Moderator Complaints

Have a complaint about one of the chat room moderators? Or forums moderators?

If you want to make a complaint about one of the moderators, you can email the site admins; jmes and nash read the emails sent to adultwebmasteronline atthe yahoo dot com – if you ask that your information be kept private between you want the site admins, when you email, then it will be.

You can also submit a comment in the form below, and you can choose to use your real screen name or just type anonymous. All replies made here on this page will be first sent to moderation by the site admin, “Nash”, unless you have already posted a comment (and had that comment approved) somewhere else on the blog. If you already had another comment “approved” on one of the blog pages, then your comment left below in the reply field will be posted immediately, and all the world will be able to see your comment, and the name you have typed into the name box.

Only the site admin “Nash” will be able to see the email addy  you enter into the field below, and your associated ip addy. This info is to keep spammers out of the comments, and provides a way to show gravatars or globally recognized avatars next to your comments.

You could type in a fake email addy – just know that our auto-spam reduction system may auto-delete certain messages (comments that have lots of links or talk about erectile dysfunction drugs, etc).

More about the mods

Every one of our chat rooms mods has volunteered to help make the chat room a better place. They are taking time out of play time to help the room and everyone in it experience a happy neutral place to enjoy mature conversations. Every one of our mods has read a very detailed set of “mod rules” – and we constantly discuss with each other things that come up, and what to do in edgy situations. Every single one of us is prone to make a mistake once in a while, and some of the mods may interpret the rules in harsher way than others, and act accordingly.

It is a very tough job to defend free speech, even when you are not a fan of some of the things that other people way want to express. Every day we are put in situations when personally we’d like to just kick and ban someone for being an idiot, rude, or taking their conversations to the edge of indecency. We constantly deal with spammers, mean people, user complaints, chat bots, and all kinds of ridiculous things, the last thing we need is someone who comes into the room, breaks a small rule, and then gets all bent out of shape about being asked to comply.

I have had users that made small mistakes end up causing big disruptions for the room. If you message me and say, “hey I only used all caps twice, I shouldn’t be permanently banned for that, your mod is abusing me just to make his or her friends happy, blah blah blah.” You know what probably happened? Most likely a small mistake was made, you were asked to stop, and the came back with an attitude problem. Now as moderators, we are used to that to some degree, and we know what it’s like, heck, most of us have been on the other side of the coin. But it’s the ensuing drama that generally gets people kicked or banned.

I back up our mods decisions most of the time. I do not expect to get the whole story from you or anyone else, if you message me about a problem, I will listen, but don’t think that I am going to believe that you have the whole story. This is a free service, if you don’t like the way it is moderated, if you don’t want to play by the simple rules, then don’t, you can always go chat somewhere else. You don’t have to use our site.

Also realize that with text chat it may be easy for me to read something and take it a different way than it was intended. The same goes the other way. I might ask something and in my mind I am saying it politely, but you might read the text and thing that I am coming off mean or demanding. Every day all over the world, through chat rooms, text messages, pms, emails, people are reading (hearing) things one way, when the intention (writing) was meant another way. It happens. Even with the “LOLs” and smiley faces we all use, it is really easy to take something the wrong way on all sides of a text conversation.

Understand that every moderator is taking time away from their play time to help the community here, and please understand it is a mostly a thankless (and unpaid / volunteer) job, and we deal with many people who don’t know all the rules. We also deal with all kinds of crap behind the scenes that you will hopefully never have to worry about. Respect the mods, play well with others, and have fun. Be glad you get to chat away and don’t have to deal with all the other crap.

A note about user created chat rooms, room operators and mods

If you enter a user created chat room, there may be a username in purple, and that user will have the some of the abilities of a site moderator, including the ability to kick you from their chat room. User created room mods do not necessarily have to follow the rules and guidelines that are established for our official site admins and moderators. If a user created room mod decides to kick you for whatever reason, please do not complain to the site admins, as we do not have any control over user created room moderators. Our official site admins and moderators may choose to enter user created rooms on occasion, and their names may appear normal, in red, yellow, purple or simply be invisible. As outlined on our privacy policy, site admins and moderators may on occasion also enter password protected rooms as well. We highly suggest you read and understand the privacy policy information, and check for updates when you use our site.

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  1. So as far as I know I was kicked for posting this:



    By bigtex and I don’t understand why none of that is illegal content the girls are 18 or older.

    I have never been kicked before as far as I know and there are ladies posting the same type of content that are not getting kicked or even warned seems like a double standard to me.

    Not to mention the fact I didn’t break any rules in the first place as far as I know.

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      Admin Steven Nash

      Mike50 – I’m not sure what the kick was for.. I would say from a quick glimpse, that the second pic posted is questionable as to whether it is a pro pic with proper documentation – or an amateur pic that does not have the proper docs including the rights for public sharing. I don’t know for sure, and I could research it deeper, but certain signs point to this possibly being a ‘parasite’ pic – which are sometime taken in one context and then shared outside the understood context.. which did become against the rules at some point. I’m not 100% sure of course – these things can be quite tough to determine.
      So I would avoid sharing such a pic or similar pic without having a better understanding of the ‘rights to the person in the image’ – for example, sharing pics from Playboy or Penthouse – you know that girls have given permission for the photography, provided proof of age of majority, and signed releases allowing them to be shared publicly.. Of course there are many layers to that kind of thing as well.
      The third pic appears to be from met-art, which has for years published pics from various photogs that have gotten similar documents and releases.
      Hope that all makes sense.

