Kicked or banned from chat room?
Have you been kicked or banned from the chat room?
Well maybe you did something wrong, and maybe you didn’t. With so many rules in our terms of service and netiquette rules, it may be easy to break some of the rules, and not even know it. Everyone who uses the site is implying agreement to the terms, and is expected to follow the netiquette rules we have. There is also a chance that you have done nothing wrong, and were kicked by accident.
The chat rooms here get pretty busy, and when moderators click on the names to kick or ban, sometimes the list moves and we end up banning the wrong person. It happens, and if it has happened to you, we apologize, it’s the moving list, and once in a while it’s human error. More than likely the list moved in the process, and the wrong person got bumped. No need to freak out though, when that happens the ban is generally temporary, and you are not added to our forbidden access list. If you were on the forbidden access list, you wouldn’t be reading this post right now.
But what if you did something that was considered wrong and you didn’t know it was wrong? Well first I highly recommend that you read our terms of service, and definitely the netiquette policy. Double check everything there, and know what the rules are. Maybe you did something innocent and didn’t know that it violates our policies. Sometimes that happens, and if it has happened to you, send me comment below, and explain to me that you have read and understand the rules, and promise to play them here. I’ll consider the situation.
Please note – some of the rule infractions will cause permanent banning, and no promises or begging will get you unbanned ever. I’m not going to list all of the things that will make a ban stick forever, but just so you know, if you have posted web addresses to other commercial sites, asked people to webcam with you, asked for money, or played like you were no an adult, then you will be forever banned from the site. There are other things that people have done that have led to a permanent ban as well.
I have gotten a few emails from users who complain about a mod kicking them unfairly. I have people explain that they did nothing wrong, yada yada yada. People have told me that it’s unfair, and all kinds of stuff. People have asked me if we let the mods just kick people for no reason. We’ve gotten all kinds of questions about mods.
Here’s the deal with our chat room moderators. Every one of our chat rooms mods has volunteered to help make the chat room a better place. They are taking time out of play time to help the room and everyone in it experience a happy neutral place to enjoy mature conversations. Every one of our mods has read a very detailed set of “mod rules” – and we constantly discuss with each other things that come up, and what to do in edgy situations. Every single one of us is prone to make a mistake once in a while, and some of the mods may interpret the rules in harsher way than others, and act accordingly. Quite frankly, that’s fine with me.
It is a very tough job to defend free speech, even when you are not a fan of some of the things that other people way want to express. Every day we are put in situations when personally we’d like to just kick and ban someone for being an idiot, rude, or taking their conversations to the edge of indecency. We constantly deal with spammers, mean people, user complaints, chat bots, and all kinds of ridiculous things, the last thing we need is someone who comes into the room, breaks a small rule, and then gets all high and mighty about being asked to comply.
I have had users that made small mistakes end up causing big disruptions for the room. If you message me and say, hey I only used all caps twice, I shouldn’t be permanently banned for that, your mod is abusing me just to make his or her friends happy, blah blah blah. You know what probably happened? Most likely a small mistake was made, you were asked to stop, and the came back with an attitude problem. Now as moderators, hey we are used to that to some degree, and we know what it’s like, heck, most of us have been on the other side of the coin. In fact many of the mods were in a big chat room drama blowout as regular users at one time. But it’s the ensuing drama that generally gets people banned.
Sure, maybe you shouldn’t be permanently banned for making a small mistake, but disrupting the entire chat room with your whining and bitching and challenging the mods after the small infraction, well, who needs that? We don’t, our regular users don’t. And you will not win that war, so why even fight it.
I will back up our mods 100 percent. I do not expect to get the whole story from anyone, if you message me about a problem, heck I might listen, I might read it, but don’t think that I am going to believe that you have the whole story. Quite frankly, it’s a waste of my time to deal with complaints in the free chat room. If you were a paying member, then I might be compelled to look further into it. This is a free service in this chat room, if you don’t like the way it is moderated, if you don’t want to play by the simple rules, then don’t. You don’t have to use our site. I would rather have 50 regular users who all play well together, than have 5,000 members who ruin the experience for my favorite 50.
Also realize that with text chat it may be easy for me to read something and take it a different way than it was intended. The same goes the other way. I might ask something and in my mind I am saying it politely, but you might read the text and thing that I am coming off mean or demanding. Every day all over the worl, through chat rooms, text messages, pms, emails, people are reading (hearing) things one way, when the intention (writing) was meant another way. It happens. Even with the “LOLs” and smiley faces we all use, it is really easy to take something the wrong way on all sides of a text conversation.
I have been in the room and seen people say things like “Fuck you Maggie” – and was like, whoa – this guy is being kind of mean. Only to find out that Maggie and John have been friends for years, and when he said fuck you, he meant it in a joking, friendly, poking way. That’s just one example. It happens. So know that you may take something said the wrong way, and we will try to remember that users sometimes mean something one way even when it sounds another.
This rant is getting long, I hope I have made the points to help a majority of the users who would otherwise be trying to find my email addy vent about unfair treatment.
Please read the netiquette rules, it only takes a couple minutes. Please ask questions in the comments section if you are unclear about anything, and we will work to clarify. Please understand that every moderator is taking time away from their play time to help the community here, and please understand it is a thankless job, with many people who don’t even bother to read the rules. We also deal with all kinds of crap behind the scenes that you will hopefully never have to worry about. Respect the mods, play well with others, and have fun. Be glad you get to chat away and don’t have to deal with all the other crap.
