Rules and Etiquette

By participating in this chat service, users acknowledge that they have a basic knowledge of, and agree to the site’s Terms of Service and Privacy Policies, and the following rules.

In addition to the rules posted here, there are content guidelines that need to be followed as well.

No one under 18, or pretending to be under the age of 18 years, is allowed to use this site. If you are aware of a user who is not 18 or older you need to alert the moderator(s).

Asking another person to pretend that they are less than 18 years old is not allowed.

Talking about sex involving anyone who is not 18 or older, even when reminiscing about your college sex days, or your first sexual experiences (if someone involved was not yet 18) is not allowed.

Impersonating any user is strictly prohibited and will get you permanently banned from using this chat system.

Hate speech, religious topics, and political conversations are not permitted in the public rooms. If you want to discuss such topics you may create another room.

Examples:

  • Government Leaders
  • Current wars
  • Racism
  • Attacking any Faith
  • Promoting any religion

Important additional information about racial jokes, ethnic statements and hate speech here.

Phone numbers, social networking pages (Facebook, Myspace, etc), messenger IDs (yahoo, msn, aim, gtalk, skype, meebo, etc), and email addresses are not allowed in the public chat areas.

Example:

  • Call me 555-5555
  • add me on — fake.email@not.real.net
  • here’s my profile www.myspace-facbook.com/profile/
  • my im / yahoo / msn id! Hot/f /22/earth imma.scammer

Do not promote commercial or affiliated products, services, websites, or other chat system.

Example:

  • a millionaire met her at fakedatingonline.com. You don’t have to be rich to join!
  • Check out instant-hard-brand for a bigger dick!
  • Come here and chat! Fakechat.com 8 girls to every guy!!

Links to YouTube and Espn.com are allowed to be posted sparingly.
About posting links to other places, please see: Let’s limit the links posted peeps!

No flooding the room with the same comment over and over again.

Example:

  • Hey ladies Im a guy wanna chat?
  • >Hey ladies Im a guy wanna chat?
  • > Hey ladies Im a guy wanna chat? Hey ladies Im a guy wanna chat? Hey ladies Im a guy wanna chat?
  • Moderator: User5951, please do not flood the room.
  • Hey ladies Im a guy wanna chat? Hey ladies Im a guy wanna chat? Hey ladies Im a guy wanna chat?

ALL CAPS – No continual use of complete capitol letters is allowed, unless they are used sparingly. Usage of ALL CAPITOL LETTERS is considered to be YELLING in the online world.

Example:

  • HI EVERY ONE I AM HORNY PLEASE CHAT WITH ME!!!!
  • User6903 has been warned by Moderator
  • Moderator: User6903, please ease up on the caps.
  • I LOVE MY CAPS!!!! I WILL ALWAYS USE THEM!
  • >YAY FOR CAPS!!!!

English Only
The main system rooms (The lobby, lesbian action, group sex room, etc.) – are English language only. If you want to chat in a different language, you can do so via pm in the main rooms, or better yet, create your own “side room” or user created chat room and you can use a different language there.

Kill, mame, cutting, snuff, etc

Maming, self mutilation, cutting, killing, dolcet, snuff, and crap like that – now banned completely, system wide.

Posting pics / videos (or links to media) of anyone who is not 18 or older is not permitted here.
This includes pics where there is no hardcore penetration or nudity.

Posting links to pics, videos, or to web sites where the age of majority is difficult to discern, or they fall below Nash’s trust rank of 80 is also not allowed.

Parasite Sites / Collections / Out of Context Sexualization
Sites that collect and sexualize in ways that were not intended by those that were in the photos / videos. (even non-nude sites!)

If you choose to post pics, or links to pics / videos – click here to read these content guidelines to determine if the media / web site fall below our trust rank.

Arguments / Drama / Flame wars, fanning

We prefer that arguments not be ongoing drama in the lobby. If you disagree with another user, agree to disagree and do not fill up the chat window with flame wars, or fan the flames either. Use the ignore / block button to silence someone who is typing what you don’t want to hear. People who continually argue, or continue to attempt to entice others in arguing can and will be banned from the site.

Be Defensive!

If there is a user who is talking about something that you do not want to hear or is continually pming you after you have asked them to stop, simply click their name on the list of users (participants panel) and select ‘Block User’ – you will not be able to see any of their comments for the rest of your login time. (It’s the magical “poof! They are gone button, otherwise known as the iggy button)

More important info

Harassing other users, a group of users, or the moderators is grounds for being kicked, banned, and or prosecuted. This has been a part of the terms of service since the site was started. I am re-mentioning it here to bring your attention to it, additional info is found on our terms of use page. There are serious issues with not only being kicked from the chat room, but also in us recording and giving up your personally identifying information in cases of harassment in some cases.

