Moderator Complaints

Have a complaint about one of the chat room moderators? Or forums moderators?

If you want to make a complaint about one of the moderators, you can email the site admins; jmes and nash read the emails sent to adultwebmasteronline atthe yahoo dot com - if you ask that your information be kept private between you want the site admins, when you email, then it will be.

You can also submit a comment in the form below, and you can choose to use your real screen name or just type anonymous. All replies made here on this page will be first sent to moderation by the site admin, "Nash", unless you have already posted a comment (and had that comment approved) somewhere else on the blog. If you already had another comment "approved" on one of the blog pages, then your comment left below in the reply field will be posted immediately, and all the world will be able to see your comment, and the name you have typed into the name box.

Only the site admin "Nash" will be able to see the email addy  you enter into the field below, and your associated ip addy. This info is to keep spammers out of the comments, and provides a way to show gravatars or globally recognized avatars next to your comments.

You could type in a fake email addy - just know that our auto-spam reduction system may auto-delete certain messages (comments that have lots of links or talk about erectile dysfunction drugs, etc).

More about the mods

Every one of our chat rooms mods has volunteered to help make the chat room a better place. They are taking time out of play time to help the room and everyone in it experience a happy neutral place to enjoy mature conversations. Every one of our mods has read a very detailed set of "mod rules" - and we constantly discuss with each other things that come up, and what to do in edgy situations. Every single one of us is prone to make a mistake once in a while, and some of the mods may interpret the rules in harsher way than others, and act accordingly.

It is a very tough job to defend free speech, even when you are not a fan of some of the things that other people way want to express. Every day we are put in situations when personally we'd like to just kick and ban someone for being an idiot, rude, or taking their conversations to the edge of indecency. We constantly deal with spammers, mean people, user complaints, chat bots, and all kinds of ridiculous things, the last thing we need is someone who comes into the room, breaks a small rule, and then gets all bent out of shape about being asked to comply.

I have had users that made small mistakes end up causing big disruptions for the room. If you message me and say, "hey I only used all caps twice, I shouldn't be permanently banned for that, your mod is abusing me just to make his or her friends happy, blah blah blah." You know what probably happened? Most likely a small mistake was made, you were asked to stop, and the came back with an attitude problem. Now as moderators, we are used to that to some degree, and we know what it's like, heck, most of us have been on the other side of the coin. But it's the ensuing drama that generally gets people kicked or banned.

I back up our mods decisions most of the time. I do not expect to get the whole story from you or anyone else, if you message me about a problem, I will listen, but don't think that I am going to believe that you have the whole story. This is a free service, if you don't like the way it is moderated, if you don't want to play by the simple rules, then don't, you can always go chat somewhere else. You don't have to use our site.

Also realize that with text chat it may be easy for me to read something and take it a different way than it was intended. The same goes the other way. I might ask something and in my mind I am saying it politely, but you might read the text and thing that I am coming off mean or demanding. Every day all over the world, through chat rooms, text messages, pms, emails, people are reading (hearing) things one way, when the intention (writing) was meant another way. It happens. Even with the "LOLs" and smiley faces we all use, it is really easy to take something the wrong way on all sides of a text conversation.

Understand that every moderator is taking time away from their play time to help the community here, and please understand it is a mostly a thankless (and unpaid / volunteer) job, and we deal with many people who don't know all the rules. We also deal with all kinds of crap behind the scenes that you will hopefully never have to worry about. Respect the mods, play well with others, and have fun. Be glad you get to chat away and don't have to deal with all the other crap.

A note about user created chat rooms, room operators and mods

If you enter a user created chat room, there may be a username in purple, and that user will have the some of the abilities of a site moderator, including the ability to kick you from their chat room. User created room mods do not necessarily have to follow the rules and guidelines that are established for our official site admins and moderators. If a user created room mod decides to kick you for whatever reason, please do not complain to the site admins, as we do not have any control over user created room moderators. Our official site admins and moderators may choose to enter user created rooms on occasion, and their names may appear normal, in red, yellow, purple or simply be invisible. As outlined on our privacy policy, site admins and moderators may on occasion also enter password protected rooms as well. We highly suggest you read and understand the privacy policy information, and check for updates when you use our site.

