Moderator Complaints

Have a complaint about one of the chat room moderators? Or forums moderators?

If you want to make a complaint about one of the moderators, you can email the site admins; jmes and nash read the emails sent to adultwebmasteronline atthe yahoo dot com - if you ask that your information be kept private between you want the site admins, when you email, then it will be.

You can also submit a comment in the form below, and you can choose to use your real screen name or just type anonymous. All replies made here on this page will be first sent to moderation by the site admin, "Nash", unless you have already posted a comment (and had that comment approved) somewhere else on the blog. If you already had another comment "approved" on one of the blog pages, then your comment left below in the reply field will be posted immediately, and all the world will be able to see your comment, and the name you have typed into the name box.

Only the site admin "Nash" will be able to see the email addy  you enter into the field below, and your associated ip addy. This info is to keep spammers out of the comments, and provides a way to show gravatars or globally recognized avatars next to your comments.

You could type in a fake email addy - just know that our auto-spam reduction system may auto-delete certain messages (comments that have lots of links or talk about erectile dysfunction drugs, etc).

More about the mods

Every one of our chat rooms mods has volunteered to help make the chat room a better place. They are taking time out of play time to help the room and everyone in it experience a happy neutral place to enjoy mature conversations. Every one of our mods has read a very detailed set of "mod rules" - and we constantly discuss with each other things that come up, and what to do in edgy situations. Every single one of us is prone to make a mistake once in a while, and some of the mods may interpret the rules in harsher way than others, and act accordingly.

It is a very tough job to defend free speech, even when you are not a fan of some of the things that other people way want to express. Every day we are put in situations when personally we'd like to just kick and ban someone for being an idiot, rude, or taking their conversations to the edge of indecency. We constantly deal with spammers, mean people, user complaints, chat bots, and all kinds of ridiculous things, the last thing we need is someone who comes into the room, breaks a small rule, and then gets all bent out of shape about being asked to comply.

I have had users that made small mistakes end up causing big disruptions for the room. If you message me and say, "hey I only used all caps twice, I shouldn't be permanently banned for that, your mod is abusing me just to make his or her friends happy, blah blah blah." You know what probably happened? Most likely a small mistake was made, you were asked to stop, and the came back with an attitude problem. Now as moderators, we are used to that to some degree, and we know what it's like, heck, most of us have been on the other side of the coin. But it's the ensuing drama that generally gets people kicked or banned.

I back up our mods decisions most of the time. I do not expect to get the whole story from you or anyone else, if you message me about a problem, I will listen, but don't think that I am going to believe that you have the whole story. This is a free service, if you don't like the way it is moderated, if you don't want to play by the simple rules, then don't, you can always go chat somewhere else. You don't have to use our site.

Also realize that with text chat it may be easy for me to read something and take it a different way than it was intended. The same goes the other way. I might ask something and in my mind I am saying it politely, but you might read the text and thing that I am coming off mean or demanding. Every day all over the world, through chat rooms, text messages, pms, emails, people are reading (hearing) things one way, when the intention (writing) was meant another way. It happens. Even with the "LOLs" and smiley faces we all use, it is really easy to take something the wrong way on all sides of a text conversation.

Understand that every moderator is taking time away from their play time to help the community here, and please understand it is a mostly a thankless (and unpaid / volunteer) job, and we deal with many people who don't know all the rules. We also deal with all kinds of crap behind the scenes that you will hopefully never have to worry about. Respect the mods, play well with others, and have fun. Be glad you get to chat away and don't have to deal with all the other crap.

A note about user created chat rooms, room operators and mods

If you enter a user created chat room, there may be a username in purple, and that user will have the some of the abilities of a site moderator, including the ability to kick you from their chat room. User created room mods do not necessarily have to follow the rules and guidelines that are established for our official site admins and moderators. If a user created room mod decides to kick you for whatever reason, please do not complain to the site admins, as we do not have any control over user created room moderators. Our official site admins and moderators may choose to enter user created rooms on occasion, and their names may appear normal, in red, yellow, purple or simply be invisible. As outlined on our privacy policy, site admins and moderators may on occasion also enter password protected rooms as well. We highly suggest you read and understand the privacy policy information, and check for updates when you use our site.

This page will be updated, have more info to post on other subjects! comment or email away of you have any complaints.




  1. can whoever the hell makes this site please do an update or something? I used to love coming on here, but now every time I come on I get a ton of stress because the textbox keeps glitching. For some reason I type out one message and send it and suddenly no other message will send. I can type out messages, but they appear in some fucked up font and refuses to send.