Harass – (from webster’s dictionary online) (1) : to annoy persistently (2) : to create an unpleasant or hostile situation for especially by uninvited and unwelcome verbal or physical conduct

harassment (from http://legal-dictionary.thefreedictionary.com/harassment ) (either harris-meant or huh-rass-meant) n. the act of systematic and/or continued unwanted and annoying actions of one party or a group, including threats and demands. The purposes may vary, including racial prejudice, personal malice, an attempt to force someone to quit a job or grant sexual favors, apply illegal pressure to collect a bill, or merely gain sadistic pleasure from making someone fearful or anxious. Such activities may be the basis for a lawsuit if due to discrimination based on race or sex, a violation on the statutory limitations on collection agencies, involve revenge by an ex-spouse, or be shown to be a form of blackmail (“I’ll stop bothering you, if you’ll go to bed with me”). The victim may file a petition for a “stay away” (restraining) order, intended to prevent contact by the offensive party. A systematic pattern of harassment by an employee against another worker may subject the employer to a lawsuit for failure to protect the worker. (See: harass, sexual harassment)

GFA Clause

If you are generally fucking annoying, you may be kicked or banned. This includes all kinds of things, and may mean different things to different people, but if for example you just type some gibberish, or try to make fun of the rules, or push the limits, or just post some stupid you tube links, or do anything else that annoys the group or one of the moderators you can and will be kicked under the GFA clause.

Although certain terms, languages, screen names and discussions may be tolerated in the overall chat system, they may not be allowed in the main lobby, and some terms are only permitted in certain “system standard chat rooms”.

Check out the other rooms for niche discussions.
If you want to take part in such discussions simply click the green arrow and door icon door-icon at the top of the chat area to change to your desired fantasy room.

Edge-play / taboo terms

Terms that are not well accepted in the mainstream world are not allowed to be in the lobby. Certain discussions that may be tolerated in one room may be reason for a kick or ban in another room as well.

If you send private messages to people that include edge play / taboo terms and they did not ask for those types of message, you may be permanently banned from the system.

Examples:

Abusive, forced sex, humiliation or rape like names or discussions are not allowed in the main rooms such as the lobby, and are only allowed in the forced sex fantasy room, a user created room, or perhaps the BDSM room, if others there at the time do not find offense to the discussion.

Any type of incest type of discussion is not permitted in any of the system created rooms aside from the family fun room.

Golden showers and the like are only permitted in the squirting room, or a user create room.

Coming into the Lesbian action room with a dick avatar, screen name that includes references to male genitalia or talking about dick / cock in the open room or via unwanted pms, will get you kicked or banned from the system. Same applies to anyone who would come into the gay / bisexual men chat room and start talking about female anatomy graphically and in the open room. This includes fictional names and terms like futa.

Some terms are not allowed in any of the main system rooms, however people may choose to create their own room for certain taboo or niche discussions that are not “out right system-wide banned”.

There are too many niche and fetish things to list here, but be aware that if you have a screen name, or engage in a discussion, or use an avatar that a majority of people in the chat room you are in find offensive, you should create your own room, or you may be asked to change, or be kicked / banned. Not all topics beyond sexual fantasies (politics, religion, etc) are permitted in the lobbies. If you and another person or a group would like to discuss a topic that is not allowed in the lobby, you may take your conversation to private messaging or create a new room.

Some Content Questions and Answers

I see a lot of niche fetishes in some of the main system rooms, are these discussions or screen names supposed to be in the lobby or fam fun room?
Should FUTA names and RP / discussions be allowed in the Fam Fun Room, or the lesbian room?
Futa should be in the ts/tg room – I don’t see many situations in which futa would be related to fam stuff…
Futa should not be in the lesbian chat room, as the name is associated with imagery of a cock.

beasty costume play should not be in the fam room, or most other system standard rooms.. perhaps a random roleplay room needs to be made..

k9 – should not be in any of the main system rooms – sideroom only

Why do we allow some stuff in the chat system that are considered gross? Info posted long ago about edge play / taboo subjects is posted here.

More clarifications will be added here as specific things are brought up.

Nickname Guidelines

Many users include their age-sex-location in their screen name. Doing this is not necessary but it is rather helpful and will help decrease the time it takes to find a playmate.

Examples:

  • Jenny f-25-uk
  • Sexy Man-39-TN
  • Hard4you 19-m-india
  • Wet&wild 46/f/Australia

IM IDs (yahoo, skype, gtalk, msn, etc) social networking profiles, and emails are not allowed to be used as names.