This page will be updated, have more info to post on other subjects! comment or email away of you have any complaints.




  1. i m really really sorry
    plz allow me
    plz one chance me

  2. Well. What can I say. I have never felt more singled out and discriminated against in all my years as a user here. Every single user that says something that is “deemed inappropriate,” gets a warning, a freeze, or simply a telling off in PM from the moderators. Yet tonight, I made a comment, and yes, although I used some strong language, it was not in any way threatening or a direct insult to anyone or anything. The context was as plain as anything, given the banter that I have with the individual my comment was directed at.
    Now considering my language may have been harsh, I can understand that perhaps it warranted a warning. Yet (F)ine Wine, or Bitch in Boots, (whatever name she chooses to use.. Surely mods should have one name only when they are working for the sake of accountability…) decided to kick me. No warning, no freeze, no PM.. Nothing.
    I view this as a personal attack against me. I have debated complaining about her before, for example, not responding to repeated requests in PM warning about the prescence of underage people in the room, a prediliction for kicking people for simply having a difference of opinion without having a reasonable, adult discussion. But I have, until now, decided to keep my thoughts to myself, hold my tongue, to “block her” so to speak. Yet Now I find myself directly on the receiving end of her unwarranted attacks.
    She has made no secret of the fact that she finds me disagreeable, yet, how are we as chat users supposed to respect a moderator that has no willingness to uphold the rules of the site equally, to all, old regs or new chatters.
    All I ask is that my IP is unblocked and I am permitted to re enter the site, so I can chat with the people there that do consider me a friend. I don’t cause trouble. I don’t start fights. I may be loud and rambunctious, but surely that’s one of the things that makes the chat room fun.
    Yours, as always, the room clown,
    Irish Steve xx

    • @Irish Steve – glad you chose to take complaints here rather than mucking things up in the chat room.

      You said “my language may have been harsh, I can understand that perhaps it warranted a warning” – I’m not sure exactly what was said, and sometimes it is a tough decision as to what warrants a kick or a warning or a permanent ban. I can say that I have seen plenty of statements from you and a few others that made me think real hard whether those statements deserved a kick or warning. I believe there have been many times in which statements have been made that could of gone either way.

      The problem I see with warning someone like you that has pushed things to an edge a time or two, or two hundred… thousand maybe.. is that it gets tiring, and at some point just not worth the debate. People who have been around enough to be warned a few times should take heed of the info posted on the “challenge to regs” – to take the time to realize that statements they make can be seen / taken / understood / misunderstood by other people in the rooms in different ways. At some point we have to decide that warning people and trying to educate them about this is not working, and they need a time our from the chat to refresh about our rules and policies.

      You ask that your ip be unblocked – and it will be in about 4 hours, automatically. You were not banned from the chat system permanently, but kicked to the rules page with an auto-expiring ban time out. I think that is a reasonable solution to the problem that occurred. I’d like to ask you to re-consider how many of the things you choose to say in the chat room are likely misunderstood by others, and if you have an “inside joke” with someone, perhaps it’s best to keep that in pm where the context may be understood.

      At some point we have to decide that people who repeatedly come off as combative in the chat rooms have taken up too much time with warnings and are their way out permanently. I am sure that you are quite aware of how other people have taken some of your comments in the rooms in the past, you are aware of how to pm someone who want to engage in a type of conversation that may not be taken well in the main room, you are aware that you can create your own side room and spout off things without worrying how they are going to affect others in the main lobby as well. So it’s not like you are a bran new user who deserves a warning and some education about our policies each time something comes out that was as your say “context was as plain as anything, given the banter that I have with the individual my comment was directed at.”

      So this is not a personal attack in the general sense of the term, although this recent kick was certainly intended for you specifically, and a temporary, auto-expiring kick is indeed another means that we use to present a warning.