    • @anonymous with update concern… This issue is discussed on the chat connections problems / solutions page. There are several different things that can cause this issue, some are related to your browser and browser plugins, others can have to do with available computer memory.

      Have you tried using a different web browser on your computer to see if the issue is only a problem with say chrome as opposed to firefox or IE ?

      You can also try the chat we have on this less graphic intensive page to see if the problem persists on that page. If there is no problem using the chat on that page, then I think it is a weird issue where too many flash and java objects cause issues with your system. This apparently happens a lot with users who have touch screen computers, and especially with people who use our chat systems on our sex chat space site – as the underlying theme code there has a lot of extra bells and whistles with use a lot of java magic to make things smooth and pretty, but sometimes it causes over thinking problems for some computers.

      Sometimes it’s not the browser or the computer, but a couple of browser plugins that cause this weird no typing going through thing. With so many different systems out there, it is impossible to pin this exact problem for everyone and which solution is the best for each person. The list of trouble shooting things on the chat connections page helps to whittle down things however.

  2. I was banned within a couple of minutes of logging into the site. When one logs in you are taken to the lobby right away. No one has control over that. I then went to go to the Forced room clicked on Fam run by accident . In the process of scrolling through the room names so I could go to the right room I was kicked. No warning, nothing. I understand that a warning doesn’t have to be given but I don’t think it’s unreasonable to get one. Getting a ban within a minute or two of going into the wrong room is definitely a “quick trigger”. I can take the ban for however long it lasts but I would certainly ask that you amend the rules to enforce a warning whenever possible. Sometimes people make typos in their names, sometimes they click on the wrong room name, sometimes people don’t really know the rules. Enforcing a warning could avoid a lot of angst on everyone’s part.

  3. Creamed By Daddy


    Okay, I was chatting in the Family Fun Room and I posted a pic OF MYSELF. I am 19yo. Curare saw the pic and asked my age, I told her. She asked how old the pic was and I said 4months. She told me to be careful what I post and I said no problem. Situation resolved, THEN SHE KICKED ME!!! WTF!!!

    When I got back in and asked her why, she accused me of posting underage pics. I’m sorry but if I am 19 and the pic is 4months old then that logically puts it around 20months on the legal side of the line.

    I did NOTHING WRONG, and frankly it is not my fault that she does not know basic math.

    Nash, your Mods are not supposed to kick for no reason. I answered all her questions, I told I was legal and I told her my pic was legal… and then she KICKS ME OUT and accuses me of doing something illegal. Seriously, her position needs to be rethought and I want an apology, from her, for her behavior and for the unfounded accusation.

    • @Creamed by Daddy – initial research of this image shows that it was posted in 2013 on a Polish discussion board. Some quick math showed that might be in issue with the information that you presented in that chat. While this research on the image creation date is not always 100% accurate, our research tools do help in making determinations of issues like these. So the kick makes sense from the initial research and erring on the side of caution with issues like these. You could do the shine photo age verify thing to prove you are the girl in the image and your birthday.

  4. I find that the moderator “Bitch in Boots” is unprofessional. I was personally insulted when asking about why the rule changes of 1/30/15 were not noted on the login page. That is the main reason I’m leaving this comment. Anytime rules change there should be a notification on the main login page with a link to the changes.

    • Bitch in Boots was kind enough to show me that upon the first login to any room a notification will show at the very top with the latest rule change date and a link. I would like to change my suggestion to making this not disappear with the rush of general chat. Upon logging into the main room there is enough chat going on that I never see this message.

  5. thanks for fixing my problem nash.
    do you have a date when New Chat will be back up?

    • The NC is having weird issues. It mostly works, then fails. My coding partners with this project are in a different time zone, so each time we find a bug, I message them, it’s the next day they get the message, a day later they message me back. I fix things, other things break. Process repeats – 3-4 days each time. It’s driving me nuts. I’d like to say it’s 99% working.. but that 1% fix is an unknown amount of rounds back and forth to try to get working. Still trying though!

      • how much longer? sorry don’t mean to put pressure on you

      • Quality in ……Quality out…..

        Regards :)

        • asking about New Chat lol

          • can the link for NC this one be useable. its better with full screen.
            thank you Nash for bring back NC. much appreciated

            • @Becky Jones – using that kind of full screen link is not recommended, and sharing a full screen version of one of our chats is actually a terms of service violation as we have rules against telling others methods of reducing ads. WE have been considering ways to offer full screen versions for people that help support the sites, so we may come up with something like that in the future. Also that version of the NC is not likely to work very long, as we are still in the process of moving things to a more secure server. I will try to make things work with our new version this weekend.

