Chat Connection Problems


Having trouble connecting to our free sex chat rooms?
Here are the most common causes and solutions.

Did you try to login and get just the blue screen, or a message that said “Disconnected” or “connect failed” or something like that?
If so, there are many possible causes, especially with our new security layers, it’s no big deal, just get back to the chat room screen, and refresh / reload the page. Some users will need to get a fresh / non-cached version of the page, so you may need to hold down the shift key while clicking reload / refresh page (most browsers will work with shift + F5)

** If you saw a message saying something like “could not connect Server Sent No Data”

    you may be in one of our blocked countries ( Romania, and a few others )
    or using an ISP (internet service provider) a proxy or vpn service that has made it on our bad / blocked list
    or you have been manually added to the permanent ban list

– reloading the page will do no good.

You could get the message “could not connect / server sent no data” and not be on a ban list or a blocked ISP or country list.
There are a few times a year when our chat server goes offline, and no one can connect. Usually when this happens other people will post comments below here asking if it’s a global issue. You can see by the times and dates of comments below the times when our chat server was giving this message to everyone (unless you are the first to notice and comment on that particular day); although it does not happen very often, it has happened a few times over the years.

Many users will likely migrate over to our “New Chat, or Peeps Cams Chat” during a service interruption with our main / OC (original chat rooms).

We have blocked huge ranges of ISPs and networks from accessing the chat system, so if you are using to access the internet and get that fail message, we have blocked most of – and many other large blocks of Internet Addresses from several Internet Service Providers that we have had problems with. If this problem persists for you for more than 8 hours, you might want to comment below and ask if your ISP, VPN, Proxy, or Country is on the banned list. It could be that you are using the same internet pipes that others have used that violated our rules and you are now caught up in a broad range ban, or it could be that you have triggered this ban.

If you are having an issue with the font going crazy, or the chat not letting you type after you get or send a pm or whisper
- then there are two possible culprits.

1 – Recent updates of Internet Explorer and Adobe flash have been giving people trouble – try using a different web browser such as firefox to see if that fixes the problem. We have not had time to research whether this is an IE problem, or a setting / plugin within Internet Explorer that is causing this issue.

2 – some of our chat room pages have too much java, and cause some weird issues on some systems – if this is the cause of your issue, then you should be able to use the chat room on this light graphic / less java intense chat rooms page. If that fixes your issue, then we know what to look for in this case to fix.

If you get an error message in Internet Explorer about ActiveX being blocked, you need to click the bar near top of the window and tell IE it’s okay to run our chat program on site – graphic showing this here on java support page.

You see a white box / screen. The page loads, but the chat room does not appear.

You must have the VERY LATEST updates for the Java plugin and Adobe Flash plugin. This is the most common problem that users have. Even users that have been able to use our free text chat rooms in the past may not be able to connect after a new update to flash or java has been released by sun or adobe. This is due to security issues, and is easily resolved by doing on update of these two plugins, and you may need to restart your computer.

Do you see an error message when trying to load / connect to the free text chat rooms?

1 – Error message displayed – username or IP address is banned:
It could be that the username you have chosen got banned by someone else, so you could try to connect with a different username. If that does not work, then it could be that someone got a broad range ban place on the IP address block that your ISP assigns to you. You can read why we do broad range bans that may affect other users who were not the ones we intended to ban. If you did, or think that you did not do something that got you banned, then read then read info about getting kicked / banned from the chat room for more info.

2 – Error message displayed – something like “Server sent no data” – first make sure the plugins listed above are updated and try again to connect, on the chat room page, hold down the shift key, and click refresh / reload the page.

Most users will be able to connect to our free sex chat rooms just fine after checking the things listed above. If you still can not connect, I’d like to know about it, and these additional tips below may sort out the problem.

There are many possible causes for not being able to connect to the chat rooms. There could be internet delays, trouble with one or more ISPs not being able to route the info to you from our data center, hardware or software that is blocking the two way java and flash connection from our web server to your network, router, or computer. Some things will be out of your control, such as the superstorm that knocked down a big chunk of internet flow in Nov 2012, and there are other possible reasons, but lets try the easiest fixes first.

Try a different web browser.

If you are using Internet Explorer, try connecting to our chat using Firefox, Chrome, or Opera. Likewise, if you are using firefox, or chrome, try to connect using Internet Explorer. Sometimes a plugin for one of the browsers causes trouble that is not an issue when using a different browser on the same computer. If you are able to connect with one and not the other, then the good news is that we now know there is some reason that one browser on your system is not allowing the necessary connections, and you will be able to connect using a different web browser! We could go into reasons why one browser works and the other doesn’t – but I am trying to keep this short and simple to help the majority of users without overwhelming everyone with too much. We could discuss those in the comments below perhaps.