      • You see, Stevie, the site is not for you, or any other chatter, you are rather uncessary, the site is for those who run the site and support that to muck around and have fun with it, it’s all a doodle, a joke at your benefit and that’s what makes it oh so funny, damn I LOVE THIS Place

  3. i would like to know if theres any i can get back on the site

  4. Mesh AKA OneToRemember, OneTwoRemember

    Admin Nash,

    Earlier this evening, I got into a heated debate while using the name “OneToRemember” with several other chatters. Several moderators were present and decided that things had become disruptive. Official warnings were given to all participants. However, immediately after receiving a warning, I was not only kicked, but banned by the moderator DistinguishedOlderMale™, though I’d done nothing to further aggravate the situation. This seems like an abuse of power, and not in accordance with the guidelines you have posted for your moderators.

    Further, after regaining entry to the room by switching devices with the name “OneTwoRemember”, I messaged DistinguishedOlderMale™ to ask about why I was kicked/banned, as I was previously advised to do in this situation by the moderator BigTex. I did not post anything in the public chat, and only PMed moderators, yet DistinguishedOlderMale™ banned me again. I was banned before I could save any of that conversation, though the gist of his reasoning was that he banned me for “earlier” actions. In that case, why wasn’t I formally warned earlier?

    After entering the chat once more with the name “Mesh” and PMing DistinguishedOlderMale™, instead of banning me again, he simply refused to answer my questions after advising that I should “take it to the complaints page,” hence the post. I was able to save that conversation, which can be found below. Feel free to verify with your own logs.

    – saved on Mon Jun 22 2015 22:16:15 GMT-0500 (Central Standard Time) –

    Mesh So anyway, BigTex told me that if I have concerns with a moderator, I should PM them about it.

    Mesh I did that, and yet you banned me again.

    Mesh What’s your issue?

    DistinguishedOlderMale™: excuse me

    Mesh I’m sorry?

    DistinguishedOlderMale™: what are you on about

    Mesh Just now. You banned me for “coming back.” Though I said nothing in the public chat, and only spoke to moderators about the issue at hand.

    Mesh Which is supposedly how it’s supposed to be done.

    Mesh Except you banned me again.

    DistinguishedOlderMale™: but not while you are under a ban

    Mesh Ahuh.

    Mesh You don’t see a Catch-22 there?

    DistinguishedOlderMale™: im not discussing this further

    Mesh Especially when *you* (wrongfully) put me under the ban?

    Mesh Isn’t it your job to discuss it?

    Mesh Isn’t this literally your purpose in being a moderator?

    Mesh How am I supposed to talk to a moderator about it, when a moderator has banned me? Banned me right after warning me when I didn’t do anything to further agitate?

    Mesh Is that the way you’re supposed to do it?

    DistinguishedOlderMale™: take it to the complaints page

    Mesh I just want you to answer my question.

    Mesh Is that how it’s supposed to work?

    DistinguishedOlderMale™ joined the room.

    Mesh And I can’t seem to find any other moderator online.

    DistinguishedOlderMale™ left the room. (Logged out)

    User is not connected.

    DistinguishedOlderMale™ joined the room.

    Mesh And I can’t seem to find any other moderator online.

    DistinguishedOlderMale™ left the room. (Logged out)

    Warning! You may be kicked for inactivity.

    • @Mesh AKA OneToRemember – thank you for bringing this situation to the mod complaints page.

      I do not have all the details of the initial interactions to comment concisely, but I will throw some thoughts out on this.

      You are saying several back and forth arguing, or debating ensued in one of the rooms – a statement was made to drop it, and people were kicked / banned. This sounds close to our guidelines – I guess it depends on the timing more than anything. IF people were warned and then kicks came within 10 seconds, certainly that is something that we should work on with how the moderating gets done. If a statement was made to drop it and then 60 seconds went by, I think some people would say that was plenty of time, as to where I could see where some people would not have enough to time to digest what was going on. Would 2 minutes be enough? In some cases I would say most should come into line with stated rules in that time – some people may be slower for various reasons.