            • is there a way to get full size screen for New Chat the current one is kind of small. hard to read

            • @Becky Jones – once we get things working again with the NC I can get into the parts that can make it larger, and make things within bigger as well. That is one of the main reasons we working on this (unreasonably long) transition.

            • um why is New Chat down again?

            • the nc is still having problems. I’m going to try one more day of fixes – hopefully it will come back, but I am not sure this system is going to work as intended, we may have to give up on it. We’ll see.

  6. I don’t know why I was banned, let me know so that I can rectify it so that I can return to the site….

  7. @anonymous – re:

    The rules do not say that bdsm or names that could be considered names that relate to fetishes are not permitted in the lobby. We specifically point out that names that contain things like abuse, rape, and similar are not appropriate for the main lobby and some of the other niche rooms. If you personally feel that sames like bitch, DOM, bitch in boots, even names like Dominant Dyke are bringing about feelings that you feel are overly taboo, then I think you would be in the minority. You are entitled to your opinion about what construes a taboo name, however your opinion that mods are not subject to the same rules is still not a valid statement. If one of the mods decided to use a screen name like “AbusiveExMakesBitchesCryandBleed” – then indeed they would be found to be in violation of our rules if there were to use such a name in the lobby.

    So you are mistaken about the rules in regards to bdsm flavored names, and I will point out that our rules get into some grey areas, and also mention that names plus discussions could be taken differently, so this is not a blanket statement about what is allowed and what is disallowed.

    • Yes Nash , and I gave my response.

      yes Nash it does make perfect sense. What does not make sense is the continued banning/booting of members for using similar names to the ones that the moderators/regs utilize. That is the double standard to which I am referring to. Again mods and regs have one set of rules, the rest, another.
      That was my point.

      Again, my comments reflected on the double standard rule adherence as it applies to Mods, regs, and newbies.

      That I am most certainly not mistaken about.

      Regards :)

  8. hey Nash.
    my ip address has been banned and i don’t know why. last time it happened someone used similar ip address as me and i was banned. could you please fix it
    also when will NC be back up?

  9. Hi Nash:
    It seems that BDSM fetish names are permitted as moderator names in chat Case in point D istinguished Older Male = DOM and Bitch in Boots . As your site rules say and you have on several occasions stated, certain names and fetishes are not allowed as names under the general room sites ie: family fun room and lobby.
    That would lead one to the conclusion, that 1) bdsm is an accepted fetish in the general rooms 2) if bdsm is not an accepted fetish, then the mods do not have to follow the site rules.

    Regards :)

    • Personally, I think you’re really reaching here. People call DistinguishedOlderMale DOM just like people call me BGB, not because of some BDSM reason. Also, the “B” in BDSM does not stand for “bitch” or “boots.”

      • hmmm I know of one way to spell DOM, and boots ARE a fetish, not to mention the bitch part.

        Regards :)

        • ….and the comment I made , bubblegumbitch, were not directed at you. Why stir the drama pot up? is that not also against site chat rules. Oh yes I forgot you’re a reg….doesn’t apply.

          This comment IS directed at you because YOU decided to insert yourself where you are not welcome.

          Regards :)

          • I gave my opinion on it, I am sorry you don’t appreciate hearing viewpoints that are different from your own. As long as everyone agrees with you, then there is no drama, is that it? I am as welcome to voice my opinion as you are.

            Wearing boots and being a bitch has nothing inherently to do with BDSM. I thought what you said was a real reach, and I said so. If I had agreed, I probably would have said something before you did.

            • Madame BGB

              If you read the above comments I have made that DID NOT INCLUDE YOU
              I said that the name DOM REFECTS BDSM, tendencies. ( BDSM stands for Bondage, Domination, Sadism and Masochism: ), in case YOU madam have forgotten.

              I also said, that boots and bitches are FETISHES separate to themselves from BDSM.

              It is my understanding of the site rules that neither BDSM nor Fetish may be permitted in the main rooms.

              If you want to insert yourself in the middle, go right ahead, I do welcome all view points.

              I expressed MY viewpoint as there is a double standard regarding names that site patrons want to use vs what the mods and regs are allowed to do. I have observed that those particular groups run roughshod over site rules without consequence.

              You madam do not know me. You madam attacked me and seem to be thinking for me in your comments.

              You, madam, are, stirring the drama pot, and, according to site rules are out of order.


            • @Anonomyous –

              It is my understanding of the site rules that neither BDSM nor Fetish may be permitted in the main rooms.

              This is close, but not exact. Hopefully the additional info here: will clear that up. This is not a double standard, only a lack of thorough understanding.

