Moderator Complaints

Have a complaint about one of the chat room moderators? Or forums moderators?

If you want to make a complaint about one of the moderators, you can email the site admins; jmes and nash read the emails sent to adultwebmasteronline atthe yahoo dot com – if you ask that your information be kept private between you want the site admins, when you email, then it will be.

You can also submit a comment in the form below, and you can choose to use your real screen name or just type anonymous. All replies made here on this page will be first sent to moderation by the site admin, “Nash”, unless you have already posted a comment (and had that comment approved) somewhere else on the blog. If you already had another comment “approved” on one of the blog pages, then your comment left below in the reply field will be posted immediately, and all the world will be able to see your comment, and the name you have typed into the name box.

Only the site admin “Nash” will be able to see the email addy  you enter into the field below, and your associated ip addy. This info is to keep spammers out of the comments, and provides a way to show gravatars or globally recognized avatars next to your comments.

You could type in a fake email addy – just know that our auto-spam reduction system may auto-delete certain messages (comments that have lots of links or talk about erectile dysfunction drugs, etc).

More about the mods

Every one of our chat rooms mods has volunteered to help make the chat room a better place. They are taking time out of play time to help the room and everyone in it experience a happy neutral place to enjoy mature conversations. Every one of our mods has read a very detailed set of “mod rules” – and we constantly discuss with each other things that come up, and what to do in edgy situations. Every single one of us is prone to make a mistake once in a while, and some of the mods may interpret the rules in harsher way than others, and act accordingly.

It is a very tough job to defend free speech, even when you are not a fan of some of the things that other people way want to express. Every day we are put in situations when personally we’d like to just kick and ban someone for being an idiot, rude, or taking their conversations to the edge of indecency. We constantly deal with spammers, mean people, user complaints, chat bots, and all kinds of ridiculous things, the last thing we need is someone who comes into the room, breaks a small rule, and then gets all bent out of shape about being asked to comply.

I have had users that made small mistakes end up causing big disruptions for the room. If you message me and say, “hey I only used all caps twice, I shouldn’t be permanently banned for that, your mod is abusing me just to make his or her friends happy, blah blah blah.” You know what probably happened? Most likely a small mistake was made, you were asked to stop, and the came back with an attitude problem. Now as moderators, we are used to that to some degree, and we know what it’s like, heck, most of us have been on the other side of the coin. But it’s the ensuing drama that generally gets people kicked or banned.

I back up our mods decisions most of the time. I do not expect to get the whole story from you or anyone else, if you message me about a problem, I will listen, but don’t think that I am going to believe that you have the whole story. This is a free service, if you don’t like the way it is moderated, if you don’t want to play by the simple rules, then don’t, you can always go chat somewhere else. You don’t have to use our site.

Also realize that with text chat it may be easy for me to read something and take it a different way than it was intended. The same goes the other way. I might ask something and in my mind I am saying it politely, but you might read the text and thing that I am coming off mean or demanding. Every day all over the world, through chat rooms, text messages, pms, emails, people are reading (hearing) things one way, when the intention (writing) was meant another way. It happens. Even with the “LOLs” and smiley faces we all use, it is really easy to take something the wrong way on all sides of a text conversation.

Understand that every moderator is taking time away from their play time to help the community here, and please understand it is a mostly a thankless (and unpaid / volunteer) job, and we deal with many people who don’t know all the rules. We also deal with all kinds of crap behind the scenes that you will hopefully never have to worry about. Respect the mods, play well with others, and have fun. Be glad you get to chat away and don’t have to deal with all the other crap.

A note about user created chat rooms, room operators and mods

If you enter a user created chat room, there may be a username in purple, and that user will have the some of the abilities of a site moderator, including the ability to kick you from their chat room. User created room mods do not necessarily have to follow the rules and guidelines that are established for our official site admins and moderators. If a user created room mod decides to kick you for whatever reason, please do not complain to the site admins, as we do not have any control over user created room moderators. Our official site admins and moderators may choose to enter user created rooms on occasion, and their names may appear normal, in red, yellow, purple or simply be invisible. As outlined on our privacy policy, site admins and moderators may on occasion also enter password protected rooms as well. We highly suggest you read and understand the privacy policy information, and check for updates when you use our site.

This page will be updated, have more info to post on other subjects! comment or email away of you have any complaints.



  1. Not a complaint, but I would like to say that all of the mods do an amazing job. I’ve never had an issue with any of them, and on the one occasion I broke a rule ( I was double logged into the lobby) I was kicked for a couple of minutes, read the rules and apologized to the mod. My only real complaint would be the lack of a mod at certain times, which I understand as they have lives of their own. At times I’ve tried to educate other users of the rules, but sadly most users tend to ignore advice unless your name appears in red.

  2. Big Tex banned my IP address. Said I was trolling. I did nothing wrong. You can check the chat logs on that. Cutie and Fapington were going out of their way to insult me and make accusations because I brought some interesting conversation to the room that took attention from them. i was not trolling anyone and we were having a good chat bout girl names. The mods need to stop with the favoritism.

    • @Speghetti Letti – You say, that Tex said you were trolling – and you got your ip banned. You say you did nothing wrong, have you read all of our rules? It would be so easy to do several things wrong and not even know that you violated a rule we have on the content guidelines page, and this is even if you read all 3800 words on our rules page.

      I don’t know anything about people insulting you, I was not there. You say you brought some “interesting conversation to the room” – that sounds very subjective. I have seen over the years all kinds of “interesting subjects” brought to the room that had zero business being brought in – and I am sure that the people who were bringing those subjects thought they were awesome and it livened up the room. Just because you say you were having a good time does not mean that others in the room appreciated your words, or that they were in line with our rules. Again, I was not there, so I don’t know the specifics.