      Either way excessive arguing is against the rules, and certainly it would be find to not even warn for this sometimes and just kick people from the chat to the rules page.

      You say you were also banned – but I don’t see how you would know that or not. People will generally not have any idea if they have been kicked or banned until 24 hours, 60 seconds after they were kicked out. These things are explained on the kicked / banned page, along with other useful information. People are instructed there to wait twenty four hours before inquiring about a ban, to read the rules and understand them. People are informed about our terms of service there which explicitly tells people that if you use a method to return to the chat rooms and your ban has not been officially lifted, then you are violating additional rules.

      So I do understand the mods telling you they are not going to discuss the issue with you in the chat rooms, as we have developed other places to deal with this things, and although your intention may be to return to discuss the issue and to learn how to not run afoul of our kicking and banning in the future, perhaps to also make it known that you felt you were kicked too fast – or whatever, in our experience when someone is kicked from the chat for an amount of time and returns in less time than was previously set in the system, then they are not only breaking additional rules, they are setting up a situation that we may need to take much more seriously. In some of these cases in the past we have had to go all out on larger ip blocks, contacting ISPs with abuse reports and all kinds of additional things.

      I hope you can see that even if you thought “I didn’t do anything to further agitate?” – that from our side of the glass it did indeed appear that for a couple of reasons, even if that was not your intent.

      Anyhow, I will discuss this recent issue with the mod team. Without having all the details I think there are some things we could do better, and adjust a couple of things.

      I had some other thoughts on this, but I gotta run for now. In the meantime mesh, understand that is a timed ban was placed against you for 24 hours, then you should not use a work around method to return to the chat until that timeout has expired, or me or one of the mods have expressly told you that something has been cleared in advance and permission has been granted to re-access either her in the comments, or via admin emails.

      • Mesh AKA OneToRemember, OneTwoRemember

        Admin Nash,

        I should have read the information on kicks/bans more thoroughly. I was previously told by a moderator that most kicks for minor infractions last for only five minutes or so. With that in mind, I simply waited for a few minutes before attempting to access the site.

        Please understand that I wasn’t intending to circumvent the block for malicious reasons, to cause disruptions, drama, or any other nonsense. In fact, given that I did break the rules, I do understand if you find it necessary to issue a permanent ban (I now know what the official notice for that looks like). I do hope that you will take into consideration that my only goal was to acquire additional information with which to log my complaint. I am aware that oftentimes emotions color memory, and I wanted to be as transparent and honest with my complaint as possible, and moderators have access to all the logs; I do not. Iit would have been very easy for me to mistakenly say something that wasn’t true and have my credibility called into question because of it.

        If it matters, the kick did come within approximately ten seconds of the warning, in which case, why bother warning? I get that moderators aren’t required to warn at all, but if they’re going to use it and then immediately kick, it seems like less a tool and more a means for some moderators to justify being heavy-handed. “Well, you were warned first….” No mention that the warning was completely meaningless.

        Anyway, thank you for your prompt and reasonable reply to my complaint. I appreciate your time.

  5. I watched as bikerdad allowed an obviously underage post in the pornroom be posted. A few weeks later Curare (F) came in and started harassing someone for posting a pic that looked iffy from a legit teen website. I told her about what bikerdad did and said that you need to be more consistent. She told me a bunch of dramatic stuff said she “doubts it was the case” and to “stand down”. So I told her in private that I it the case and is she’s calling me a liar then so be it. Then she kicked me… lol too funny. She kicked me because I told her a mod was OK with underage pics and that I didn’t mind if she didn’t believe me. Seriously, you need to be more consistent and she needs to get off her high horse… after all she’s just a volunteer at a sex chat room. Moreover, bikerdad should probably pay attention to what’s going on in the room. I don’t care if you don’t discipline your admin it’s your prerogative… but you should be aware that they are not doing their job’s correctly or consistently. I don’t think Curare (F) is a bad person, but she’s definitely on a powertrip and I think when she’s having a bad day she takes it out on people, because she can get away with it. Just fyi.

