Moderator Complaints

Have a complaint about one of the chat room moderators? Or forums moderators?

If you want to make a complaint about one of the moderators, you can email the site admins; jmes and nash read the emails sent to adultwebmasteronline atthe yahoo dot com - if you ask that your information be kept private between you want the site admins, when you email, then it will be.

You can also submit a comment in the form below, and you can choose to use your real screen name or just type anonymous. All replies made here on this page will be first sent to moderation by the site admin, "Nash", unless you have already posted a comment (and had that comment approved) somewhere else on the blog. If you already had another comment "approved" on one of the blog pages, then your comment left below in the reply field will be posted immediately, and all the world will be able to see your comment, and the name you have typed into the name box.

Only the site admin "Nash" will be able to see the email addy  you enter into the field below, and your associated ip addy. This info is to keep spammers out of the comments, and provides a way to show gravatars or globally recognized avatars next to your comments.

You could type in a fake email addy - just know that our auto-spam reduction system may auto-delete certain messages (comments that have lots of links or talk about erectile dysfunction drugs, etc).

More about the mods

Every one of our chat rooms mods has volunteered to help make the chat room a better place. They are taking time out of play time to help the room and everyone in it experience a happy neutral place to enjoy mature conversations. Every one of our mods has read a very detailed set of "mod rules" - and we constantly discuss with each other things that come up, and what to do in edgy situations. Every single one of us is prone to make a mistake once in a while, and some of the mods may interpret the rules in harsher way than others, and act accordingly.

It is a very tough job to defend free speech, even when you are not a fan of some of the things that other people way want to express. Every day we are put in situations when personally we'd like to just kick and ban someone for being an idiot, rude, or taking their conversations to the edge of indecency. We constantly deal with spammers, mean people, user complaints, chat bots, and all kinds of ridiculous things, the last thing we need is someone who comes into the room, breaks a small rule, and then gets all bent out of shape about being asked to comply.

I have had users that made small mistakes end up causing big disruptions for the room. If you message me and say, "hey I only used all caps twice, I shouldn't be permanently banned for that, your mod is abusing me just to make his or her friends happy, blah blah blah." You know what probably happened? Most likely a small mistake was made, you were asked to stop, and the came back with an attitude problem. Now as moderators, we are used to that to some degree, and we know what it's like, heck, most of us have been on the other side of the coin. But it's the ensuing drama that generally gets people kicked or banned.

I back up our mods decisions most of the time. I do not expect to get the whole story from you or anyone else, if you message me about a problem, I will listen, but don't think that I am going to believe that you have the whole story. This is a free service, if you don't like the way it is moderated, if you don't want to play by the simple rules, then don't, you can always go chat somewhere else. You don't have to use our site.

Also realize that with text chat it may be easy for me to read something and take it a different way than it was intended. The same goes the other way. I might ask something and in my mind I am saying it politely, but you might read the text and thing that I am coming off mean or demanding. Every day all over the world, through chat rooms, text messages, pms, emails, people are reading (hearing) things one way, when the intention (writing) was meant another way. It happens. Even with the "LOLs" and smiley faces we all use, it is really easy to take something the wrong way on all sides of a text conversation.

Understand that every moderator is taking time away from their play time to help the community here, and please understand it is a mostly a thankless (and unpaid / volunteer) job, and we deal with many people who don't know all the rules. We also deal with all kinds of crap behind the scenes that you will hopefully never have to worry about. Respect the mods, play well with others, and have fun. Be glad you get to chat away and don't have to deal with all the other crap.

A note about user created chat rooms, room operators and mods

If you enter a user created chat room, there may be a username in purple, and that user will have the some of the abilities of a site moderator, including the ability to kick you from their chat room. User created room mods do not necessarily have to follow the rules and guidelines that are established for our official site admins and moderators. If a user created room mod decides to kick you for whatever reason, please do not complain to the site admins, as we do not have any control over user created room moderators. Our official site admins and moderators may choose to enter user created rooms on occasion, and their names may appear normal, in red, yellow, purple or simply be invisible. As outlined on our privacy policy, site admins and moderators may on occasion also enter password protected rooms as well. We highly suggest you read and understand the privacy policy information, and check for updates when you use our site.

This page will be updated, have more info to post on other subjects! comment or email away of you have any complaints.