            • Don’t be silly, disagreeing with your viewpoint is not “attacking” you. I am pointing out that DOM is an acronym, not meaning “dominant” and that bitch, and boots is not BDSM, and I’d argue, not completely a fetish by themselves.

          • Ok, anonymous,
            Help me understand the context of your statement “is that not also against site chat rules”?. Are trying to limit what and how BGB can say in the blog? If so, the site CHAT rules do NOT apply to the blog. This is a public forum and anyone can comment about any post on the blog.

            And. I have to admit, be real careful with pointing fingers at others when it comes to drama. There are 3 pointing right back at you.

            And, finally, ANYONE IS WELCOME to comment on the blog. So, please try to understand the context of a blog and do not confuse the blog with the chat rules.

            As for DOM, it is an acronym that was not even brought up by him. Over time, it just happened. And, you raising this as an issue of violation of names? That is a real reach and shows a total lack of understanding. Have you ever seen Distinguished Older Man log in as DOM? I sure haven’t.

            Maybe you would be happier if we could censor what users call each other? Maybe we would need to censor anything with anonymous in it?

            • @@@@Wow Mr. Big Tex. I feel you are personally attacking me Big Time. If you had properly read my comments I reflected the site rules with balance.@@@@

              Arguments / Drama / Flame wars, fanning

              We prefer that arguments not be ongoing drama in the lobby. If you disagree with another user, agree to disagree and do not fill up the chat window with flame wars, or fan the flames either. Use the ignore / block button to silence someone who is typing what you don’t want to hear. People who continually argue, or continue to attempt to entice others in arguing can and will be banned from the site.
              There is some grey area here with screen names – help!
              Names like these should only be in a bdsm or forced sex type of room (not in lobby, les room, ffr, etc)

              Brutal Dom
              Punishing Sluts
              Not all topics are allowed in the main lobbies. For this reason we have created several niche rooms, and users have the option to create their own room. If you want to take part in such discussions simply click the green arrow and door icon door-icon at the top of the chat area to change to your desired fantasy room. (See info above about taboo terms and edge play discussions and screen
              @@@@Once again. Dom IS a bdsm term, and I have always thought that from day one when I was on site. I am quite sure that other ppl share my opinion.

              I invite all drama mongers including you big tex to voice their opinions.@@@@


              Impersonating any user is strictly prohibited and will get you permanently banned from using this chat system.

              Sometimes people are kicked to this page by one of our chat room moderators as a way to force people to read the rules. In most cases these “temporary kicks” will auto-expire in 10 minutes, or a few hours. This gives people a chance to read the rules and understand that they have been warned

              We have an active community of regular users, also known as regs, here on our site who are usually friendly and helpful. If you’re new here, take some time to get to know the regs and the moderators.
              Many times our moderators will warn and or educate a user before they are kicked / banned – but this is not always the case, there is no rule that moderator must warn before kicking a user who is breaking the rules
              @@@@ I am now aware that major players on site thought I was impersonating some user who harassed people in the past, I was NEVER once asked who I was . The first time I was banned, there was no warning, no rule breaking. I was simply there and a Mod (who is no longer a mod) chose to ban me for personal reasons.

              In addition, No mods , including You Mr Tex, ever kicked me to the rules page until 7 month later, or helped me as to what these site rules were.

              I am aware of the behind the scenes drama flaming by Mods and regs in regards to my situation. All mis informed, all venomous towards myself. I know I had some supporters who saw through the thick veneer of hate towards me. I am grateful for that.

              I reacted strongly to the drama and hate directed towards me. I truly had no idea why it was there.

              Mods and regs who attacked me personally or chose not to help me should be ashamed.

              Mods and regs who believe their own drama, follow their own rules, and present their opinions as fact are mouthpieces that make Nash’s life difficult.

              I have noticed, bad behaviours have been allowed to continue.


            • @anonymous – in response to

              one last time, as far as your opinion about the screen names some mods use – just answered here:

              “thought I was impersonating some user who harassed people in the past” – this was researched, yet was not the cause of anything.

              “No mods , including You Mr Tex, ever kicked me to the rules page until 7 month later, or helped me as to what these site rules were. ” – this is irrelevant.

              “I have noticed, bad behaviours have been allowed to continue.” – Since you have been banned from our chat rooms, this should be of no more concern to you.

    • @anonomyous – Some BDSM type names are allowed in the main rooms with any user, not just moderators. It is not a clear black and white “all bdsm or fetish names are disallowed” – there is much for to it than that. Here is some info from the content guidelines and some QnA about this with other users:

      – from the content guidelines page – under “update Jan 30″

      “Black man” asked about niche fetishes like interracial that have some crossover appeal answer here.