    • @whatever – of course there is controversy with pics that people share and what some people consider to be artistic renditions of youthful models who are over 18, and other people may see those pics as being “obviously under..” – however I don’t think many pictures are truly obvious – I’ve seen too many tricky things done with photoshop, tricky lighting, makeup, etc. Sometimes mods make mistakes, sometimes they don’t see something. Sometime mods don’t have time to research one thing while they are investigating another.

      I am sorry that you feel that things are not consistent – we try, but sometime there is much going on behind the scenes that others are not aware of – and it can appear that one thing is happening when they are unaware of others. I am also sorry that you took comments from one of the moderators as being harsh – I can’t really attest to the situation as I was not there. I would guess some comments went back and forth between you and another mod in which neither side was being overly nice about things. We try to have that not happen, but sometimes it does.

      Getting kicked from the room is generally a way to let someone know they have crossed a line and sends them to the rules page where they can learn some of the lines, and our preferred methods for discussing complaints about our policies or procedures. Coming to this page is preferable to making accusations in the chat rooms for example.

      Anyhow I appreciate your thoughts on these issues. It’s something that we pay attention to.

      • Nash,

        I have emailed you the complete log. Another user was cautioned that one of his links looked “iffy” on age, and was provided with the link to the content guidelines page. The complaining user actually became somewhat confrontational, butting into the conversation and creating drama where none existed. For that, he was given a generic kick – which apparently meant ‘I’ was on a ‘power trip.’

        The user I had been addressing, was totally fine and rather appreciative of my assistance.

        • I figured there was more sides to the story. There are also many more details I could point out, our content guidelines, the fact that mods have certain procedures they must follow, and more. The average visitor does not take into account so many things that have to be done, and the amount of time it takes. So many more details could be added to this complaint, but short on time today!

          • Nash

            hmm It is my personal experience that things are not dealt with consistently with your moderators.

            My mistaken identity, drama spewing by particular mods, and my being kicked for absolutely no cause, other than a certain mod’s personal agenda.

            Hmmm yep. sounds consistent to me.

            Anonomyous One. :)

            • @Anonymous One – your personal experience is yours, and your rose colored glasses make your own spew smell like roses, or become invisible to your own mind its seems. Your particular situation has already been discussed at length, and there is no need to bring it up again.

              Whether you were kicked for good reason, or slightly not so good reason, or no reason is of little concern considering that your final ban from our chat rooms was 100% certainly for a reason in which you were personally notified of well in advance, and you decided to take it upon yourself to violate that.

              Quite frankly I do not care if something sounds consistent to you or not – you are no longer a part of this community.

              Good day.

              and good riddance.

            • oh my Nash it now sounds quite personal…….

              it is not only I that is a witness to your one sided enforcement or non enforcement of the rules.

              I see examples every day, and members of your community do indeed talk to me outside of your chat rooms.

              I am not a pedo or worse.

              I simply said thank you to the wrong mod.

              Frankly, there are better sites out there than yours my dear.

              Aonmyous One.

            • @anonymous one – this is not personal, you keep trying to add fuel to flames in which have nothing to do with you. so you keep coming back here and trying add YOUR personal issues into current situations.

              Obviously it is not only you who feels that things are at time one sided. That should be obvious to the entire world when they see the comments here and on the other pages. We leave these public comments for exactly that kind of transparency. Ninety-Nine percent of the time when someone claims something is one sided, they project their feelings without complete knowledge of the other five sides of what was going on at the time. Ninety percent people also leave out the details about what they were doing in a particular situation as well.

              This recent discussion in which started this comment thread – there were many things left out. I have seen some of the chat logs of the events, and it was obvious to me that for one, the person complaining was not aware of our rules – or decided not to follow them in an attempt to try to railroad his/her opinion down another’s situation. This person was kicked (And not perma-banned) – as a way to diffuse the situation in the room, and give them a time out to learn the rules here, and to take their opinions to the proper places. Secondly they were completely oblivious to what others were doing in pm, and things were handled exactly as they should of been – no need for some random third party to try to jump in. There was also no need to inform this third party or the rest of the room about the pm discussions that were going on. The situation was handled exactly according to our policies and procedures.