  2. Received a log from Emma, a reasonably trusted user. She said TD sent it to her. I will plan omn banning them both. Both being TD (again) and Bi Unfaithful Courtney.

    Nash, can I add an attachement of an image to the mods area?


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      Admin Steven Nash

      Thanks for the infos Tex!

      I had thought I had an image upload option on the contact us page –
      but now see that it’s not setup quite as I had anticipated. I don’t think we have an easy option for image upload in the mods area.. it’s easy in the peeps section.
      I can add some code to allow image uploads, and might add that to the plans. The quickest way would be to email me an attachment, maybe scnash [AA TT Symbaol] would be fastest for me to grab and I can add it to the mods page pretty quickly.

  3. Add RedheadLaura(30) to the ban release. Damned PITA.

  4. Teen Dick is at it again. I need a few bans on reg names released:
    Nikki 31/Les
    erika s.


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    Sweaterpuppies (F)

    Hello. My username is Sweaterpuppies (F) . And I think my ip address is banned. I don’t know why it got banned, must be TEEN DICK impersonating me. Please if you could, restore me. My name is Erika. I commented before too.

  6. had an issue with one of the guest today and one of the mods banned me when i asked for help with it. she came at me with a comment and i responded. He said i was being rude too and when i asked why all they do is say use the block button instead of addressing the issue like a mod should he banned me. the user posted our private conversation in the public room and when i tried to defend myself he warned me and then banned me when i question him. cant have sensitive mods and be effective. i have been coming here for years with absolutely no issue til today. very unfortunate

  7. Nash…I have written about this teenager who keeps harassing me….he signs on as a visitor or as a guest visitor, but I’m sick of his childish antics…I normally can make him so angry, he leaves on his own…but I’m really sick of his racism and harassment….he keeps on begging for Aryan females only…then he insults them…good grief!!!

    • @imhornyasfuck – I need more details, like screen names (exact) – screen shots perhaps.. you can copy and paste a chat log of these events, and attach the time and date (and which time zone that time and date refer to) – then I can look depper into this issue. You could post here, or use the contact us form to send email directly to me.. then make a comment here on the blog area to notify me that a message has been sent so I know to look into that inbox.

  8. Hello, my username is Hermione4Bimbofication. I got banned because TeenDick impersonated me and got me IP-Banned because I had numbers after my name.
    Plz restore, I love this site 🙁

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      Admin Steven Nash

      @Hermione – should be cleared now. Sorry about the issue!

      • please i didnt do anything, please i love this site please dont ban me

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          Admin Steven Nash

          @dominic – you are not being very specific. Have you been warned about something? Have you banned? Have you been banned for more than 24 hours?

          • Thank you for your speedy reply , i have been banned for about a day i think, i was warned not to get into arguments in the public chat, i struggle with anxiety and i find that this site is amazing for just talking to people like myself, its all i really use it for, i know ive made mistakes, but all I’m asking for is a chance, also the thing that i was banned for was a misunderstanding, i was not arguing with the guy, i was saying i was not going to respond, which was silly but thats all it was, once again thank you for the speedy reply i was expecting it to take much longer to reach out and appeal

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              Admin Steven Nash

              @Dominic – about a day is not specific enough. I was asking if it had been 24 hours, because our system runs with auto-expiring temporary kicks that last between 5 minutes and 1440 minutes (exactly 24 hours) . The kicked / banned page with most of our rules specifically states that most bans will auto expire within hours of reading the rules, some are auto cleared by the system before that.

              I generally only check the bans list if someone has been blocked for more than 24 hours first. I also expect people to read all of the rules and the content guidelines. It’s really nice if the banned user can explain which specific rules they had broken were – this makes is easier to consider undoing a ban.

  9. Hey Nash, it looks like im banned ( i tried posting a video and it kicked me)…can u please re set my access. thanks Harry54

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      Admin Steven Nash

      @HArry54 – are you talking about the OC system? That kind of auto kick normally auto-resolves in 10 minutes. Are you still banned?

  10. nash i just tried to get in mv chat, it would not accecpt me, i had to create a new name n password, it said you have successfully compleated your account to to your email to acvitateit said they sent to my email, well i never received it at my email. now what am i suppose to do. never get in m v chat when you close old chat again?

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      Admin Steven Nash

      @mikey4u – check your junk and spam boxes for the email. I do not know what you mean by “it would not accept me”. I can resend the activation email. It may be that your particular email system is going to reject emails from our system no matter what we do – as some systems are fighting spam so hard that they also remove emails they think are spam that are not.

  11. Nash on your new site PLEASE give 30 minutes before one gets an inactivity kick. I can’t go to the bathroom, make a sandwitch and get adrink in 15 minutes, 30 minutes will be find then kick for inactivity. Users hate the present system thanks mikey4u²

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      Admin Steven Nash

      @mikey4u – you mean on the mv-chat system? Or.. which new site? You may not know that I run more than a dozen sites – so saying that the new site has an issue leaves me perplexed about which one you would know about and consider new.