Note that currently our chat rooms system require a computer web browser that supports Java and Flash. This means that most mobile devices will not be able to access the current free text chat rooms. iPhones, iPads, most android devices, and similar devices do not support Java and Flash at the time of this writing. We are experimenting with different technologies to bridge this gap in the future, but right now there is so many changes in the mobile computing field that it is tough to know if html5, or some other technology will be broadly adapted to bridge this gap. We are working on a solution, but the computer gods are not making it easy at this time, sorry! If you are stuck using a mobile device for chat, you could probably use our sex chat peeps social section or email like private messaging, and you may have some luck with the Live Jasmine networks new mobile friendly design.

Turn off your firewall / antispyware / antivrus protection temporarily, and try to connect.

Make sure you turn your protection back on as quickly as possible – just try disabling your suite, or individual components of your suite, and see if you can then access the chat rooms. There could be parental filtering software built into your protection suite, or something that is set in your firewall / antivirus software that prevents the necessary two-way communication with our chat server. If this solves the problem, then it should be possible to go into your protection software and add an exception for our web server, that way you can leave your protection turned on and access the chat rooms. We will have to go into the various ways to do that in the comments or something, as it would take a ton of text here for the various software suites different ways of opening access.

Try a different computer or connection.

If you have another computer at your location, try a different computer and see if that one can access the chat rooms using the same internet connection. If using the same internet connection / ISP / and network (router, etc), but using a different computer makes it so that you can connect to the chat rooms, then we know it is something on that one computer that is preventing your access.

Try to connect using the same computer, one a different network.

If you are using a laptop, try taking it to a coffee shop or friend’s house and see if you can connect to the chat that way. If your computer will access the chat rooms at friend’s house, but not at your place, then we can assume something with your network is preventing access. Some routers will block the two way communication that Java needs to use our chat system.

If you are using a router at your place that splits the internet connection between several systems, or using a wireless network, try plugging in directly to your cable modem / DSL modem or whatever. You will need to unplug the router, plug your computer directly into the main modem, and restart your computer. If this solves the issue, then we know it is something else outside your computer, likely “port blocking” on your router’s security settings, or a weak wifi signal.

Using Hughes Net, Dish Internet or other satellite ISP?

I tried to troubleshoot with a regular user for days on possible issues, only to find that he was using a satellite internet service provider, and it simply could not handle the needed upload speed to stay connected to our chat server. The satellite ISPs are great with download speeds most of the time, you will probably be able to watch videos and other intensive bandwidth applications just fine as long as you are downloading data mainly. Our chat rooms need a fast connection for download and upload stream as well. I have not tried our chat with a dial up ISP running at 56k, it may work, it may not, but there is something with the speed ratio of most satellite ISPs that will likely prevent you from being able to use our chat system. If it downloads data at 100 mph, but the upload is going at 5 mph, then you can imagine that your sending, receiving, and our web server’s syncing of the chat messages will simply fail. You could try regular dial up and see if that speed ratio works better, or one of the cellular phone service providers to see if they work okay. Those options will not give you the download speed to download large movies quickly, but they may be better calibrated for two way communications.

Other issues preventing access to the free text chat rooms

There are other issues that could affect your ability to use our chat system, some company networks block aspects of Java from running, some countries have blocks on adult web sites. There are possible issues with the internet as whole, and it could be one of the rare instances where are web server is having a problem. Over the years I think our chat system has been down a total of about 48 hours, so 99.9 times out of 100 our server is handling everything just fine. If our web server was down you would likely not be able to read this page, so that’s probably not the issue at the moment.

Some people have trouble with the two way communication needed with their ISP. We have found that many users from parts of Africa get massive delays in the sending and receiving of the “packets” needed for our chat system to function. Many of these users will not notice major affects when downloading static pages from around the internet, but our system requires not just downloading of information, but uploading and downloading, and doing both in a synced up manner. If your ISP is far away from Arizona, USA – then there is a good chance all the hops around the world can cause problems.

I hope the information on this page helps most of our visitors solve most of their connection problems. I may come up with some other problems and solutions to add and update this page with later. For now, I think most people will have the problems fixed when they update Java and Flash.

If the solutions listed above do not work, we may be experiencing some difficulties with the chat system. Due to our recent popularity – there may be times when the chat system is overloaded, and not accessible. You will find discussions about the chat system being up or down, and info about our backup chat systems on this off site page at wordpress dot com – scsc chat backup info.

You may also get information from other users about the current state of the chat system at our new chat backup site at sex chat space.