              I find it strange that you find examples of anything from this community every day, as you are not a part of it any longer, you say you have found a better chat place to hang out, so please spend all of your time there. There is no need for you to look for drama here.

              Anonymous one – I really don’t care what you are. I have stayed out of the drama surrounding you ever since it began, 99% of it was none of my business.

              “I simply said thank you to the wrong mod” – if that’s how you want to look at the situation it’s fine with me.

              As far as you coming to the comments here and jumping on every comment that someone else posts and trying to add in “yeah me too, I think this place is not fair, I too was unjustly” – give it a break. Your statements from the past are still in the old comments history, and for anyone who wants to look at what things happened so long ago they are welcome to. Your most recent add-on discussions have nothing to do with how things currently are, and you keep bringing up stuff that has to do with people who are not even moderating these days. You have not been allowed to be in our chat rooms for a long time, and so there is nothing you can add to newer discussions.

              So you can please stop coming here, and please do not post any more comments here anonymous one.

            • Anonomyous One.


          • I still love this place, perhaps more than ever!! Get up the great work!

  6. why is my isp banned

  7. I just watched Bitch In Boots abuse her moderator power to full extent. After a user had told her he would NOT argue with her, she continued to post a previous comment made to support her argument, thus perpetuating the argument herself and after one more comment regarding her doing so by the user, she kicked him out. I commented and told her it was unfair and she immediately froze me. While frozen, she commented by saying “take it to the bullshit and complaints page.”

    Another user than chimed in by simply saying she would comment on the moderating but she’s afraid she would be kicked. She was than immediately kicked by Bitch In Boots.

    Users shouldn’t be afraid to say things. Users also shouldn’t be lured into arguments and poked at like Bitch In Boots clearly did to the user she kicked first.

    Terrible that you allow this on your site. I don’t look forward to your defending statements. There is no excuse for this. It is abuse of moderator power. End of story.

    I’ll never return to this site and I will continue to tell others never to come here because the moderating is hypocritical and unfair.

    • Amber – if you have a chat log of this situation please send it to me at the email addy posted above. We do ask that people do not argue with the mods or make disparaging comments about the moderators or the rules / policies in the main room, and instead take them to the questions / feedback / mod complaints pages, so as to not create a hostile environment in the rooms. Many times people are confused about what is really happening, and the main chat rooms are not the best place to have these discussions. So people should not be afraid to make their concerns known, they just need to make sure they are brought about in the appropriate place.

      • In order to save a chat log, one would need to think they were going to have a reason to save the log. There was no reason for the kicks. So, no reason to save the log. Conveniently for her, she gets away with the abuse, like always. A log wouldn’t matter, anyway. Mods and Admins defend one another’s abuse until the end.

        The fact you mention “we do ask that people do not argue with the mods or make disparaging comments” is quite humorous in this situation. It was, in fact, the moderator who argued with the user and made disparaging comments, by re-posting his/her initial comment in order to ‘prove her point’ after the user had state that he/her would not argue. It was the moderator who made the environment hostile. But nothing will happen. It’s already been swept under the rug. Just like every other abusive action by a moderator is.

        Take care.

  8. Pervy Ohio HS Girl 18

    I signed in went to the restroom came back and was banned, I do not understand this could you please explain how I got banned while I went to the Restroom.

    • Pervy Ohio – there are many reasons you could be banned when away from your keyboard / computer. When you are banned from the chat room (or kicked) you are sent to the kicked / banned from the chat rooms page. This has a list of rules and other information. Most people find the answers right there. I was not in the room at the time, so I don’t know for sure why you may have been booted. If I had to guess, I would think that perhaps you had a screen name that was controversial, and a moderator tried to pm chat with you to ask questions about your age, and to ask you get in line with our screen name guidelines. There are many other possibilities, but that would be my first guess.