      If this is about the latest update to the mv-chat sytem, know that the update is not finished – I am still tweaking some of the settings, many of which were set the way I wanted them before – but those settings got lost during the update. I am trying to get a full list of the things that changed – sounds like you may be mentioning one I had not thought to look into.

      Anyhow, I put a link on the mv-chat page saying that an initial info post has been made here: – and I hope others will go there and post any issues they find. Appears to be quite a few that I was not expecting.

  12. Goddess Divine, if you would give me a chance to explain what happened tonight in lobby I would appreciate it, I was asked in whisper if i used to go to ICQ site, the person said my name looked familiar, i replyed yes I did until ICQ went mobile & video, then i stopped going there and i found sexchat. All this was in whisper. I thought I was still in whisper when I said mobile and video faild at ICQ and they brought back the old chat format, like mv chat failed here. Even Moose said he had not been in MV in weeks because there was no body there but guests. I realize i should be more careful and make sure i’m in whisper. Thats what i liked about the chat boxes in new chat. If i was wrong in saying that in lobby i am sorry. It was not my intent to say anything wrong about sexchatsexchat. Other people have said alot worse in lobby and they are not warned, I’m not questing your warning but three people took me pvt and said what is this all about you did nothing wrong I told all three to drop it. Then I tried to say I guess people like to chat in chat rooms and they don’t care about mobile and video. If I broke any rule it was by mistake so I read the rules again and I think i did nothing wrong. About the links 2 people asked me if I had any more bacon links they said it was funny. Thank you, mikey4u²

  13. nash, you would not believe what they were fighting about in lobby this morning. Velraptor came in I spoke to Vel as I always do, so did Excavator along with several other users, Vel has been coming to sexchat for a long time and is a lovable charactor, someone asked Vel how long a raptors tail was, Excavator posted the information from google telling all about velraptors. which was a nice thing for him to do. Then out of the blue, HotMommy4PlaythingToy said that was not right, that a raptors tail was 1.6 inches long not 2 inches, things went from bad to worse,I could not believe grown men and women were fighting over the length of a dead lizards tail, since no human ever saw a velraptor. Excavator left rather than continue this stupid fight with HotMommy4PlaythingToy several other people left also. HotMommy4PlaythingToy always starts stupid arguments everytime she comes in lobby. This is one reason I suggested temp mods for lobby, where the temp mod could warn fighting parties and if they continue kick for 20 minutes, no explanation needed. Nash this kind of stupid arguments has got to stop, it causes people to leave. And now that old chat is starting to come back again. HotMommy4PlayThingToy should be warned for her argumenative ways in lobby. Sexchatsexchat does not need or want that kind of thing. Thank you mikey4u²

    • Heya Mikey,

      If the same people keep arguing could you please save the chat log and send it to Nash or you have my email address so you could send it to me and I can forward it on to Nash which ever is easier for you.


  14. nash a mod is needed in lobby

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    Degradeʀ ☠ ᴺᵒ ᴿᴾ

    I feel I need to defend myself against Cutie’s complaint against me. I also feel the need to chime in on this BCE issue (Brenda, Cutie and Error issue). I was not the only one who had a major problem them joking about genital mutilation in the Lobby. The people who messaged me about them were just too scared to stand up to them, so I did.

    The things they said in the room were VILE! They aren’t newbies. They knew the rules yet chose to break them. I do not agree with allowing them to remain here but I respect that it’s your decision, your room, your rules, Nash.

    I’m not talking like Cutie to mock her, I’m illustrating the fact that I can say the exact same things about her as she says about me. The only difference is, I didn’t start this whole thing. I wasn’t the one who started joking about mutilating men’s genitals in the room. Again, vile.

    Because my name’s Degrader, most women don’t want me to PM them, so I don’t. Mostly when I’m in the Lobby, I’m either talking to a woman who chose to PM me first, or I have SexChat open in the background while I’m doing something else on my computer. However now, I’ll be monitoring this situation further.

    I also agree with Ex, sort of. For however long it takes me to feel confident that it’s stopped, I’ll sit there and wait til someone jokes about genital mutilation and send the chat to you. I admit that and feel justified in doing so in order to verify all such talk has stopped.

    I’m sorry for making threats about going to court and shutting the room down. I was consistently disregarded by the Mods who told me that joking about sexual mutilation was just banter. Still, I shouldn’t have done that and I apologize.

    • Well…you have fun “monitoring the room” while the rest of us enjoy ourselves. I have nothing more to say about this. Peace out 🙂

  16. I feel I need to chime in on this Degrader issue. In all the years I’ve been coming here and being a Mod at one point, the things he said in the room were VILE! He isn’t a newbie. He knows the rules yet chose to break them. I do not agree with letting this guy back in but I respect that it’s your decision, your room, your rules, Nash. I think most will block him once he comes on to avoid any issues. I agree with Ex. He’ll sit there and wait til someone says something he doesn’t like and send the chat to you. I will not change how I “speak” in the room. I and others go there to have fun, chat with friends and maybe cyber. Degrader, in my opinion is right up there with TD. Making idle threats about going to court and shutting the room down is ridiculous and childish. Let’s all hope he appreciates the second chance he is given but I highly doubt it. Thanks for your time, Nash.
    Oh, on a side note, someone might want to tell Enlightened Rogue he was using his name to spew his crap in the room. Another rule broken :/

    • Sent a log to the contact us email showing how much he was trolling– I did not see whatever Degrader was complaining about, but it seems like it went way above and beyond the original issue. His trolling went on for days, and he came right back in after a mod said he permabanned him, breaking the ban before Nash even cleared him.