  425 Responses to “Chat Connection Problems”

  1. Dear Nash – I got messaged by veryhornychik

    it seems like NC is down – it says “Database Error, Cannot connect to the database!”
    when you try to log on – she is in Aussie and I am in Germany – same message.

    Can you check this please?

    Greetings ladylikes

    • Dear Nash – it looks like NC is still down. About two hours now, or longer.


      • Thanks for the heads up with this here ladylikes. Saw this comment soon as I woke up.

        We have the ‘new chat’ or what I was calling the ‘peeps cams chat’ – on a different web server than the OC… I did some checking and the hard drive had a disk crash on that server. We are having a new drive installed right now, and then the process of rebuilding the files starts. No estimated time to back online at this moment. I am hoping the drive can be replaced and files restored within a few hours… we’ll see though.

  2. The connection issues from April 19 – April 20 have been fixed. Chat rooms should be working fine now :)

  3. Woo Hoo!!!!! OC is up and running!!!

    • Wow Nash you are amazing I thought for a minute you were going to take drastic measures , I think you deserve admin of the month for being on top of everything. I admit though it’s no cake walk for this type of communication between the server and the data center. Job well done as always

      ” gives Nash a thumbs up for his role model in these situations.”

      As always Nash , we salute you

      • Nash

        im getting “Connection failed” on the Login and i tried a refresh and it loaded much faster than before but still doesnt want to connect. although this error message is different than the white page. that made me believe the the page loads but isnt able to connect.

        anyways this is just a heads up for you

        • nevermind i managed to login

          • Nash just in case you can keep an eye out

            i was trying to login again to see if it responds fast but at first it kept saying connection failed. took me 3-5 refreshes to let me login.

        • I had a similar problem – had to try to login, fail, then refresh / reload and try again. Not sure why.. maybe a cached dns lookup thing, or that our first level firewall needed to repopulate some rules. Hopefully this issue will not continue after about 48 hours.

          • ya its now being responsive. it looks like it was a DNS problem because if it was the the firewall i wouldve gotten a white page with the operation timed out. anyways

            Thank you Nash for doing your best to bring OC back up. get some rest dude. dont overtire yourself

  4. I’m sorry to bother you again, so how many of those fiber optic cables got burned due to overheating? Will you be able to have the site back up and running sometime this week? just wondering that’s all….. Great job in keeping up with the site maintenance…. I hope all becomes well for all of you….

    • Daniella, I just woke up, and quite surprised our data center still has not resolved this issue. We have been told they have it isolated and are working to restore it. We do not have details about the size of the lines that are affected yet. If this goes on too much longer we will move our servers to a new data center. So yeah, realistically it could be a couple of days, but my fingers are crossed it is not more than a couple more hours.

      • Thanks for the update….. I’ve been out and missing all of the fun that I used to have on this chat site…. Great job on repairing everything that’s needed to be repaired…..

        • hey daniella I understand the eagerness you are showing to get online again , in fact i am itching for the same ,let’s keep our fingers crossed :)

        • I’m just glad we have our backup systems still running, the ‘new chat / peeps cams chat’ and the “mv-chat” systems. I may go ahead and release our other two that I have been dabbling with for testing while wait for the main system to come back online.

  5. Do you know an approximate time that the chat site will be up and running? I was worried that the site no longer accepts my IP address for access into the site.

    • Daniella – no, we were hoping for 11:30 EST.. but that is not looking like it is going to happen. We have to wait for bundles of fiber optic cable to be replaced and that is hard to guess on time it may take. If it was simply a broken router or hard drive, that would be easy to estimate. We are still working on the issue though!

      • Nash

        since there isnt at the moment a way to tell us the ETA when it will be back , are you assuming OC will be down for 2 days or its possible it will be back later during the day ?

        • Ramy – it is possible that it could be up within hours, and it is possible it could be a couple of days. We have been told they have isolated the issue, but have not been told what size line needs to be replaced. If it some lines in an office building, those can usually be fixed in hours. If it is the underground cables that go from data center to internet backbone, that could require a backhoe / bulldozer, drilling under sidewalks, etc – and that kind of issue would likely mean a couple of days. My fingers are crossed that it will be hours not days.

          If we get told it’s gonna be days, then we will likely move our servers to a new data center. I can re-setup our system in hours.
          The real lame thing is that our servers are running fine, they just can not get their data out to the internet backbone at the moment. arg!