      You should familiarize yourself with our rules, including the screen name guidelines, our content guidelines, and other policies if you’d like to use the services available here.

      • Nash , you were correct. I have spoken to this user previously about her name, and since she actually noted it correctly on this complaint page, looks like she is aware of the rules and would know why she was kicked.

  9. Nash,
    Earlier today one of the mods, (M)usicLover, over stepped themselves by kicking a couple of regular users without reasonable cause. A number of others agree with this which can be seen in a saved chat log I have. While there was some back and forth going on, (M)usicLover could have used more sensibility and personality to assuage the issue rather than the “power hungry” childish display they chose too invoke.

    If you would like to review the chat log please let me know and I’ll be more than happy to provide that file in PDF format.

    • @Anonymous – please do send the chat log you have to my email addy, which I think is posted up above. Thanks.

      • Heya folks,

        Regarding the kick of two regular users I did (And BTW Nash I too have the same chat logs) both were kicked for trolling the rooms and fighting as people were, we can’t enforce a block rule however in the rules it is stated that fighting is not permitted, as to calling people idiots the exact phase I use was “ok folks as I have asked twiced nicely if you all want to act like idiots and be in a fight I SUGGEST you go may a room”

        M)usicLover ok folks as I have asked twiced nicely if you all want to act like idiots and be in a fight I SUGGEST you go may (Make but my typing let me down) a room

        I did not call anyone an idiot, both reg users got booted for backchat in the open room.

        I was fielding complains in pm about peoples behavior, maybe a good point to post this

        As I am sure calling people retards and stupid as soon as there enter the room or maybe because their English is not up to high standard is also against site rules.

        “Arguments / Drama / Flame wars, fanning
        We prefer that arguments not be ongoing drama in the lobby. If you disagree with another user, agree to disagree and do not fill up the chat window with flame wars, or fan the flames either. Use the ignore / block button to silence someone who is typing what you don’t want to hear. People who continually argue, or continue to attempt to entice others in arguing can and will be banned from the site.”

        I am more then happy to send you the log Nash so you can look over, as I am always happy to get complains about me in the right place, being here and not in a open chatroom.


        • Prefers to not use SN

          IMO Mikey had just cause to do what he did.
          I was there during the whole incident. More often than not when I go in the ffr there is one person that can’t stop starting or being in arguements.
          if that person does not like what you say you will be called an retard. as well as other names. I am personally offended with anyone using retard. I complained about once to Fine Wine but not sure if anything was done.
          As far as Randall is concerned he went over the line. I even warned him in a PM to stop it or he will get kicked.
          Not sure what you can do about this one person in which I see arguing at least 85% of the time fighting etc. I am so tired of it as well as others I have chatted with today and in the past.

  10. The mod (M)usicLover just called the entire FFR idiots and is stopping people from having healthy discussions about anything claiming were fighting. He booted someone Randall57 for pointing out he called the entire room idiots. In my opinion this mod has new clue what he’s doing and should be removed. I saved the chatlog if youre interested

  11. dirty hard fuck

    nash, ok I am very disappointed to note that my simple oversight has resulted in me being banned permanently. Whilst I accept I have broken the rules, I do feel a total ban to be extremely harsh, considering some of the names and content I have seem have bordered and have actually been illegal. In the circumstances, perhaps you could reconsider your decision to ban me totally please.


  12. dirty hard fuck

    if so could you give me a detailed explanation thank you

  13. dirty hard fuck

    can i ask if I have been perma banned please?

  14. this site really needs new moderators in lesbian chat room very stuck up and do not give you a chance to explain yourself fairly

    • Hey, Justin,
      Can you help me better understand what your concern is here? Is it moderation in general or are you saying the lesbian room needs closer moderating or what? I would address the concern if I can better understand it.

  15. um why is New Chat down again?

    • i guess it must be a secret Becks….