      User “LOL” asked “People’s nicknames are being rejected on a room-to-room basis. If their nickname doesn’t match what the room is for, they’re being booted out, regardless if they’re in that room for that fetish or not” – Answer with an examples (including names “MasterMike” and “MasterRapeYourWorthlessblahblah” here.

      examples were updated, including :
      Abusive, forced sex, humiliation or rape like names or discussions are not allowed in the main rooms such as the lobby, and is only allowed in the forced sex fantasy room, a user created room, or perhaps the BDSM room, if others there at the time do not find offense to the discussion.

      There is some grey area here with screen names – help!
      Names like these should only be in a bdsm or forced sex type of room (not in lobby, les room, ffr, etc)

      Brutal Dom
      Punishing Sluts
      kick my balls
      Sadistic Master
      degrade me please
      brutal daddy
      Blonde Torturer
      Virgin wants to be abused
      Treat you like meat
      Abusive Husband
      piece of shit whore for dom m
      Ram your cunt

      Names like these may be okay in the lobby type rooms, but if your open discussions, or unasked for pms included taboo terms, then you may be kicked or banned.

      slaveboyslave here for use
      A vicious Man
      Deeply Depraved Master
      Bondage Bitch
      Sick Fucking Pervert

      added to rules page 1-30-2015: If you send private messages to people that include edge play / taboo terms and they did not ask for those types of message, you may be permanently banned from the system.

      Does this all make sense?

      • yes Nash it does make perfect sense. What does not make sense is the continued banning/booting of members for using similar names to the ones that the moderators/regs utilize. That is the double standard to which I am referring to. Again mods and regs have one set of rules, the rest, another.
        That was my point.

        Regards :)

      • hmm
        “thought I was impersonating some user who harassed people in the past” – this was researched, yet was not the cause of anything.
        “No mods , including You Mr Tex, ever kicked me to the rules page until 7 month later, or helped me as to what these site rules were. ” – this is irrelevant
        “I have noticed, bad behaviours have been allowed to continue.” – Since you have been banned from our chat rooms, this should be of no more concern to you

        It is interesting what points you have chosen to respond to Nash.

        The drama mongering, banning of newbies , the tight circle of Mods and Regs that dictate your site rules as they see fit and not as they are written will continue.

        It is easy to dismiss contrary opinions as irrelevant. It is easy to listen to unhappy Mods and take their opinions as factual, rather than look at the entire picture . It is easy to allow seasoned Mods and regs to run roughshod over newbies they do not like.

        It takes courage to embrace the reality of a situation, and , not take the easy route.


        :) Anonomyous.

        • @ Anonomyous. – drama mongering is against the rules. Banning of newer users does occur, and that is usually do to ignorance of our policies. It is not a tight circle of mods or regs that dictate the rules of this site. The rules of this site have developed over years with input from a diverse community of people, and with changes that adapt to issues that occur. We are quite transparent about the rules, and very transparent about issues that arise with the moderators, as well as regular users, and newer people. Given that we offer open discussions for the users, I think that is more than obvious.

          I do not dismiss your opinions, or those of others. Like I said you are entitled to your opinion, I have taken the time to consider your thoughts on recent comments and past issues. It is not easy to weigh the view point of others, yet I do my best to consider all angles. It is not easy to listen to unhappy mods, or users, and I never take any mods opinions as factual, yet I do hope they are honest with how they see things. When there appears to be a discrepency I look at chat logs that others send, and consider more than just the “facts” as they are typed, but also how others may perceive things. Sometimes we make adjustments, and often times things are simply misunderstood.

          It does not matter if mods like or dislike new users, the rules are the same, and the procedures for calling out inappropriate mod actions is open to all. However in 99.9% of the issues that people have raised, it is someone who has broken rules and decides to try to blame personal attacks and how someone dislikes them instead of admitting to mistakes they have made themselves.

          There has been plenty of reality around here over the years, and those that have been around a long while know that we do not take the easy route.

          • Nash:

            Initially, this all started, with ONE mod who DID NOT follow the rules. My identity was mistaken, I was booted for personal reasons, multiple times, by this particular Mod.

            This Mod did not like me, I suffered the consequences of this person’s personal agenda.

            This ONE mod to stirred up the drama pot against me. I am aware that this person recruited other Mods, and yes, regs in a smear campaign towards me.

            It would not have mattered what I did.