      Even if you agree about his point, he is still trying to police the room through trolling (breaking the same rule over and over). Every time someone breaks a rule, will the lobby be subject to his tantrum every time until he gets his way? Obviously he knew the rules or he wouldn’t have been throwing a hissy fit over people breaking them in the first place.

      • I have not had the time to read through all the logs and everything sent in yet. I expect that that people have a more thorough understanding of the rules and policies now than they had before.

        A thorough understanding of our policies goes beyond the generally followed norms, and beyond the long list of rules. so hopefully things will be better from this point forward.

        Again this is

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    Degradeʀ ☠ ᴺᵒ ᴿᴾ

    Nash, I’ve read the rules and regulations to your site. Would you please consider unbanning me? Also, if you think my name crosses a line, I’ll change it. However, I’ll expect others not to cross that line as well. Thank you.

    • @Degrader – it’s clear now, and because you have admitted to breaking the rules, promised not to go there again, and read the rules / policies / procedures and say you understand them all.

      I should say that some of the things that had transpired make this decision quite difficult, as just reading some of the things that were said in the past, it would be easy to pass judgments and say ban is permanent and forever – such filth! However, that would be without including anything else said by others, getting the context, etc. So, admittedly without reading all the words that have been sent my way, I am clearing this with the understanding that you know better now, and that we have procedures in place to take care of other people who would violate the things in which you have been called out for – so no need to make a point in the room, just copy the log and send it my way, and or the other mods who may be around at the time so we can handle it in other ways – which are often much less disruptive.

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        Degradeʀ ☠ ᴺᵒ ᴿᴾ

        I already have 1 screenshot unfortunately. How do you want me to send it to you?

        • @degrader – adultwebmasteronline attt yawhooo dot com – spelled similarly to that.

          • So now we will have Degrader sitting in the room, waiting for someone to say something he does not like and report them? I will give you an example, this afternoon I was messing around with my friend in there and said something in the likes of knocking him out with club so he would go to sleep. Now, the second I said that Degrader posted an action saying *sigh*, he had not spoken in the hour before that so one can only assume that he’s sitting there, waiting for someone to put a foot out of place.

            In my humble opinion Nash, if social justice warriors are going to be invading the sexchat as well as everywhere else and people are going to be gagged and censored just because some sensitive hard-done-by millennial cannot deal with it and loses their mind whenever someone posts something they don’t like, sexchat will die a painful and horrible death.

            • @Excavator – I hear ya on this. Give it some time, don’t worry too much about this. It’s quite rare that someone runs afoul of the actual rules here lately – and people generally are just warned about coming to the edge of most rules if it does happen. This is common knowledge for most and new knowledge to some. I imagine that the novelty will wear off for degrader, as it’s so rare that things spiral out of control into serious enough territory to warrant saying or doing something. I do plan to keep an eye on this situation, and of course, my ears are always open here and via the contact form / email as well.

              I appreciate the viewpoints you are offering. Let’s hope I am right about this one.

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              Degradeʀ ☠ ᴺᵒ ᴿᴾ

              Again, I feel I must defend myself. I am not a social justice warrior. I hate social justice warriors. Also, I’m not sensitive.

              For anyone who doesn’t know what happened…

              1. I saw women joking about mutilating men’s genitals.

              2. No one had a problem with it including me.

              3. I thought it’d be funny to make jokes about female genital mutilation.

              4. I was the one who was then “gagged and censored”.

  18. nash, thank you for being in lobby last nite and trying to settle the problem. I do not mean to infer that i’m taking up for anyone, but I’m a diabetic and a friend of mine asked me how I was doing, the other nite in lobby, I replyed Newka I’m doing good as long as i take my meds, and one of the women degrader mentioned said, Oh mikey4u I didn’t know you have Aids, I was so shocked n depressed I left, thats the kind of talk that should never be allowed in a sexchat lobby. After I came back a couple hours later 3 people pm me and said how sorry they were that, that was said. That hurt me. I know i’m just a cajun from new orleans with a health condition that i’ve had since i was 14. people can banter with me all they want it rolls off my back i’m a big guy, but when they make fun of my health i get defensive, i’m sure you can understand that. i was baned for talking to newka about a gay pride parade in canada, i said the word fag, i had said nothing about anyone in the lobby i was talking about a parade in canada. newka laughed, newka is from canada, n next thing i knew i was baned . i think this is the kind of thing that degrader is complaining about. men and women should be treated equally no matter what their sexual perference is, after all your site is called sexchatsexchat, not make fun of a diabetic. i’ve told you before i used to go to the old ICQ site, when they went mobile and video, I left and one day i typed in Best chat site on the net it brought me here to sex chat it was three years ago but it went down because of that kind of chat. lobby is now coming back there was 100 people on site today that is great, i remember in old chat when you had lobby 1 and lobby 2 thats how full lobby site was. my friend Sexpandable left sexchat because he was attacked every time he came to lobby. I still talk to him on skype. My hope is that every thing will be resolved and Sexchat will again be number one. I will do everything I can to make that happen. Your Mods do a fantastic job, don’t tell Mikey™ but give him a raise lol. he is excellent. I expect nothing from sexchat except to be treated fair. At first when i came to sex chat I did not read the rules, I didn’t even know where the rules were, nor did i know about comments. I sure do now. I have read the rules at leat 15 times, now I obey all of them , I still think you should post a warning in lobby, saying ‘Do not talk to, converse with or even acknowledge Teen Dick, because new users do not know who he is and is tempted to talk to the idiot. this could save a problem from happening, i can give you a couple of names that would make great mods, American Honey and Apple Girl and maybe Brenda all three are comp savvy. I go in gay and show pics to what few gay men go there, they all tell me I show the best pics, I scan the net and find the pics there must be 1000 sites dedicated to gay man an women, most people don’t have the time or desire to go find them, I do so I do. i’m just providing a service to a group of men, i have been called the gay porn provider, if people call me this i do not care. I hope i’m not breaking any rule by doing that, if so let me know and i will stop and only show pics in porn share. thank you again, mikey4u²