          • well Nash here is the realistic Truth. do you have in your Data center that they will get the communication back up ? you do not seem to be happy with the way things are at the moment tieing up your time. if the whole thing will actually take more days , i would suggest moving to a better company. i would try BlueHost or SingleHop but in the end its your call Nash

            anyways give it your best and hope everything goes back to normal

            Happy Easter

          • Indeed, this situation makes us consider moving providers. I can understand it being out of their control on the time it takes, as it is not in their data center, but the upstream provider that gives them the big pipes to the internet backbone. However the real question for me will be if they find a second uplink provider as a backup for future incidents or not. If they do add to the redundancy then we will continue to support them, if they do not secure a second pipe to the backbone, then we will have to move to somewhere that provides more than one uplink for possible future issues.

    • thanks for the info Admin Nash and great job on trying to get repairs done quickly I know most of it is out of your hands though

  6. I hate to be a bother, but I can’t seem to get the chat room to start the username screen as it keeps telling me “The operation timed out” and white screening. I’ve tried a few times in the day to get it working and have made no progress. Any help?

    • Victoria we have a couple of techs working us to replace dozens of fiber optic networking cables. After that is done lots of routers and other equipment will need to be restarting, we are all doing everything we can as fast as we can. Sorry for the long delay!

      • Keep up p the Good Work Nash. i know its not easy to maintain a chat server but im sure you have magical hands that will get it working again

      • Its quite alright, thank you for informing me and for keeping this place maintained.

  7. heyy im not sure why but i cant log in :P any help would be appreciated <3 xoxo

  8. Hey Nash,

    I’ve been getting issues logging in all week. I’m on a business trip in Brazil and was wondering if the country is blocked or if there’s something wrong on my profile. I noticed some guy named MagicMike in these comments who’s been perma-banned, but that wasn’t me ;). Thanks for the help!

    • Magical Mike – Brazil is not blocked from our chat server at this time. Not sure why you would be having trouble connecting from there, but it could be that their internet has occasional issues especially once the traffic leaves the country and comes back. At this very moment the pings seem to be decent from where you are comments from. That could be different at different times of the day though.

  9. im not banned look at my ip,do something admin nash please

    • rob – most connection problems and solutions are listed on this page up above here. Looking at your IP makes me thing that you are trying to use a proxy service or some kind of vpn to access our chat rooms. Due to abuse, most of the VPN and proxy networks around the world have been firewall banned from accessing our chat rooms. Even if your internet connection is not banned, there is nothing saying that their service provides the needed access to use our chat rooms system.

      (at this point we also block several countries completely, and a few ISPs)

      There are plenty of proxy and vpn services out there that can serve up static pages from web sites just fine, but our chat rooms is not serving static pages – it is on always on; multi-way conversation that needs to send and receive and update data many times per second. Many proxy services will not connect to this type of two way communication ports. Even if they could, or would allow their end users to access the types of web sockets needed to make our chat work (and most do not from my research), it does not mean that they would be able to provide the low latency needed to make it work.

      With some internet services out there – they either loses packets of data, or have bottlenecks and other slow downs that cause our chat rooms to not allow a connection. We see this with some ISPs in Australia – but it can happen anywhere really. There are certain allowable amounts of milisecond delays with our system, if your internet service has any lag points beyond 500 miliseconds between where you are in the world and our chat system, then our system will auto block you.

      I am not going to look into our server firewall info to see if your ISP is blocked, as it seems you are coming from a proxy service, and I would not divulge that information publicly. So rob, you can’t connect to our chat system, find a different web site to chat.

      • i cant see the blue screen it just keeps saying operation timedout

        • sexyguy – yes, everyone is getting that screen right now. Until our data center’s upstream internet backbone provider replaces their fiber optic cable, the OC is dead in the water. They are working on it, but it is taking much longer to fix than expected.

  10. tell me please admin nash why tells me connection failed when i try to conect

    • rob – you are probably permanently banned from here, and your ISP is added to our server firewall to block access.

  11. Hey, I stupidly put a link I shouldn’t have in a main lobby, and I guess I got permabanned? It says I’m on the banned list, and it’s been more than 24 hours. Did I really screw up that badly?

    • (Mickey / Cam White Male – you ban is set to permanent yes. Not sure what link you posted in the lobby, not sure you read the kicked / banned / rules page.

      • Yeah, I was in a private room chatting with several members, and I kicked from that room as I was typing up ‘looking for cam partner’ ad. I hit enter right as I got kicked, and as such got that posted to the wrong lobby. Of course, being the not so wise guy, I did not try to apologize and leave, so I kept my name the same, etc… and got banned. I did not realize the depth of my actions at that point, so I did not immediately try to rectify the damage I dealt in contrary action to your rules. If I am to remained permanently banned, I understand, and I shall go elsewhere.

        • AND – you had a screen name with cam in it (which is currently also against the rules and is posted on the kicked / banned page right?