  1. this site really needs new moderators in lesbian chat room very stuck up and do not give you a chance to explain yourself fairly

  2. um why is New Chat down again?

    • i guess it must be a secret Becks….

      • @Becky & Lily – sorry ya’ll – I’ve been rushing back and forth to hospitals and crap trying to get things together for my brother – and keeping up the last couple weeks has been an avalanche or undone things. I will check on this tomorrow! If not, remind me after that!

        • thanks for letting me know Nash. i’ll remind you later
          i hope your brother is okay.

        • any idea when NC will be back up? you asked me to remind you.

          • @Becky – I just made a few adjustments… give it a try now and let me know if it’s working or not.

            • nope its not.

            • comes up with Database Error, Cannot connect to the database!

            • arg! Just saw that! Working on that now. It’s gonna take a bit, just woke up.

            • @Becky – Think I got the modules for this fixed now – give it another whirl – let me know if things are still broken.

            • so far everything is working. just need more people to know NC is back up. maybe shut down OC for 6 weeks to encourage them to check out NC. just a suggestion

            • @Becky Jones – thanks for the heads up. I still need some more tweaks to the NC, and it needs some more testing, not sure it will handle 100 people at a time right now or not. Also working on some tweaks for the mv-chat system, and more than likely that one will end up being the go to system when we put a pause on the OC – I am still trying to merge the features of NC that people have chimed in about into the MV system, with some other goodies. If there was any way to get the NC to work with mobile devices I might move in that direction instead, but have to work with what is possible at the moment. Also working on a newer system as well that gets into mobile apps and, well more on that another time.

            • sometimes the app Photon works. that allows users to come on NC or OC via using iphone or ipad or smartphones

          • ✰GoddessDivine✰

            I’m guessing he meant give him more than 24 hours, he has a lot on his plate. I’m sure he will let you know when he has it worked out or another mod will post and let you know. Patience is always appreciated :)

            • Becky, actually, when the OC was down in the past, many people did go to the NC. Very few actually stayed once the OC was back up and running as they preferred the basics of OC even though there were some features of NC that people liked.

  3. @ Goddess Divine:

    Lol. I make a complaint about a Mod, and I’m an attention seeker? Wow. So defensive. If you can’t handle a little criticism in an open forum like this, maybe this ain’t the best role for you.

    Just some food for thought.

  4. The First Anonomyous :)

    Very well said Anonomyous


    Of course there is an avalanche of evidence supporting that yes , Nash, you have subjective, mods with poor judgement.

    It has also been my experience that Mikey™ and Master Jedi Moose are the only ones that seem to have their brains attached to their computers.

    Yes, Nash, unfairness abides all around……Mods and regs and company have one set of rules. The rest of chatters…yet another. Some as in my case don’t even get the benefit of doubt as to who they are. And you as a site owner did not have the decency to ask me directly…you allowed biased (and now demoded) mods to dictate your actions. Way to go.

    Yes Nash, your site is a “little” site. and Yes Folks there are waaay better chat rooms out there on the net….you just have to find them :).

    Watching Avidly as my opinions / expressions get proven one by one…..

    Anonomyous …the first one that Nash is complaining about :)

  5. ladylikes™✿TallOne(m)™s lady✿

    Interesting conversations….. At least the posts are allowed to stay on the complaint site.
    Mine was deleted, cause it was not liked.

    Very interesting……

    I guess I am not allowed to post on here anymore. My comments are awaiting moderation – because I am such a bad person.


    • The First Anonomyous :)

      Lady likes:

      Despite everything, II do not view you as a bad person, and wish you well.

      Regards :)

      The first Anonomyous :)

      • ladylikes, I hope to one day get in contact w/u
        *hugs n kisses*
        u were always very kind to me, ty for that <3

      • ladylikes™✿TallOne(m)™s lady✿

        despite everything?


        • hey lady
          miss talking to you on OC. you are such a sweet person.
          i hope everything is well with you

          • ladylikes™✿TallOne(m)™s lady✿

            Dear Becky, thank you for missing me :)
            I have decided not to attend chat anymore, since my kindness was used to trample all over me…. I do have limits, too.

            I do, however, miss certain lovely people, like you. I wish you well, my dear :)

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