  19. Mikey™, they started talking about muliation again people started leaving the lobby just when lobby was making a come back, thats sad. I don’t know how you and the other nods are going to stop this kind of chat in lobby it makes me sick. I left and went to anothere site, where no such talk ever comes up. I hope you nash and the mods fix it quick i’m sure you know Quietman he pm me and said mikey what is going on in here. i did not know how to explain it told him, to use his block button he left did not come back. the people in lobby just keep egging the troll on, they think it is funny and it is not. thanks for listening. mikey4u²

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      Degradeʀ ☠ ᴺᵒ ᴿᴾ

      I’m not a troll. I want it to stop just like you, but brenda, cutie and error keep making sadistic comments. It’s time for it to all stop now… Even if it breaks up possible online relationships between them and the mods.

    • Mikey if it happens again could you please save the chatlog or even better grab a screenshot and email it to Nash or show it to a mod, thanks.

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        Degradeʀ ☠ ᴺᵒ ᴿᴾ

        Yes, that’s what I’ll do from now on. I brought it up to the mods but they called the genital mutilation talk “banter”. So, I was not inspired to send them screenshots. They would’ve probably just looked at my screenshots and told me it was banter again. Apparently that isn’t the case anymore. Apparently women will now be held to the same standards as men on this site. We’ll see.

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    Degradeʀ ☠ ᴺᵒ ᴿᴾ

    If you have someone like me making a complaint, there’s a problem. I never complain about anything.

    Women may be more valuable to your website than men, but I don’t care. As a result of being born into this world, I have the right to be held to the same standards as women.

    Apparently while in the Lobby, I’m not allowed to insinuate that I’m kicking a women in the pussy with the tip of my steel-toe boot so hard she permanently loses feeling in her clit. HOWEVER, it’s completely accepted when a woman insinuates that she’s kicking a man in the balls until his balls explode.

    How do you plan on rectifying this situation?

    • @Degrader – an interesting situation you describe. Not sure the exact details of the situation it appears you found yourself in, as it may have been slightly different than what you describe here. However, I do think that a girl posting that she kicked someone in the balls until his balls explode – with intent of describing actual body injury, would be too much for the lobby.

      Now if this statement or was made in the bdsm room, and the intent was kicking the balls until someone explodes in orgasm, because they are into that kind of thing, then that would certainly be a very different situation.

      If the situation in which you are describing had other factors surrounding it – that would change the context of the situation then that is something else to consider. I do think that most of the mainstream society would accept the whole “girl kicks guys in the nuts” kind of thing is certain situations. If for example someone had come into the chat room and was saying that they forced themselves on them in a way for example, and they were not inviting that kind of thing. All kinds of things could affect the overall context and the amount of “acceptable-ness” of said kicking in the groin.

      Statements about kicking a girl in the pussy are one thing, and something I have seen on cable tv from someone in unifrom… however talking of permanently damaging skin tissue, nerves, or whatever – that is way over the line, and something that would be rare for others to consent to, even in a bdsm room. Just like talk of exploding someone’s balls in a room, physically destroying someone’s balls is something that would not go over well in most discussions, even bdsm ones, in most cases. Certainly, these kinds of things would not be allowed in the lobby – man or woman speaking them.

      I plan to rectify the situation by suggesting that people follow our rules – which covers this kind of thing. Things that are too taboo for the lobby should not be in the lobby. Harassment and abuse is also not allowed. Unless of course someone was in a proper room, and agreed to be harassed or abused in that the kind of scene – and all people involved were consenting to such discussions.

      I can only speculate about specifics, as I don’t have any chat logs or information from other people who may have been privy to the discussion in which you are describing, so my thoughts are just random generalities at this point. If I had more information perhaps I could be more specific, and fairer.

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        Degradeʀ ☠ ᴺᵒ ᴿᴾ

        Can think of a context in which it would be acceptable for me to talk about cutting off a woman’s clit in the Lobby? If not, why would it be acceptable for someone else to talk about cutting off a man’s dick in the Lobby (under any circumstances)?

        I’m not complaining about women depicting genital mutilation in the Lobby. I’m complaining that I don’t get to talk about genital mutilation in the Lobby but the women do. When I mention this blatant hypocrisy, I’m told that “It’s just banter”. So when they do it, it’s banter. When I do it, it’s a violation of the rules.