      You saying that the mods are playing with favoritism – that is a very strong accusation around here. I can look into this, but I would be disappointed to find that you were speaking without knowing the rules and our policies, and therefor not understanding why you were treated in whichever way.

    • Mods on here playing favourites with the Regs? Get outta here!!! LOL!!!

    • Same shit, different day. Ridiculous.

      • Oh? Ridiculous? Like how you and another reg were just talking about Snapchat in the Lobby? While Tex was there? Outside messenger service, no? Not a thing was said. If it was some random user, something would have been said. Double standards.

        • 1-That comment wasn’t toward you, nameless one. 2-We weren’t asking for it, we mentioned it. Tex is the first one to say something if we were breaking the rules, regs or not. Quit complaining and just enjoy the room 🙂

  3. nash, old computer crashed, i bought a new computer, it would not let me log in, i had to create a new account, i fucked up, i typed in my real name in stead of mikey4u, how can i change it to mikey4u? please help because nobody knows me as michael m*edited by admin* only as mikey4u

    • @mikey4u – I have no idea what you mean by adding a name to an account around here. We have about a half dozen places that you could put in a name. So unless you are very specific about what system or exactly what page you are referring to, I would have to go hunting around a dozen different places looking for clues – and I would easily miss some place where you added info. Sorry to hear about computer crashes – been there, many times. A good backup program is worth more than gold.

      • nash, new chat won’t let me in. as mikey4u. i registered for new chat along time ago. i wrote down my email address and pass word. then you ditched old chat n put in message that new chat would soon be gone. i threw my paper away with the email n password. i never had to ise it when i loged in. my computer crashed. i bought a new computer. when i tried to log in to new chat the system told me i had to create an account. i typed in my real name instead of mikey4u. now the system won’t let me change my name to mikey4u. the system keeps telling me my email address does not exist . do you see my problem. but if tekor does require registration, i can’t get in tekor. thats why i need my original email address and password. i will appreciate any help you can give me. firefox lets me in old chat, but not new chat as miket4u no problems there. chrome nor interner explorer will not. the sexchatsexchat site keeps telling me to create a new account but the site won’t accept my email address or password. mikey4u

        • @mikey4u – you can just create a new account in the ‘new chat’- easiest way to change your name there – I can’t do anything with old accounts in there.. I mean I could go in there and look up something, but I would only be able to send any info about the account to the email addy that is attached to it. I won’t go into any account, get details and send those details to a different email addy that is not attached to said account.

          Interesting to hear the issues with chrome and IE – browsers are getting really picky about running flash.. and the OC will forever be based on flash unfortunately. Glad to hear firefox is still working there for you.

          not sure what ” the sexchatsexchat site keeps telling me to create a new account but the site won’t accept my email address or password.” means – like.. the peeps section?

  4. Hey, I was just kicked by goddess divine from the lobby in Java Chat, I am not sure what Her problem is, She says She was confused and I asked Her why, She obviously needs some play time, She kicked Me from the Chat in the Lobby in the Old Chat and She kicked Pretty Blue Eyes……We did not say anything inappropriate, SHe should not be a moderator if she is going to kick people from Chat for absolutely no reason at all…..again, She is probably jealous because I wasn’t flirting with Her, and That’s HER problem…I been using this site for a while and never had an issue with a moderator before, I did not insult anyone, I did not bother anyone, Pretty Blue Eyes nor I had had bothered anyone….Obviously Goddess Divine has a personal has some kind of a personal issue, Maybe She’s just angry that She doesn’t get paid for being a Moderator, That’s not Our fault.

    • @hot4MMF(Bi-M) – Interesting that you are seeing things this way.

      When you say “not say anything inappropriate” – are you meaning in the main? What about in pms?

      Shall I assume that you have read and understand our rules and content guidelines?

      I’ll be happy to dig a little into this and see what other information is available.

    • @hot4MMF(Bi-M) – looking at the ban log, it appears that you were in violation of our rules about being double logged in to the same room. So it appears that you were either ignorant of our rules or just not following them. So I don’t think it was an issue with someone being jealous or having a lack of play time.

  5. Not sure yell remember me, wanted to come and say hi. Can’t get in, my tablet don’t support adobe flash player. =(

  6. nash, is this your site? it is being posted in new chat. http: //i I clicked on it there must have been 35 old regs there. If it is not you might want to stop it. thanks mikey4u

    • @mikey4u – no that sites not ours, I remember seeing it a couple of times. No big deal for people to go there, but it is inappropriate to post it in the main.

  7. I was kicked out for no reson

  8. i was in the mv chat yesterday morning and someone came in with an underage name and have yourself a maria little christmas told the person to change it. she answered questions and was nice and welcomed noobs. i thought she was a mod but she said she’s not. i wish more mods were like that. candysmooth and lunasilvermoon and scarlett vixxen are the same too but they’re not mods. godess is in the mv chat and she’s a mod but talks over everyone.

    • Thank you for saying such nice things. I really can’t speak for any of the mods, but from what I can tell, it’s a pretty taxing and rather thankless job. So for me, whenever I can be helpful as a reg, I’m certainly more than happy to do it. I think that does go for a lot of regs, because while many of us would never consider modding (you literally couldn’t pay me to do it), we do care about this place. We do want it to be what it was meant to be, which is fun, sexy, encouraging, and a safe space to let your freak flag fly.

      I also agree that there probably have been some issues in MV that could have been handled better, but it does take a special sort to mod in the first place. Some of the greater mods this place has seen are still on, like Finey, Mikey, Texy, and Moosey. Whatever the case, I’m sure everyone’s trying their best. 🙂

  9. nash, i don’t know what you did when new chat was down on friday afternoon but my screen is so bright now and the colors are so crisp, thank you. mikey4u

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