouble to all members.

  18. nash timmy is back, please get a mod here to ban him or her whatever it is the room is impossible to use

    • ladylikes™✿TallOne(m)™s lady✿

      Hello mikey4u – I have sent an email to Nash with info about happenings in NC-lobby today.
      And I have asked for a mod, too – but that was some time ago – today.
      I have posted a mod requeste on Chat connection problems, hoping that someone would see it.
      I am not sure if this really is him…., but who knows.

      Greetings ladylikes™.

    • oh great – another troll. Might be time to make some more changes here.

  19. nash what is wrong with new chat it is scrolling so fast and the user list disappeared HELP

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