        I don’t care what society has to say or what is acceptable to society accepts in this regard. Like I wrote earlier, I was born with the right to be held to the same standards as everyone else. This is my right as a human being.

        • @degrader – “acceptable for someone else to talk about cutting off a man’s dick in the Lobby (under any circumstances)?” – no I can’t think of any circumstances/

          “I’m not complaining about women depicting genital mutilation in the Lobby” – whether you want to complain that it’s not allowed, or that is should be allowed – is irrelevant to whether or not it’s allowed.

          “complaining that I don’t get to talk about genital mutilation in the Lobby but the women do.” – Your complaint has been heard.

          We will not change the rules to allow you to talk about genital mutilation in the lobby, and will not change the rules to allow women, or those who want to identify as women to do so either.

          when “they do it” – it will be pointed out that it’s against the rules – people who violate the rules are sometimes banned immediately, sometimes warned, sometimes banned for a short time, depends on the situation.

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            Degradeʀ ☠ ᴺᵒ ᴿᴾ

            Are the mods fucking any of the women who talk about mutilating men’s genitals in the Lobby? That would be a major conflict of interest. Are you fucking any of the women who talk about mutilating men’s genitals in the Lobby? That would also be a major conflict of interest.

            I expect something to be done about this matter immediately. Please come to the chat so that we can all discuss this matter further. Hopefully it can be resolved.

            • @degrader – it would not matter if someone was fucking or not fucking someone – talking about genital mutilation the lobby would be against the rules.

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              Degradeʀ ☠ ᴺᵒ ᴿᴾ

              This is for the people who messaged me privately to tell me that they want something done about this situation, and, everyone else I guess.

              For the record, allow me to acknowledge the fact that women are of higher sexual value than men. If you doubt this, log in as a man, turn your PMs off and see how many PMs you get within 5 minutes. Then, log in as a woman, turn your PMs off and see how many PMs you get within 5 minutes.

              I won’t go into the whole evolutionary process which made women of higher sexual value than men… But let’s just say it has something to do with them only being able to be pregnant a minimum of 9 months at a time. It’s possible for a man to get 5 different women pregnant within a month. Men have an endless supply of sperm. Women have a limited amount of eggs.

              The point that I’m trying to make is that women are more valuable to this website and every other website of it’s kind. Look around and you’ll see more men than women. However, in aspects of our culture where men still have power, they’re still expected to treat their female counterparts with respect.

              All I want is for men and women to treat each other with a basic level of respect in the main rooms.

              (Can we stop talking about mutilating each other? I know you’re joking and so am I. But do you really want to see to me joke about mutilating a female’s genitals every hour?)

              I have been assured by Admin Nash that this matter has been resolved or will be resolved shortly. I will not escalate matters any further as long as the following standard is met…

              If someone mentions genital mutilation (in any capacity) in any room other than BDSM, Forced or private rooms, I’ll take screenshots of it and show Nash directly. If the same person mentions genital mutilation on 3 separate occasions, they must be permanently banned.

              Thus far, I’ve been shown a great deal of respect by Admin Nash. When someone shows me respect, I show them respect in return. Therefore, I’m finally going to read the rules and guidelines for this website after coming here for nearly a decade. I’ll do everything that it takes to be unbanned and then I’ll be back to end this double standard (if it hasn’t already ended).

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              Degradeʀ ☠ ᴺᵒ ᴿᴾ

              Nash, I’ve read the rules and regulations to your site. Would you please consider unbanning me? Also, if you think my name crosses a line, I’ll change it. However, I’ll expect others not to cross that line as well. Thank you.

            • @Degrader – I will release this ban now, please make sure you follow all of the rules and procedures we have outlined. Your screen name by itself might be controversial to a degree, but I do not think that by itself it is overly taboo for the lobby – if enough others disagree then I would revisit that thought.

              Indeed I expect all others to fall in line with our screen name guidelines as well.

              Do note, that sometimes it’s a combination of things that add up to someone being asked to change rooms. For example, a slightly adverse screen name, plus some slightly adverse/taboo discussions could equal enough taboo that it’s inappropriate for the main lobby – as to just the one name with talk about fairies and flowers, or an innocent name asking a question about something taboo may not combine in the same manner.

              So I can’t say that screen name X is always okay for every situation.