Examples:

  • Imma.scammer6969(sk ype me)
  • Hotbabe1990@example.com
  • Horselongdong at FB

Phone numbers are not permitted in names.

Examples:

  • Call me 555-555-555
  • Hot phone sex!! 1-888-211-6096

Url based nicknames are not allowed.

Examples:

  • FreeVirusesForBadPorn.com
  • Chatsiteforphoneys.com
  • www.website.com

Impersonating any user is strictly prohibited and will get you permanently banned from using this chat system.

If your screen name may be offensive to a majority of people in a certain room, then you should not be there.

eg – Having a screen name with dick, cock, or eludes to such imagery in the lesbian room is not allowed.

Coming to the rooms with a name including rape, abuse, incest, bestiality, or another controversial term or a variation, you may get kicked from the system if you stay in the lobby. Edge-play / taboo terms (terms that are not well accepted in the mainstream world) are not allowed to be in the lobby. However, you can keep terms that are not accepted in the lobby, as long as they are allowed in the system, if you go to another room such as the forced sex room or the family fun room that do not find the terms offensive.

There is some grey area here with screen names – help!
Names like these should only be in a bdsm or forced sex type of room (not in lobby, les room, ffr, etc)

Abuser
Brutal Dom
Punishing Sluts
kick my balls
Sadistic Master
degrade me please
brutal daddy
Blonde Torturer
Virgin wants to be abused
Treat you like meat
Abusive Husband
piece of shit whore for dom m

Names like these may be okay in the lobby type rooms, but if your open discussions, or unasked for pms included taboo terms, then you may be kicked or banned.

slaveboyslave here for use
A vicious Man
Deeply Depraved Master
Bondage Bitch
Sick Fucking Pervert

If your screen name eludes to something taboo, make sure you are aware of the taboo terms / edge play discussions rules posted above.

This web site follows the ASACP guidelines for unacceptable terms – using any of the terms listed below, or similar variations in your screen name or lobby conversations will get you permanently banned from using this site.

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Any name with pedophile, child, kid, or any other terms that suggest that you are underage or are looking for some one underage, or is any variation deemed unacceptable by a Moderator(s).

Examples:

  • Pedro phile 24 m
  • Horny4kds 32 f
  • Lookin4HS FreshmenChicksM 18
  • Lilly f 15

The terms boy and girl are highly discouraged. If you want one of these terms in your name, you should add your age to your screen-name so that your age is made clear.

Examples:

Questionable Names:

  • Young Hard Boy
  • Small Girl Pussy

Acceptable Names:

  • Little wet girl18
  • Hard boy19

Chat Room Etiquette

Be polite; ask someone in the main chat if they would like to PM with you before start to private message them. Many people, especially women, consider PMing without asking first to be very rude.

If you send private messages to people that include edge play / taboo terms and they did not ask for those types of message, you may be permanently banned from the system.

The ignore button is a great feature! If someone is pming you with out permission, or saying things in the chat room that you do not want to hear, simply click their name on the list and select ‘block user.’ You will not see any comment by that person for the rest of your login period in the chat site.

We have an active community of regular users, also known as regs, here on our site who are usually friendly and helpful. If you’re new here, take some time to get to know the regs and the moderators. Just like in real life, the relationships online take some time to build, so hang out for a while to get to know the other users and vice versa. Enjoy the banter, the interchanges, the craziness, and the humor and you’ll be just fine. Remember, patience and courtesy go a long way to help you learn about how to use the site and help you find a person to have a great sex chat session.

The Moderators

Our chat rooms have volunteer Moderators who help people and enforce the rules to provide our users with a safe and fun, chatting environment. When a Moderator is in their ‘Admin’ role, their name will appear red in the list of names to the right of the chat area. Please remember Mods are people too, who want to enjoy conversations with friends and they often have private messages and whispers that they are keeping track of along with the lobbies and other rooms. If you have a problem or witness a serious infraction you are more than welcome to pm a Moderator for help and tell them about the incident, which they will be happy to help you with.

Sometimes the Moderators will be in the room but will not appear in red. Sometimes a moderator will be in a room with a regular users name, and not in moderator / admin mode. Sometimes a moderator or site admin could be in a room and be completely invisible. Some moderator’s names will appear as yellow or purple. If you need help go into the main lobby and ask for a Moderator, chances are that there will be a Mod logged in or someone who can reach a Moderator for you.