            :) Anonomyous

  10. I was kicked from the site, by Distinguished Older Male, for the following.; He said my Screename did not fit the guidelines, when in fact it does not violate your guidelines for screenames. HE said because my name had minster in it, it was a violation. However ,your own rules do not say it is unacceptable. Your rules however do state no religious or political conversation in public rooms. I never engaged in any religious or political conversation in public rooms. I have used a variety of spellings to accommodate him on different occasions and he continues to target me. I am asking you take his moderator rights for bullying. He kicked me out after confronting him on the issue after he contacted me. I told him it did not violate the rules and then asked if another spelling would violate it and he kicked me out. I am asking to have my ban lifted

    • Horny Minster – there has been some discussion about this issue within the mods private area recently. It was brought to our attention that Minster is synonymous with church stuff ( ), and so it is not an allowed screen name either. I understand this is one of the edge cases, but it’s not the first one. There are also some people’s real names that are not allowed for the same thing.

      I am glad you are aware of our rules about religious discussions in the main rooms, and I would like to point out that this also includes being in one of the main rooms, like the lobby, and pming multiple people asking about priest role play, or other taboo terms. It’s not just the open room discussions that could be an issue. Another rule is being nice to the moderators, and taking any kind of disagreements out of the chat rooms, and preferably here to the mod complaints page when arguments involve the moderators. Saying things like “I think you are a fucking asshole who likes pushing people around” – is not likely to get you additional education about our policies and what you can do to engage in certain discussions within the system and without violating the rules.

  11. I was in a private one2one chat with someone and then without any warning I got kicked???? that was about 7 hours ago. I’ve no idea why so I’ve tried to get online now and I’m still banned???? why????????????

    • BrutalFuckDom – which room were you in? I see there was a kick / temp ban placed, but nothing in the notes. I can research this further, to see, but my first thought is that your screen name would not be allowed in certain rooms – you can read more about our content guidelines here, and scroll down to the nickname / screen name guidelines on the rules page for additional information.

      • I was in the family rp room and in a private chat and then suddenly without any warning I’m kicked????? can you clear this ban now please????

        • BrutalDuckDom – I will check with the moderator you placed this kick / ban. This may take a day or two to get details. However as I mentioned in the comment before, you should familiarize yourself with our content guidelines and screen name guidelines. If I had to bet, I would bet that you were kicked to the rules page in order to realize that your screen name should not be in the fam room, a screen name like you have chosen is likely only going to be allowed in the forced sex room, or one of the bdsm rooms, or a user created side room. There could be other issues that I am not yet aware of, I will check.

          I will not clear this ban right now, it is set to auto-release in 57 minutes. Information about that is also posted on the rules page and the kicked / banned from the chat rooms page.

          • ok thats fine I will change my user name but can you explain to me why a temporary ban for a breach of user name rules should last nearly 7 hours please????? And why have I not been warned beforehand??? as I would have changed my name??????

            • Moderators have a lot of discretion when it comes to how long a ban should be. What the thinking was in your case I can only not even begin to guess. Sometimes initial kicks are only a few minutes, sometimes an hour or more. Depending on the surrounding issues it would be fine kick an inappropriate name for 10 minutes, 10 hours, or even set as a permanent ban. There are many other factors that play beyond just what the name is or what room they are in.

              A 7 hour ban normally forces users to read up on the rules and or get educated through asking questions in the comments area. A 10 minute kick is often not enough to get people to really understand the rules it seems. Would you have learned the reasons for your kick and the other rules if the kick was set to auto-expire in an hour? It seems to me that you needed 6 hours before taking the time to learn what the issue was. So the time varies from person to person, and that is without considering other factors that could be in play. If users are talking in the main room and not responding to mods, extreme names, all kinds of things can come into play here.

              I am not sure if you were warned or not, as I said before I have no info from the other side of this at this time. It is quite possible that moderators tried to educate you in the main room and even via pm.. and you could have misssed those messages if you were in a private pm window. Of course the mods don’t need to warn anyone about anything – as it seems in more cases than not a kick to the rules page is often the best education for people, as they tend to either ignore warnings, or want to argue points in the main rooms, which is also against the rules. So being forced to the rules page is often times the best thing for everyone involved.

              Again, I don’t have all the details, and there are a multitude of other factors that are not being considered / discussed, but I hope these tidbits of info answer your latest questions.