  21. nash, last nite in lobby in old chat an incident happened that was disguisting. a few women started talking about circumscing men and what they would do to men, even eating the skin. then they went to frmale genential mutilation. several of the men left and did not come back. Mikey™ came in after the conversation had ended, I asked Mikey™ if i could pm him, he said of course. I started telling him what happened and he said Brenda was telling him also. Brenda asked me how to save chat logs> I told her the last page by the smily face to the right but it does not say what do do after the conversation has been saved. Looks like one could save chat logs to desk top to a file,then use Imger to send the file to you and the mods, thats so simple. anyway Mikey™ gave the room a stern warning about such talk, Mikey™ was excellent he is to be congratulated for such fine work.No conversation sould ever be allowed in SexchatSexchat like that one> I don’t know if Mikey™ got the chat logs or not. But at least I had the good sense to stay out of the conversation, I wanted to tell the women to Move On , as Goddess tells people, but then that would have started a fight and I would have ended up getting baned, hell Master Moose Jedi kicked me because I went to see if Teen Dick had actually created a room, I had said nothing to anyone, I was going to report it to you and the mods, but thats over with. All your mods do excellent work they really do. I still think having temp mods would be a good thing, they could warn people and kick for no more than 20 minutes and have the ability to call a regular mod another thing would it be possible for you to post up under where you explain about tekor and checking to see if pms are on, a warning telling people not to talk to or even acknowledge Teen Dick, because new people have no idea who Teen Dick is and might try to answer Teen Dick. i have asked new people in pvt not to talk to Teen Dick and the standard reply is Why not who is Teen Dick . You can see the problem. i only want SexChatSexchat to be number 1 on the net. Your format is the best for chatting, well the old ICQ format was great too until they went video and mobile and they lost 100s of users. I stopped going to ICQ then. 99% of the users in sexchatsexchat are good people, but at times in lobby the conversation gets ruff and should not be allowed, and nobody can stop it but a mod, if i say anything to them i’m told to fuck off, things mostly now about the hatred of Donald Trump and religion. thanks for listening

    • @ mikey4u – you are wise to know that trying to correct other users in the chat room will often lead to worse issues and can quickly spiral into out of control arguing. In the past, we have had people try to promote the rules and end up doing it in a way that became more disruptive than the original rule breakers.

      In extreme circumstances, I might say it would be okay for a regular user to make one statement about the rules – and just ONE. No back and forth, no fanning the flames – one statement about rules being important for the lobby and that they state that certain taboo or edge play type of things may be okay in niche or user created rooms – something like that. A link to the rules, a reminder to others that the iggy button is our best friend.

      Most people that try to help others understand the rules end up getting into a back and forth argument – and the room does not benefit from that at all.

      So thanks for having restraint on such a controversial thing coming up – I am glad I was not there for that one, although I am not glad that we did not have a mod close by to handle things in other ways if it was warranted.

      I am hearing you about the want for more mods more often and such. Thinking about this, and hopefully, we will continue to get more popular again and attract more of a need and pool of people to consider for such things.

      I am still working to come up with newer systems with more options, things are getting closer.

  22. nash teen dick was in porn said he had an orgy room i went to see ifv anyione was there Master Moose Jedi was there, he baned me Why I said nothing . I don’t understand. Said i had inproper Ip and screen name. Please straightnen this out. I don’t think going to a room is cause to be baned since i went to see if Teen Dick actually had a room. This is crazy.

    • @mikey4u – were you kicked for a 5 – 15 minutes break or is it still blocking you?

    • Mikey4u, this is the exact reason other mods and I say pretty regular on site “don’t talk to him”, “don’t give him any attention” and “please don’t go in his room” to stop people getting warned/kicked/banned.

    • @miky4u – anyone going into a room that is described as something that is against the rules is also in violation of the rules. Of course people would get kicked or banned for going into such room – no matter the reason.

  23. Not a complaint, but I would like to say that all of the mods do an amazing job. I’ve never had an issue with any of them, and on the one occasion I broke a rule ( I was double logged into the lobby) I was kicked for a couple of minutes, read the rules and apologized to the mod. My only real complaint would be the lack of a mod at certain times, which I understand as they have lives of their own. At times I’ve tried to educate other users of the rules, but sadly most users tend to ignore advice unless your name appears in red.

  24. Big Tex banned my IP address. Said I was trolling. I did nothing wrong. You can check the chat logs on that. Cutie and Fapington were going out of their way to insult me and make accusations because I brought some interesting conversation to the room that took attention from them. i was not trolling anyone and we were having a good chat bout girl names. The mods need to stop with the favoritism.

    • @Speghetti Letti – You say, that Tex said you were trolling – and you got your ip banned. You say you did nothing wrong, have you read all of our rules? It would be so easy to do several things wrong and not even know that you violated a rule we have on the content guidelines page, and this is even if you read all 3800 words on our rules page.

      I don’t know anything about people insulting you, I was not there. You say you brought some “interesting conversation to the room” – that sounds very subjective. I have seen over the years all kinds of “interesting subjects” brought to the room that had zero business being brought in – and I am sure that the people who were bringing those subjects thought they were awesome and it livened up the room. Just because you say you were having a good time does not mean that others in the room appreciated your words, or that they were in line with our rules. Again, I was not there, so I don’t know the specifics.

      You saying that the mods are playing with favoritism – that is a very strong accusation around here. I can look into this, but I would be disappointed to find that you were speaking without knowing the rules and our policies, and therefor not understanding why you were treated in whichever way.

      • As I stated we were discussing “names” of old girlfriends , which did not intrude on anyone in the room, as well as music. Cutie and Fapington went out of their way to hurl insults. My only response was Cutie must not have “soul” to appreciate jazz, which is relatively harmless to what they were saying. I was told to put them on ignore and stop trolling, but I asked Big Tex in private why don’t they ignore me, why is nothing be done about them creating a hostile environment. In response I was banned.

    • Mods on here playing favourites with the Regs? Get outta here!!! LOL!!!

    • Same shit, different day. Ridiculous.

      • Oh? Ridiculous? Like how you and another reg were just talking about Snapchat in the Lobby? While Tex was there? Outside messenger service, no? Not a thing was said. If it was some random user, something would have been said. Double standards.