          • Yessir, and I deserve at least a 24 hour ban for NOT reading the rules and then breaking them, if not more, but that is up to you and your discretion.

          • Mickey – I am clearing this for you this time. I am assuming you know all of the rules now, so we won’t run into a ban problem again.

          • I.. I uh, I wasn’t expecting this. I thank you, and I hope to ensure for myself that through neither inaction or action I infract upon your rules again.

  12. I was wondering how I would get in this site on my iPhone? It won’t let me in very sad! Also what will the app be called can you make it annonomis so it won’t say sex chat on app? Thanks lot the site

    • jenn – we are putting the finishing touches on our mobile phone / iPhone / iPad /tablet compatible chat rooms system this week. We may be able to have some public testing next week! I was thinking about ways we could move our new system into an app, and making it so that users could choose some generic icons to hide the “sex chat” in our name is something I was already considering, glad to see others think it is a good idea as well!

      In the meantime, you may be able to join in our social peeps section where you can send and recieve private messages to other members – although that is more like an on site email system as opposed to instant pms like we have in our regular chats. Thank you for the input, I am always interested to know what issues and ideas our visitors have!

    • Thanks for answering first question! But when I go in to apple apps how will I find it there? What will name be? Thanks so much!

      • That is a good question Jenn, at this stage of the process we are working to get the tech part to work across various devices. Once we get things established and tested, they will be available to everyone to access via the web on site here, no app required. Once that is all up and running, then we will begin to work on the apple and android apps – what kind of naming conventions that apple will or will not allow, I have researched yet. They may even forbid us from submitting an app to their official apps directory – no time to research that quite yet, but if you bookmark / add to favorites our blog, or the , you will be able to access it there once it’s live and ready to go.

  13. I always get on the text chat and was on last night but today it wont connect. it just continues to say Connecting the whole time but wont physically connect. is Help possible?

    • Alucard – I do not see anything on our end that would be preventing you from accessing, more than likely your ISP is having some traffic congestion – which means that a non-cached web page may take 1 1/2 seconds to load instead of 1 second… that is no big deal when you are loading a web page, but for our chat to work, an extra 500 milisecond lag in the communication would prevent you from connecting. Try again in a few hours I guess.
      You could run some pingdom tests to see about your current lag issues if you really wanted to check all that.
      Anyhow I do not see any bans placed upon you or anything against your segment of your ISP in our server firewall or anything.

    • Hey I am unable to get online the operation says its timed out. I cannot see any reason why I would be banned but could you please confirm thank you.

      • Carly – must be lost packets from your ISP, or some internet connection between your ISP and some connection node somewhere in the states… I just did a ping test and things seem smooth enough for you to connect at this time. Are you still having issues?
        There is nothing in our server firewall that should be preventing you from accessing.

        • I really appreciate the quick reply and yes im still having the problem is you have any suggestions they would be appreciated but thank you for eliminating that as the problem.

          • Carly – there are many possible causes, and many of the ways to find most of them are posted above on this page. My first throught is that your firewall may be blocking the connection, so pausing your firewall and trying to connect may shed some light on whether or not that is the issue. I would also wonder if you are using a wireless laptop / desktop computer, and maybe if you plugged in an ethernet cable to hookup the to the internet and that works, then we would know that there is some delay in your wireless signal getting to your router and then across and back through the internet and back to your computer in time.. these things and several others are listed up above on this page, I suggest going through each step and see if any of them solve the issue.

            If one of the things above do solve the issue, then we could perhaps suggest some other ways for a better fix, but without knowing what is causing the problem we’d be just aiming in the dark.
            Some people have had problems when using one of those systems that plugs into your electrical outlets and distributes internet throughout the home, when they use that to surf the internet web pages are fine, but the added 500 milliseconds of delays back and forth with a system like that will prevent the needed connection speed to keep the chat running properly. Just one more example of a possible issue, but without knowing which steps above you may have tried and which ones helped, I could write pages about the possibilities.

            Try a different web browser ( !) on your same computer perhaps – that fixes the problem for many people (often due to plugins or security settings with something like chrome).

  14. hi admin nash.i cant log in,says the server closed the connection.please tell me whats going on,please.

    • John, a while back we chose to block all internet traffic from anyone and everyone in your country. Sorry. You will not be able to access the chat rooms here.

      • but you have to do something nash,i didnt do anything wrong

        • John there is nothing I am going to do to change this ban on your country, or the other 5 countries that we have blocked. Maybe one day years from now ISPs in those countries will work with us to block only the individuals who use them to violate our terms. Until that day comes when we actually get good cooperation from those ISPs, the entire country will stay blocked. I suggest you simply find another chat site to use – there are thousands of them online and free.