Please be nice to the Moderators, they are very busy people and have a lot of different things to take care of in the rooms. They can easily misunderstand something a person types, so be polite since they can ban you for just for taking up their time. To make sure the room is taken care of Moderators are given the power to warn (an alert shows up on the selected user’s screen), freeze (the user is unable to talk for a period of time), kick (the user is removed from the room for several minutes to a day) and ban a user and their IP address from our chat system forever. If you have a complaint about a Moderator, there is a Moderator complaint page where you can alert the site owner.

A note about user created chat rooms, room operators and mods

If you enter a user created chat room, there may be a username in purple, and that user will have the some of the abilities of a site moderator, including the ability to kick you from their chat room. User created room mods do not necessarily have to follow the rules and guidelines that are established for our official site admins and moderators. If a user created room mod decides to kick you for whatever reason, please do not complain to the site admins, as we do not have any control over user created room moderators.

Our official site admins and moderators may choose to enter user created rooms on occasion, and their names may appear normal, in red, yellow, purple or simply be invisible. As outlined on our privacy policy, site admins and moderators may on occasion also enter password protected rooms as well. We highly suggest you read and understand the privacy policy information, and check for updates when you use our site.

Safety

Be careful of people asking for email, messenger IDs, phone numbers, or any other personal information these people may be getting your information to sell to spammers. Some people who ask you to add them on an instant messenger will only add you to ask you to go to their ‘live cam’ page or to visit their pay-per minute site. There are many scams targeting people trying to get a cyber session do not give any one your credit card number!

Some links can be extremely harmful for your computer if you click on them. This is the reason for not allowing links besides a few sites to be posted in the lobby. Avoid malware and viruses by not clicking on links posted in the lobby or pms unless you know that the site is a safe, secure, and well trusted site, you should also have an up to date antivirus and spyware software installed on your computer. The majority of unauthorized links posted in the lobby will only try to sell you items, ask for your email and credit card information, or scam you in another way. We suggest that you not click on the links in the lobby unless it is to the sites permitted by the rules.

Unless you want to have your email sold to spammers, don’t give your email or instant messenger IDs out to people who you meet in the chat room. They will most likely sell your information and you will soon be flooded with spam. If you want to stay in contact with some of the people you meet in the chat room you may want to think about creating an email address so that your main email address does not receive the possible spam.

If anyone tries to solicit you to engage in another discussions about people or activities that are with people who are not yet adults, ask you to check out another sex chat site, or another commercial web site, or try to get you send money or credit card information, send a private message to one of the moderators. If they are in the room and let them know. We don’t want our users to get scammed, spammed, or solicited for commercial anything in our free chat rooms, so help us help you, and help others, by reporting any of that activity.

You can learn more about sex chat rooms safety here.


By participating in this chat service, users acknowledge that they have knowledge of, and agree to the site’s Terms of Service and Privacy Policies and rules posted here.
We also have new detailed content guidelines that everyone must follow.

It is highly recommended that anyone using this chat site, or any other chat system on the internet to have a firm understanding of the sex chat room safety information as well. Instructing other users on ways to minimize the ads that are normally displayed on our sites is a perma ban offense that could also carry other civil damages as well.

Violating Sexchatsexchat.com’s Terms of Service or the chat room’s rules or etiquette policies will result with you being kicked from our chat services temporarily or possibly being permanently banned – in some cases additional clauses of our privacy policy may kick in as well.

Many times our moderators will warn and or educate a user before they are kicked / banned – but this is not always the case, there is no rule that moderator must warn before kicking a user who is breaking the rules.

Some kicks/bans only last for five minutes, while other may last one hour, six hours, twelve hours, or even twenty-four hours. Users who have committed major offenses will be permanently banned.

Users who were banned from the chat system and still cannot join the chat after waiting 25 hours, have been permanently banned.

DO NOT post a question here about your ban unless you have waited 25 hours, tried to re-access the chat, and are still unable to login.

Comments or questions about a ban that occurred in the past 24 hours will normally not be answered.

This page was updated on 01-24-2015 – some info about this update here: Rules and disallowed content updates 01-24-2015

This page, the content guidelines page, and the kicked banned from the chat page were updated 1-30-2015. Synopsis in a new blog post here: http://www.sexchatsexchat.com/blog/2015/rules-etiquette-update-1-30-2015/

2,304 Comments:

  1. Got banned for putting up a pic of a girl who looked young but site said she was 18 and a teaser. Would like to have ban lifted please.

    • Admin Steven Nash

      Hello Lucy Les – have you read our content guidelines here:

      part way down the page, you can see some posted excerpts of comment threads from some time ago with a similar situation I think. Begins with “… I tried to explain that the pics were form an 18+ site but he did not give ”

      I don’t have any exact details at this moment, not sure if the ban list includes any additional info, but I will check.

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