Your comments are welcome in the comment box below.
This post was written while ranting in my head, it may not yet be complete, and certainly will get some editing and changes in the future. I hope it answers some questions, but it will probably be updated to answer more in the future.
Thank You for supporting the MODS
My address keeps getting banned have no idea why
y does my adress get banned? i dunno wat i did wrong
hey i have been kicked. i don’t know the reason. please tell me how to rejoin. i was idle for 45 minutes, once i back it shows that u r kicked. please tell me how to reenter.
i will be thankful.
You will need to refresh the page – Either refresh, or reload the page. You can also just surf to another web page on the web site, like the home page, and then return back to the free java chat room page, and it should reload just fine if you have been kicked for being idle too long / inactivity.
scmin thanks for your kind reply. i did it but it doesn’t work. it shows ‘Please wait for the java applet to load’ every time i reload the page.
what to do now? tell me please.
how to pvt????
Don’t know why I got banned, maybe because I put username babydoll but thats what my bf calls me and we wanted to go on together. Then I tried with Desi-Ann my real name but still got banned. Can I please get back on I’ll only use my real name I promise.
dear admin,
i didnt know incest stuff is not allowed. i just entered a room called incest for fun…and within 5 seconds this incest-mod came and banned me.
unban me please, dude.
WTF i got banned for using my name RPwithme(18~F) WTH is this about thats allowed from what i understand so plz unban me Fascat the mod is totally ban and kick happy
when ever i try and go on, it tells me “RealChat Client requires a Java Compatible web browser to run. Please visit our Java support page for details.Please wait for the java applet to load.”But i already have it downloaded, and i restarted it like 7 times. How do i fix it?????
Sammy – I am not sure why you are having any trouble with java – could you post what browser you are using? Internet Explorer? IE8? Firefox 3.5? Chrome?
Could you have a firewall issue (like norton 260, zonealarm, outpost, etc. ) running that could prevent a java connection to the chat room?
Some kind of porn filtering software on your computer or network?
my address has been banned. i just askd the user (big tex) that y r u bannimg all. he said no reason. i again askd y r u dng this. he just banned me. i really dint do any mistake r wrong
How about the mods try to show the users some courtesy? Like many others here, I find that a certain power-happy mod is getting more than a little above himself. Instead of kicking and banning someone for daring to use the word ‘Girl’ in their name, how about issuing a warning like *all* the other mods do?
A little common courtesy goes a long way. You can’t expect respect if you don’t give it yourself. A simple explanation and request to change the name is more than sufficient. Going on a power trip doesn’t do anyone any favours.
I got banned and I do not know why. I have never done anything wrong on this site and would like my address to not be banned.
I am banned from entering the chat.I dont know why.I have read the terms and conditions. I promise I follow them.I kindly request you to permit me.
Hi, I got banned for asking people to cam. I hold my hands up to this. Alas, I hadn’t read the T+Cs – who honestly can say they have?! Now I know I obviously won’t do it again. Please let me reaccess the site – i’ve had some great times on here chatting to some very exciting folk and it would be a shame to never be allowed back in. Please accept my apologies and reasses this decision. Please! I’m ever so sorry and will keep it within the T+Cs in future (that I have now rwad!)
Regards
Colin
Sorry, I typed in the wrong email. This is the correct one.
Thanks
Colin
hi i do not know how i got banned
Hey,
It seems that I have somehow gotten banned by error. I was not warned, or kicked and left the site as normal and now find myself unable to log in and getting a ban error.So I got banned somehow,when I wasn’t even on the site.
I’m looking forward to a speedy resolution to this issue.
Thanks
Hi, I have been banned for using the service, i dont believe I have broken the rules. i was able to log on last time i tryed but not this time. can you please look into this matter email me thank you
i got banned for no reason it just kicked me out and now says im banned i hope that you will correct this error
im nt sure why im been banner…i was not warned..then?? i look forward to your speedy reply
I got banned for suggesting a neat site that showed a juggler who juggles to a song!!!!!!!!!!! Don’t bother to ‘reinstate’ me. i came to chat and have fun. i never broke any of your rules. tell Tim hi and that I am sorry that giving a great site was so wrong.
Well sorry about that Barb. Technically posting urls to other sites is against the rules, although we usually don’t freak out about a youtube video or something. We mainly have the rule to keep people from posting links to spam sex sites or competing adult sites. Perhaps it looked kind of spammy when you posted it. Either way, you should be un-banned now.
hello,
sorry to bother you, but i am not sure why i got banned from this website…i stepped away from the cpu for 15 minutes and then when i went back, and tried to send a message, it said that i was banned in the message…i refreshed..and the same message again…
could you please help to unban me? i dont know what i did wrong…? thanks for your help ahead of time.
Don’t know what I did ???????????
I have been ban but i dun know why
i was in a private chat and suddenly i was logged out… it said ur url is banned.
pls help
Probably got kicked because you have the numbers 16 in your name. Some people will think that number indicates that you are not an adult over the age of 18 – and we do not encourage that type of discussion here. I suggest you never log in with a number less than 18 in your name. I was not in the chat room at the time, so I do not know if anything may of triggered your getting kicked out at the time or not.
i have been banned for some reason and i dont know y?
how long will i be banned if it was done by accident?
cheers
tom