  15. Dear Nash,
    I have joined the Sex Chat Space a few weeks ago. I can get on the old chat and flashy chat sites, but I cannot get upon the new chat site. I have registered, updated my Flash and Java plugins, and I still get my IP is banned. I’m not sure why I’m getting this message. Your help is truly appreciated.

    Sincerely Yours,

  16. Havent been able to access any of the OC for the last week. I keep getting the dreaded “The operation timed out.” I have updated everything possible and am still getting it. Thanks for any possible fixes!

    • Magic Mike – you are getting this timeout message, as you have been banned in a way that most people are not. We found that you have violated several of the rules here and had to manually add your info other systems that block you from accessing the chat rooms. So this is your permanent ban notice.

  17. Heya Nash.

    I tried logging on to both original and new chat, but got both gave me the same “Unable to resolve the server’s DNS address”
    Its 8:30am 26 of Feb (GMT+11:00) at my place.

    Any help would be highly appreciated.

    • Cute Chloe – I think this is a (hopefully temporary) issue with your ISP. I image that your Internet Service Provider will be updating their DNS servers today, so hopefully later on you will be able to connect. If this is a problem beyond a couple of hours, you may have to try a different web browser on your computer, as this is something that can occur when you get some kind of crapware installed on your system that hijacks your search results and where pages you request actually get loaded from some scammer’s web server instead of the one you are actually trying to get to.

      I see this with addon programs that change your default search engine and others. Sometimes it is something you meant to install that came with a browser bar addon for free, sometimes it is something that takes over your computer when you visit a web site that has added malicious content.

      I highly recommended that you get the malware bytes program and run it to check your system for crapware –

      Then double check that your flash is up to date, windows is up to date, and java. Make sure your antivirus software is current and updated as well.

      If you have any trouble with any of these updates let me know.

  18. Hi. I can’t connect to the text chat. I keep getting the “The connection was reset”. Can you help?

    • hornygirl – we have blocked the country that you are in from accessing our chat. You will not be able to access the chat rooms here because of this. Sorry, but we have had many issues with a troll that continues to come to our chat from an ISP in your area, and so we have decided to block them all.

      • Can you not add me to some sort of exception list? i am not very technical, but I’m sure you can tell I’m not the troll.

  19. Hi I cant log in, the log in page does not load, it says ‘the connection to the server timed out’ before it even gets to the log in screen and it gives me a link to * info edited by admin to prevent url indexing * but that doesn’t seem to work either… please help:p

    • jenna – it is internet congestion that is keeping you from connecting fast enough. There is a pretty good distance between you and our chat rooms server, crossing a few ponds to get here and back can easily cause an issue with the signal speed. I do not see anything in our server firewall that would be preventing you from accessing. Try again later.

  20. Dear Nash

    Again I can’t log in to original chat. This time from no site. I can log into newchat though.
    I have had the same problem a few days ago.
    Either I don’t even get to the log in page – or I do get to the log in page and it won’t connect me.
    I have not had these problems before in all those years, unless chat was down. :(


    • Okay, I am in now…. it took me nearly half an hour altogether, to get in.

    • sorry to hear you were having some troubles ladylikes. I just got home from out of town, and do not see anything that should of caused any issues. I am guessing there was some internet congestion issues for some connections from Euro to US that prevented some connectivity.

      • Thank you, Nash, for caring. It is all good. I did not have any more trouble, logging into chat. :)
        I knew you were gone. I hope you had a lovely time.

        greetings ladylikes™

  21. just wondering why the chat box won’t load for me … i get to choose a room but no sign in will appear for me to join …

    thanks & sorry for bothering you

  22. Hello Nash.
    Is it possible that you’ve gotten my ISP banned again by any chance? I can’t load the chat since yesterday.

    • yeah Strung Out, we did block your ISP yesterday actually. I just woke up and not sure what else I can say about this at the moment.

    • Actually Strung Out – we did a ban on all connections that come from your country. We have multiple issues with someone from your area and the quickest way to address that was to simply ban all from that country. Not quite sure at this time how I can finagle things that would grant you access while still blocking this other person that we have had some issues with. I will put my thinking cap on again and see if I can think of something.

      • Woah, someone must be a real pain in the butt…
        Isn’t adding my IP to the whitelist a simple solution? Not sure how your firewall works, so I’m just making blind guesses here. But, in case it matters; my IP is static, never changes.
        Thanks anyway, and if you don’t manage to find a solution; it was nice while it lasted.

        • I wish I could get this country filter to work in this way.. for now I unblocked the country and I will look into other ways of handling the trouble user. Sorry for the long delay, I appreciate your patience with this issue Strung!