        • 1-That comment wasn’t toward you, nameless one. 2-We weren’t asking for it, we mentioned it. Tex is the first one to say something if we were breaking the rules, regs or not. Quit complaining and just enjoy the room 🙂

  25. nash, old computer crashed, i bought a new computer, it would not let me log in, i had to create a new account, i fucked up, i typed in my real name in stead of mikey4u, how can i change it to mikey4u? please help because nobody knows me as michael m*edited by admin* only as mikey4u

    • @mikey4u – I have no idea what you mean by adding a name to an account around here. We have about a half dozen places that you could put in a name. So unless you are very specific about what system or exactly what page you are referring to, I would have to go hunting around a dozen different places looking for clues – and I would easily miss some place where you added info. Sorry to hear about computer crashes – been there, many times. A good backup program is worth more than gold.

      • nash, new chat won’t let me in. as mikey4u. i registered for new chat along time ago. i wrote down my email address and pass word. then you ditched old chat n put in message that new chat would soon be gone. i threw my paper away with the email n password. i never had to ise it when i loged in. my computer crashed. i bought a new computer. when i tried to log in to new chat the system told me i had to create an account. i typed in my real name instead of mikey4u. now the system won’t let me change my name to mikey4u. the system keeps telling me my email address does not exist . do you see my problem. but if tekor does require registration, i can’t get in tekor. thats why i need my original email address and password. i will appreciate any help you can give me. firefox lets me in old chat, but not new chat as miket4u no problems there. chrome nor interner explorer will not. the sexchatsexchat site keeps telling me to create a new account but the site won’t accept my email address or password. mikey4u

        • @mikey4u – you can just create a new account in the ‘new chat’- easiest way to change your name there – I can’t do anything with old accounts in there.. I mean I could go in there and look up something, but I would only be able to send any info about the account to the email addy that is attached to it. I won’t go into any account, get details and send those details to a different email addy that is not attached to said account.

          Interesting to hear the issues with chrome and IE – browsers are getting really picky about running flash.. and the OC will forever be based on flash unfortunately. Glad to hear firefox is still working there for you.

          not sure what ” the sexchatsexchat site keeps telling me to create a new account but the site won’t accept my email address or password.” means – like.. the peeps section?

  26. Hey, I was just kicked by goddess divine from the lobby in Java Chat, I am not sure what Her problem is, She says She was confused and I asked Her why, She obviously needs some play time, She kicked Me from the Chat in the Lobby in the Old Chat and She kicked Pretty Blue Eyes……We did not say anything inappropriate, SHe should not be a moderator if she is going to kick people from Chat for absolutely no reason at all…..again, She is probably jealous because I wasn’t flirting with Her, and That’s HER problem…I been using this site for a while and never had an issue with a moderator before, I did not insult anyone, I did not bother anyone, Pretty Blue Eyes nor I had had bothered anyone….Obviously Goddess Divine has a personal has some kind of a personal issue, Maybe She’s just angry that She doesn’t get paid for being a Moderator, That’s not Our fault.

    • @hot4MMF(Bi-M) – Interesting that you are seeing things this way.

      When you say “not say anything inappropriate” – are you meaning in the main? What about in pms?

      Shall I assume that you have read and understand our rules and content guidelines?

      I’ll be happy to dig a little into this and see what other information is available.

    • @hot4MMF(Bi-M) – looking at the ban log, it appears that you were in violation of our rules about being double logged in to the same room. So it appears that you were either ignorant of our rules or just not following them. So I don’t think it was an issue with someone being jealous or having a lack of play time.

  27. Not sure yell remember me, wanted to come and say hi. Can’t get in, my tablet don’t support adobe flash player. =(

  28. nash, is this your site? it is being posted in new chat. http: //i I clicked on it there must have been 35 old regs there. If it is not you might want to stop it. thanks mikey4u

    • @mikey4u – no that sites not ours, I remember seeing it a couple of times. No big deal for people to go there, but it is inappropriate to post it in the main.

  29. I was kicked out for no reson

  30. i was in the mv chat yesterday morning and someone came in with an underage name and have yourself a maria little christmas told the person to change it. she answered questions and was nice and welcomed noobs. i thought she was a mod but she said she’s not. i wish more mods were like that. candysmooth and lunasilvermoon and scarlett vixxen are the same too but they’re not mods. godess is in the mv chat and she’s a mod but talks over everyone.

    • Thank you for saying such nice things. I really can’t speak for any of the mods, but from what I can tell, it’s a pretty taxing and rather thankless job. So for me, whenever I can be helpful as a reg, I’m certainly more than happy to do it. I think that does go for a lot of regs, because while many of us would never consider modding (you literally couldn’t pay me to do it), we do care about this place. We do want it to be what it was meant to be, which is fun, sexy, encouraging, and a safe space to let your freak flag fly.

      I also agree that there probably have been some issues in MV that could have been handled better, but it does take a special sort to mod in the first place. Some of the greater mods this place has seen are still on, like Finey, Mikey, Texy, and Moosey. Whatever the case, I’m sure everyone’s trying their best. 🙂

  31. nash, i don’t know what you did when new chat was down on friday afternoon but my screen is so bright now and the colors are so crisp, thank you. mikey4u

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