Moderator Complaints

Have a complaint about one of the chat room moderators? Or forums moderators?

If you want to make a complaint about one of the moderators, you can email the site admins; jmes and nash read the emails sent to adultwebmasteronline atthe yahoo dot com – if you ask that your information be kept private between you want the site admins, when you email, then it will be.

You can also submit a comment in the form below, and you can choose to use your real screen name or just type anonymous. All replies made here on this page will be first sent to moderation by the site admin, “Nash”, unless you have already posted a comment (and had that comment approved) somewhere else on the blog. If you already had another comment “approved” on one of the blog pages, then your comment left below in the reply field will be posted immediately, and all the world will be able to see your comment, and the name you have typed into the name box.

Only the site admin “Nash” will be able to see the email addy  you enter into the field below, and your associated ip addy. This info is to keep spammers out of the comments, and provides a way to show gravatars or globally recognized avatars next to your comments.

You could type in a fake email addy – just know that our auto-spam reduction system may auto-delete certain messages (comments that have lots of links or talk about erectile dysfunction drugs, etc).

More about the mods

Every one of our chat rooms mods has volunteered to help make the chat room a better place. They are taking time out of play time to help the room and everyone in it experience a happy neutral place to enjoy mature conversations. Every one of our mods has read a very detailed set of “mod rules” – and we constantly discuss with each other things that come up, and what to do in edgy situations. Every single one of us is prone to make a mistake once in a while, and some of the mods may interpret the rules in harsher way than others, and act accordingly.

It is a very tough job to defend free speech, even when you are not a fan of some of the things that other people way want to express. Every day we are put in situations when personally we’d like to just kick and ban someone for being an idiot, rude, or taking their conversations to the edge of indecency. We constantly deal with spammers, mean people, user complaints, chat bots, and all kinds of ridiculous things, the last thing we need is someone who comes into the room, breaks a small rule, and then gets all bent out of shape about being asked to comply.

I have had users that made small mistakes end up causing big disruptions for the room. If you message me and say, “hey I only used all caps twice, I shouldn’t be permanently banned for that, your mod is abusing me just to make his or her friends happy, blah blah blah.” You know what probably happened? Most likely a small mistake was made, you were asked to stop, and the came back with an attitude problem. Now as moderators, we are used to that to some degree, and we know what it’s like, heck, most of us have been on the other side of the coin. But it’s the ensuing drama that generally gets people kicked or banned.

I back up our mods decisions most of the time. I do not expect to get the whole story from you or anyone else, if you message me about a problem, I will listen, but don’t think that I am going to believe that you have the whole story. This is a free service, if you don’t like the way it is moderated, if you don’t want to play by the simple rules, then don’t, you can always go chat somewhere else. You don’t have to use our site.

Also realize that with text chat it may be easy for me to read something and take it a different way than it was intended. The same goes the other way. I might ask something and in my mind I am saying it politely, but you might read the text and thing that I am coming off mean or demanding. Every day all over the world, through chat rooms, text messages, pms, emails, people are reading (hearing) things one way, when the intention (writing) was meant another way. It happens. Even with the “LOLs” and smiley faces we all use, it is really easy to take something the wrong way on all sides of a text conversation.

Understand that every moderator is taking time away from their play time to help the community here, and please understand it is a mostly a thankless (and unpaid / volunteer) job, and we deal with many people who don’t know all the rules. We also deal with all kinds of crap behind the scenes that you will hopefully never have to worry about. Respect the mods, play well with others, and have fun. Be glad you get to chat away and don’t have to deal with all the other crap.

A note about user created chat rooms, room operators and mods

If you enter a user created chat room, there may be a username in purple, and that user will have the some of the abilities of a site moderator, including the ability to kick you from their chat room. User created room mods do not necessarily have to follow the rules and guidelines that are established for our official site admins and moderators. If a user created room mod decides to kick you for whatever reason, please do not complain to the site admins, as we do not have any control over user created room moderators. Our official site admins and moderators may choose to enter user created rooms on occasion, and their names may appear normal, in red, yellow, purple or simply be invisible. As outlined on our privacy policy, site admins and moderators may on occasion also enter password protected rooms as well. We highly suggest you read and understand the privacy policy information, and check for updates when you use our site.