          • Not as much as I appreciate your efforts towards enabling me to use the site, even though you’re also removing restrictions for the douchebag that made you ban my entire country.
            Have you thought about contacting his ISP and ask them to restrict him specifically from accessing your site?

            By the way, nothing’s changed here, I still cannot load the chat frame.

          • yes, in many cases we contact ISPs and discuss issues like this, and in some cases we escalate it further to their local officials in order to get ISPs to comply with block requests. I am pretty short on time this week, so not sure what we will decide to do next week, it may come to that. However if the ISP does not work with with on this issue then we may go back to country blocking like we have had to do with a few other similar instances. We’ll see what we can figure out next week.

            Not sure why nothing has changed, may be a latency bug that is keeping the banned countries 24 longer or something. I won’t really be able to get into this too much until Tuesday or Wed at the earliest, I have to run out of town for a couple of days.

  23. When I try and log in it says my Ip address or nickname have been banned I do not understand why this may have happened, I know friends of mine have used my computer when I was room mates with them so im not sure if they did something on here im un aware of. If it is possible could I be unbanned?

    Thanks for your time.

    • thedude – this is a ban from a while ago. It would take quite some time for me to research this issue and get to the bottom of it. If you wanted to send in ID and pictures as outlined on the get verified page then I would look into the issue. If I spend time researching the issue there is not guarantee that I would release this ban however. Otherwise the ban is permanent, and we ask that you find somewhere else to chat.

  24. Dear Nash – I can’t access my normal log in page, also not sexchat space.

    I can access sexchat peeps and SCNow.

    I have talked to someone on skype – the chat is working fine. What could possibly be the problem ?


    • I did add about 500,000 ips to our server firewall block yesterday, but I am pretty sure that all of those are used exclusively by some less and stellar ISPs – so they should not affect most people who connect from regular home ISP connections.

      comment edited – much info redacted as TMI – lol

      • Dear Nash – yes I am still unable to access from my normal log in page. Same problem with sexchat space.
        I was online in chat this morning – my morning – that’s like six hours ago from the current time now, that I am sending this to you. I was in chat for about two hours maybe 2 1/2 – on and off. Everything was fine.
        I can not log in since maybe two hours.
        It says timed out. Server takes too long to respond.

        I can reach sexchat and also SCNow. I can get access from there, but not from my normal log in page and also not for sexchat space. I can access every other page also the mod page.

  25. Dear Nash – again I got dc – and I am since about five minutes. Black screen – I can’t get back in OC.
    Similar to the things that happened yesterday afternoon. Just one hour later today.
    I will report when everything is back to normal.
    NC is working


    • I have heard from users that they are back in with only 20 people in the lobby, but climbing up – when we got booted we were about 70—
      I still can’t get in….

      • back in with 13 in the lobby, 25 people in ten rooms.

        There are 25 people in 10 rooms. But increasing.

  26. back to old chat – looks like quite some people have been dc.

    It looks okay now.



    • Glad to hear that everything has come back as normal. Looks like our network hardware upgrade that I posted about above had some issues. So the small disruptions last night, or over the last 12 hours or so had to be recreated to reboot some new network routers and switches. The good thing is that our network is stronger and more powerful than ever, the bad new today of course is that I tried to post a warning message with timing, and that timing got extended way beyond what it should have.

  27. New Chat is working.


  28. Dear Nash – it’s possible that chat is down – I just got dc and can’t get back in


  29. Is the site having hiccups? Taking forever to get in then when i do is constant disconnect. All I am seeing is connect failled but it does show the log in screen.

    • not seeing any issues with the chat rooms from here at the moment ryleigh. Hopefully just a temporary glitch with some internet congestion. Hope you are able to get in and everything is fine now.

  30. OC down again? got repeatedly kicked, last message i gor when i tried to get back in , took to long to respon, operation timed out. thought someone should know

  31. Nash

    OC went down 3:47PM CST with Connection Reset* error.

  32. why am i banned i have done nothing wrong i was enjoying your site and got banned for no reason as for my name it is my ex wifes name and she became a slut hence the name vangieslut i dont think i have used any other name on this site i think this is a racial issue because i am asian /australian decent thats all i can see as a reason for banning me

    • actually daryl vangieslut – the reason for your ban is that certain things have made us investigate whether you are, or have been associated with someone else who was permanently banned int he past. A person who once went by the name handsolo or something like that. As I already told you, your screen name had nothing to do with it.

  33. Sigh, nash i think the original chat may be down again. It’s just timing out constantly.

    • Sara – the chat is working fine. :)

      It may be a problem on your end.