          • ok I’ve seen your last reply and as you haven’t given me the option to reply indicates you wish to end the discussion. Fine with me but all I would suggest is if you or the moderators wish to educate users, then perhaps a more effective approach would be to indicate that unless a user name or whatever offending comment isn’t changed or modified, a lengthy ban would applied. Thanks very much for your helpful and prompt replies.

            kind regards

            • @BrutalFuckDom – The reply thing is a limit of the system in general it limits “threaded replies” to about 5 or so to keep formatting from going too crazy on smaller screens, so it is not an intentional thing set for replies to you specifically, or the lack of desire to continue or to end a conversation. Sorry about the confusion with that.

              I appreciate your suggestion, I think in general most times the moderators do let users know that they need to change a screen name or room, and point to the rules that are posted about such things. There may be times when there are time constraints that prevent that, or a different issue that causes a faster kick… however I think in most cases warnings and education is given, most of the time it’s the users who don’t see the messages in the lobby, or the pms that are sent, or users that do not know what a “screen name has been warned” comes across that screen that is the issue. This is something that we are working on with our newer chat systems.

              Again I don’t have any details from the other side to know if warnings were given, if they were sent in the main room, if pms were sent or not, or anything. It could also be that you or someone else using the same or similar screen name has been warned for this issue in the past, and therefor it was assumed that you had been educated about it already (one of the bonuses, or sometimes problems of not having registered screen names in the OC here). There could be other factors as well.

            • ok I fully understand and appreciate all of what you say, but my acute irritation is that there are people in here that apply “moderate” rules to people who come to this site to be anything but moderate. People wish to act out their wildest dirtiest fantasies in a safe environment not only for themselves but for others. This chat site and many others, just like hard porn sites, allows for sexual gratification of the most extreme kind ensuring all parties benefit from that gratification with no physical or mental harm being done to anyone. My disappointment comes from the fact that your “moderators” appear to apply “normal” standards of behaviour to people who come to such sites to be anything but “normal”, discounting the obvious perverts and pedophiles who have no place here and can easily be recognised and banned.

            • I have only seen this thread just today. Sorry about the notes Nash. I have warned Brutal Fuck Dom on several occasions, over several weeks, and sent him the link to the new rules, etc. He continues to go back to the FFR room and the Lobby with this name.
              So not only was the user educated, he was also warned many times , system warned , frozen, kicked for 10 minutes, an hour and then 6 hours as he continued to be in the FFR room. Last kick there was no warning. This is after all the verbal reminders each time he chose to come back in the room. I refrained from kicking him from the room for the first month after the rule changes to help people get used to the changes. All other requests, education , links, did not seem to impact the user’s use of the appropriately themed rooms. As far as the pedophiles , users seem to complain about them, but they do not report to the moderators or send chat logs so they can be banned from the site and moderators do not see private messages so the “obvious” users are not as clear as some people think. As a moderator, I follow the guidelines set for the mods by the site for banning anyone who is on our site to request any real, pretend, fantasy , ageplay, roleplay for any age under 18 yo, including sending out room messages when there may be users who are looking for these types of chat. At one point I had sent pm, system warning, and then a quick kick, only for the user to come right back in with some additional letters in his name.

            • Nash I can confirm what FW said having warned BrutalFuckDom at least 4-5 times myself over the past months

          • I ahve the same prob. someone named “bitch inBoots’ which is as offensive a word as any—telling ME I cannot enter a room (NOTHING wrong said) simply because SHE doesnt like the sound of my name???? Hey is this 1940 Germany ?

            • @VerbalAbuser – If you think “Bitch in Boots” is as offensive as any other name / words – wow. Perhaps you are living in the 40’s.
              You should actually be thankful that anyone with any name was kind enough to spend time instructing you about our content guidelines. However I have seen enough of these back and forth things with you to know that you have not chosen to be thankful, and instead become quite combative with our moderators, and our rules.

              For this reason you are permanently and forever banned from using our services. If you think about trying to enter our chat rooms again, please read and understand the information here on your permanent ban notice.

              When someone is banned from using our services, additional privacy addendums kick in if they choose to return without being expressly given written permission from the admins. I would like you to thoroughly understand these issues.

              Personally I don’t think bitch in boots likes or dislikes your chosen screen name. I do think that bitch in boots and our other moderators do their best to educate people about our posted rules and content guidelines, which you were in violation of on multiple occasions. If you think our rules are reminiscent of some repressive time or country, then by all means please do not use our repressive chat systems.

  12. Curious why I was banned just now.

    • 17F in a screen name is against the rules. IF there was anything else that led to the ban, I do not know at this time. Ban is permanent. This is your permanent ban notice.

      • my name said 17f? are you sure? it should have been 42 BI REDHEAD BBW MOM 19M/18F

        Was it checked? Are you sure? Because no one messaged me in the chat to change it or anyting, so I have no reason not to believe it was 19m/18f like it should have been / would be if I typed it correctly.