      • @Becky & Lily – sorry ya’ll – I’ve been rushing back and forth to hospitals and crap trying to get things together for my brother – and keeping up the last couple weeks has been an avalanche or undone things. I will check on this tomorrow! If not, remind me after that!

        • thanks for letting me know Nash. i’ll remind you later
          i hope your brother is okay.

        • any idea when NC will be back up? you asked me to remind you.

          • @Becky – I just made a few adjustments… give it a try now and let me know if it’s working or not.

            • nope its not.

            • comes up with Database Error, Cannot connect to the database!

            • arg! Just saw that! Working on that now. It’s gonna take a bit, just woke up.

            • @Becky – Think I got the modules for this fixed now – give it another whirl – let me know if things are still broken.

            • so far everything is working. just need more people to know NC is back up. maybe shut down OC for 6 weeks to encourage them to check out NC. just a suggestion

            • @Becky Jones – thanks for the heads up. I still need some more tweaks to the NC, and it needs some more testing, not sure it will handle 100 people at a time right now or not. Also working on some tweaks for the mv-chat system, and more than likely that one will end up being the go to system when we put a pause on the OC – I am still trying to merge the features of NC that people have chimed in about into the MV system, with some other goodies. If there was any way to get the NC to work with mobile devices I might move in that direction instead, but have to work with what is possible at the moment. Also working on a newer system as well that gets into mobile apps and, well more on that another time.

            • sometimes the app Photon works. that allows users to come on NC or OC via using iphone or ipad or smartphones

          • ✰GoddessDivine✰

            I’m guessing he meant give him more than 24 hours, he has a lot on his plate. I’m sure he will let you know when he has it worked out or another mod will post and let you know. Patience is always appreciated :)

            • Becky, actually, when the OC was down in the past, many people did go to the NC. Very few actually stayed once the OC was back up and running as they preferred the basics of OC even though there were some features of NC that people liked.

  16. @ Goddess Divine:

    Lol. I make a complaint about a Mod, and I’m an attention seeker? Wow. So defensive. If you can’t handle a little criticism in an open forum like this, maybe this ain’t the best role for you.

    Just some food for thought.

  17. The First Anonomyous :)

    Very well said Anonomyous


    Of course there is an avalanche of evidence supporting that yes , Nash, you have subjective, mods with poor judgement.

    It has also been my experience that Mikey™ and Master Jedi Moose are the only ones that seem to have their brains attached to their computers.

    Yes, Nash, unfairness abides all around……Mods and regs and company have one set of rules. The rest of chatters…yet another. Some as in my case don’t even get the benefit of doubt as to who they are. And you as a site owner did not have the decency to ask me directly…you allowed biased (and now demoded) mods to dictate your actions. Way to go.

    Yes Nash, your site is a “little” site. and Yes Folks there are waaay better chat rooms out there on the net….you just have to find them :).

    Watching Avidly as my opinions / expressions get proven one by one…..

    Anonomyous …the first one that Nash is complaining about :)

  18. ladylikes™✿TallOne(m)™s lady✿

    Interesting conversations….. At least the posts are allowed to stay on the complaint site.
    Mine was deleted, cause it was not liked.

    Very interesting……

    I guess I am not allowed to post on here anymore. My comments are awaiting moderation – because I am such a bad person.


    • The First Anonomyous :)

      Lady likes:

      Despite everything, II do not view you as a bad person, and wish you well.

      Regards :)

      The first Anonomyous :)

      • ladylikes, I hope to one day get in contact w/u
        *hugs n kisses*
        u were always very kind to me, ty for that <3

      • ladylikes™✿TallOne(m)™s lady✿

        despite everything?


        • hey lady
          miss talking to you on OC. you are such a sweet person.
          i hope everything is well with you

          • ladylikes™✿TallOne(m)™s lady✿

            Dear Becky, thank you for missing me :)
            I have decided not to attend chat anymore, since my kindness was used to trample all over me…. I do have limits, too.

            I do, however, miss certain lovely people, like you. I wish you well, my dear :)

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