      Greetings from ladylikes™

    • yeah SexySara, at this time it looks like your ISP is having some bandwidth speed congestion… if you go to next to the big black TEST NOW button, you can click for traceroute, then uncheck the box to the right of that for “save results” – you probably do not want the site to save those results and possibly publish that info. Then put your network’s IP addy in the input box to the left of the test now button. (you can find your IP by visiting ) – click the test now button, and we see that your ISP is having a little hiccup routing through New York, then again somewhere else closer to where you are. At the time I checked the speed test for your network, there were several hops that were over 150 miliseconds (the MS) column… this means our chat is going to have a hard time keeping a connection with you.

      This is just the speed from major networks to your ISP network, if you add in the extra milliseconds that things take to travel through your modem, to your router, then to your computer and back.. it really adds up to some lag. If you are using a wireless / wifi to hook up with at home, that adds even more to the lag delays.

      You could try to plugin direct via ethernet cable to your internet modem, bypassing any wifi lag or router issues.. that may make enough of a difference to make it work. For some people it is just a matter of moving a wifi computer closer to their router. Some people will find that no matter what they do at home to speed things up, the lag that their ISP experiences can prevent them from accessing the chat. When I look into ISP speed issue, I hope to see that none of the hops cross the 150 ms threshold. Ultimately we’d like to see speed under 50 ms per hop, but anything over 150 makes me think there will be issues with chat working properly.

      These speeds and any lag will certainly be different at different times of the day due to all kinds of things.

  34. Nash

    OC Chat just went down at 12:30PM cst on me, *Operation Timed Out*. hope it comes back

  35. is OC down? was in, got tossed out, now all i am getting is connect failed message

    • now it is giving me nothing but a blank screen

      • i can not stay connected at all. keeps tossing me out, taking forever for log in screen to come up. taking lobger to change rooms. when it allowed me in the last time, showed all rooms empty, no participants list yet said 256 there. seems to be only a few of us this is happening to

      • looking into this now, chat seems fine from my end – could be intermittent ISP issues. Checking some other things.

        • thanks Nash, you seem to have resolved it or it resolved its self. not sure what happened tho. at one point i got a black screen where i log in at. i rebooted, reset my router etc…..knock on wood seems ok now, thank you

          • ryliegh, I really think it was an issue between your computer and your ISP this time.. you can check for speed tests here: (and your ISP has a similar speed test tool) – I checked some ping hops and things seemed to slow down a bit once they entered your ISP’s network. I am only talking milliseconds at this point, but things likely wary there, and if you add some more milliseconds if you are using a wireless at your home network, things are simply going to timeout and not establish a solid enough connection for what is needed with our multiple chat connections sending and receiving data.

            The speed that most ISPs offer is generally fine for connecting to web sites and downloading their static pages. Most people can deal with the occasional buffering of videos and such, but our chat system needs a strong and reliable connection to work. To give you a reference point, my ISP currently gives me 5951 Kbs upload speed and a 51ms latency. When I checked the hops to your ISP it was about 179 ms latency, which is not bad, but it’s a little more of a lag. I am guessing that when you had trouble connecting, your ISP was seeing a lot of heavy traffic and things were a bit bogged down. Not 100% sure on all this, but something to check if similar connection issues arise in the future.

          • thanks again Nash, will look into my isp and my connections seee if i am having issues there. really appreciated your help and advice on it. thanks so much

  36. chat is down again

  37. Nash

    OC Chat jus went down at 5:16PM with an “The Operation timed out” message

    • thanks for the heads up with this Ramy. Things seem to be solid and stable now (at the moment anyway) thank goodness!

  38. why is my ip adress being blocked haven’t posted anything or done anything wrong i know of

    • busty old lesbian – reading the first 10 lines of the chat room rules you should be able to figure it out pretty easily. This is your permanent ban notice. Do not return to our site.

      • hey nash didn’t do any of those things so you want to permanently ban me and tell me not to come back then fuck off asshole! should check your records i didn’t do any of those things

        • busty old lesbian – yes indeed, someone using your computer network has been doing those things. This means you and your network are permanently banned from using our services ever again. Saying “fuck off asshole” – wow I haven’t been talked to like that in a while, guess it’s been too long. Thanks for the reminder that I certainly can’t please everyone all the time, and there will certainly be those who do not know me well saying some mean things about me / to me. Anyways, we do not need you here, or want you here ever again busty old les.

        • @ busty old lesbian –

          I would think that a mature woman your age would have learnt some manners and how to handle disagreements with some decency. But your behaviour clearly shows, why you are not allowed to visit this chatsite anymore.
          Adressing the site-owner like this, who works so hard to maintain this site, for being a place of friendship, respect and fun, is absolutely not tolerable.


  39. chat goes down again

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