      • I replied, but it seems my reply was deleted. I think there was a mix up and it was a typo fault. It should have been 19M/18F in the name. No one contacted me in the chat so I never even took notice of it, and suddenly I’m banned.

  13. New Chat is still down. how much longer? lots of people are missing it. and thank you for sorting out what happened in Flashy Chat

    • We had a hiccup with the new chat migration, taking the next step of the process tomorrow I think. I will know more tomorrow.

      We got the mv-chat back up and running with some upgrades, and will be enhancing it more this week as well.

      • any ETA on when NC will be back up?

        • posted a note about it here earlier.. actually I think it is one comment below this one, in this same “thread”.

          • oops sorry didn’t see it. thanks.
            with the emotions there are on NC can we possibly have a Devil and Angel emotion?
            hopefully it won’t be long till its up

            • Still working to get the files transferred. I have gotten some apologies for the transfer taking so long… but it’s not done yet. Still working on it!
              Not sure about customizing the emotes with the NC – I have done quite a bit of customizing with the mv-chat. Once this is re-setup I may look into this.

            • @Becky Jones – we have made some progress with the new chat. Testing some things now. No public ETA yet. Maybe tonight.. we’ll see.

    • update on the new chat down thing.. we have started transferring data from our old web server to the next one. This will likely take about 24 hours. Then hopefully within the next 24 hours we will be testing to make sure things are working. Working with partners in different time zones is a challenge sometimes – sigh. If there are issues with the testing it could take longer, we’ll see.

  14. I have been reading these comments for some time now. The same name always appears when complaints are given. That one name is fine wine aka bitch in boots. I decided to see for myself if she actually does have a finger on the trigger. She does, she tries to impose her will wherever she goes, with her I know everything you know nothing style. Quite honestly after she leaves a room I have pmed many and found that she is the most detested admin you have on here. Some have even stated it in the open. There are a few that will defend her, this is only based on the fact that if they kiss her ass, they are safe. Who in their right mind would create a name like bitch in boots. I guess it gives her the dirty harry feel when she is taking delight in booting anyone who opposes her. Should a mod not be reprimanded, people know if they say one word to oppose her they are gone. Granted you have rules and they should be followed, but when you have a saddam hussein type of mod it’s just a question of time before people leave your site. As for the ones who kiss her ass, I don’t care what you think, you’re in the minority here when it comes to the immense dislike of said mod. People enjoy your site Nash, most follow the rules. As in life an law there are good people and bad ones there mods and bad ones, this one is bad. I’m sorry but this needed to be said on behalf of those who may face her wrath in the future. Some deserving, most not.


  15. ok, was told I’d be kicked yet again for the #2 in my sn, even though I added words to the end of my sn which changes it. Once again, the number in my sn does not signify age in any way, it is not suggestive of age in any manner. Other admins/mods have seen me in here w/my sn or a variation of it, but apparently (f)inewine/Bitch in Boots has a problem w/it.

    • fxyrx2 – I don’t have any details about this at this moment. I assume there is more to the story, I will see what the mods have noted.

      • Nash, she added something to her name that had nothing to do with the number in it. I asked her to change it or leave as I did not want to have another issue in the room . Unfortunately, I really don’t think she fully understands how other people use the numbers in their names to denote something other than age. The easy ones are m4f, or chat2day.

  16. I was banned without a warning by Pete. o:

    • RainyDanger – Banned without warning? That certainly happens. Have you read all the rules?
      By Pete? Not sure about that, I guess it’s a possibility. So what is your complaint?

    • sorry to bother Nash
      was in family room forgot i had my caps on
      mod said turn off
      i said sorry turned off immediately and look up and was kicked
      caps arent kick able it was a oops sorry
      mod should have a one warning two then kick if i was not complying

  17. when will NC be back up on 28th of March or before then?
    also i have been kicked out of Flashy Chat for no reason. as AppleGirl said in her comments.

    • Becky Jones – my best guess for the new chat being back up and running is… March 6th – if all goes as planned. I had anticipated about 12 hours of down time for the upgrade, but some strange things happened. Hopefully we can move things faster, I will know more about the issue tomorrow.

      The problems with unwarranted kicks in the flashy chat are being worked on as well. I apologize about the kicks there, I had no idea that a new setting in our mobile version allowed this unusual situation to occur. I am more than a little pissed about the whole thing there.

  18. Kick/ban is cleared – I have re-read everything…could have been a “word filter”…I’ll watch for that in the future. I’ll also check email if you need to notify/discuss anything. Thank you.

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