This page will be updated, have more info to post on other subjects! comment or email away of you have any complaints.




  1. i was banned last night 11;oopm est mod was big tex why?
    i am recovering from a stroke and come in the chat room for a distraction
    i meet new friends and my days pass faster. please let me back in

    om on est


    • newka – perhaps you should read all the info posted on the kicked / banned from the chat rooms page. Once you understand everything there – it would be easier to engage in whatever conversation about mods, or policies, or what have you.
      Notes about your kick say “drama bs” – which makes me think you have not understood our rules about fanning the flames or drama. Could be more, but I don’t usually get too detailed unless someone is set for a permanent ban.

      • Newka, this is why us mods advise the block button, if all parties use it problem solved, and the mods can concentrate on the more serious stuff. There is really no reason not to use it.

  2. ladylikes™✿TallOne(m)™s lady✿

    We could need a moderator in lobby right now

  3. thanks Mikey and Nash I went to google it works great

  4. Hi, Clarissa K has been harassing Buffy Summers for three weeks, Buffy said she talked to bikerdad about it, well since then Clarissa K has gone over board with it, and saying stuff about Buffy and I have chat logs saved on what Clarissa K has said thank you….

  5. why do my posts only show up a few times, then it will not let me post anything else? I’m not rude to anyone? Please help

  6. Hello again folks i was banned a few days ago and i was wanting to check if i was still banned. I am curious as the page it sent me to was simply to check the rules and it lasted longer than 24 hours. What i did was brought up something religious in the Family Room and when asked to stop i did, but i think i stopped in a way that made it seem i was still going on. thank you for reading it over

    • @Syx – thank you for writing in about this. I need to check a little deeper into this and will get back to ya as soon as possible.

      • no problem, i did not mean any harm and would like things cleared up

        • okay Syx – looks like you were told about the rules and yet continued a bit like you said. Then one of our moderators gave you a 1 hour ban, which sends you to the rules page and keeps you in “time-out” for an hour. These types of bans auto-expire / auto-clear – so you should be okay to use the chat rooms again now. Please be aware of all of the rules and realize that it’s rare to get kicked to the rules page more than once without the ban becoming permanent.

          • Thank you for checking but oddly enough the ban lasted longer than an hour as i check the next day after taking a nap, but it is alright i will try to keep my stupitity in check to the main room release it to only the idiots who pm me that i do not know 😛 .have a good one nash

      • if it helps i just checked trying to get in and i managed to log into the website, so it might have been a long timer. I was told to expect that if it goes past 25 hours it perma but as it stands it seems i can log in freely. Thank you for reading this Nash.

  7. Apparently im still banned for over 20+ hours after posting a link to my image in a private chat three times after the first two didnt work, it gave me a warning that i might be kicked; but yah not banned. So i figured id just rejoin if it did, since i usually post links like this all the time. It was konachan originally then i re-uploaded it to postimage. Look into it? Thanks.

  8. Mr. Nash why can’t I post no matter what room I go in I cannot post people talk 2 me but I cannot answer them somebody is blocking me from posting why?

    • Mikey, try changing the browser you use to see if that works, if you use Internet Explorer I would change to Firefox or chrome.

    • @mikey4u – as Mikey mentioned try a different web browser (most common solution for this semi common problem) – you could also try a different page on our site, this is mentioned on the chat connections problems / solutions page, among several other possible solutions. Things like this can be caused by a web browser plugin, your internet connection, sometimes even just how your home network is setup (many who use that “network through your electricity plugs instead of cat5 cable have issues) – and several other possibilities.

  9. Mr Nash, thanks i’m back in Thank you Hope it stays this way

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