Well maybe you did something wrong, and maybe you didn’t. People are sometimes auto-kicked by the system to this page for typing one of our banned words into the chat. Did you get kicked from the room and see a message about profanity? Info about the profanity filter / banned words kicks. Click here.
Sometimes people are kicked to this page by one of our chat room moderators as a way to force people to read the rules. In most cases these “temporary kicks” will auto-expire in 10 minutes, or a few hours. This gives people a chance to read the rules and understand that they have been warned.
Every once in a while people get kicked here by accident, as sometimes when we try to kick or ban someone the user list moves and the wrong person gets sent here.
In some cases people are permanently banned when sent to this page. If you try to come back to the chat 24 hours later and the system says ‘name or ip banned’; then you have likely been “perma banned”.
The list of chat room rules that most people get kicked
18 and over only.
No one under 18, or pretending to be under the age of 18 years, is allowed to use this site.
Asking another person to pretend that they are less than 18 years old is not allowed.
Talking about sex involving anyone who is not 18 or older, even when reminiscing about your college sex days, or your first sexual experiences (if someone involved was not yet 18) is not allowed.
If you are aware of a user who is not 18 or older you need to alert the moderator(s).
Impersonating another user is strictly prohibited and will get you permanently banned from using this chat system.
No flooding the room with the same comment over and over again.
- Hey ladies Im a guy wanna chat?
- >Hey ladies Im a guy wanna chat?
- > Hey ladies Im a guy wanna chat? Hey ladies Im a guy wanna chat? Hey ladies Im a guy wanna chat?
- Hey ladies Im a guy wanna chat? Hey ladies Im a guy wanna chat? Hey ladies Im a guy wanna chat?
Phone numbers, social networking pages (Facebook, Myspace, etc), messenger IDs (yahoo, msn, aim, gtalk, skype, meebo, etc), and email addresses are not allowed in the public chat areas.
- Call me 555-5555
- add me on — firstname.lastname@example.org
- Here is my profile www.myspace-facbook.com/profile/
- Here is my im / yahoo / msn id! Hot/f /22/earth imma.scammer
Do not promote commercial or affiliated products, services, websites or other chat systems.
- Check out fakedatingonline.com filthy rich, hot and horny.
- Check instant-growth-brand cock enlargement pills!
Hate speech, religious topics, and political conversations are not permitted in the public rooms. If you want to discuss such topics you may create another room.
- Government Leaders
- Current wars
- Attacking any Faith
- Promoting any religion
English Only in the main chat rooms
The main system rooms (The lobby, lesbian action, group sex room, etc.) – are English language only. If you want to chat in a different language, you can do so via pm, or better yet, create your own “side room” or user created chat room and you can use a different language there.
NO ALL CAPS
No continual use of complete capitol letters is allowed, unless they are used sparingly. Usage of ALL CAPITOL LETTERS is considered to be YELLING in most online chat worlds.
- User6903: HI EVERY ONE I AM HORNY PLEASE CHAT WITH ME!!!!
- Moderator: User6903, please ease up on the caps.
- User6903: I LOVE MY CAPS!!!! I WILL ALWAYS USE THEM!
- User6903 has been kicked by Moderator
Kill, mame, cutting, snuff, etc
Maming, self mutilation, cutting, killing, dolcet, snuff, and crap like that – now banned completely, system wide.
Posting pics / videos (or links to media) of anyone who is not 18 or older is not permitted here.
This includes pics where there is no hardcore penetration or nudity.
Posting links to pics, videos, or to web sites, where the age of majority is difficult to discern, or they fall below Nash’s trust rank of 80 is not allowed.
Parasite Sites / Collections / Out of Context Sexualization
Sites that collect and sexualize in ways that were not intended by those that were in the photos / videos. (even non-nude sites!)
If you choose to post pics, or links to pics / videos – click here to read these content guidelines to determine if the media / web site fall below our trust rank.
Arguments / Drama / Flame wars, fanning
We prefer that arguments not be ongoing drama in the lobby. If you disagree with another user, agree to disagree and do not fill up the chat window with flame wars, or fan the flames either. Use the ignore / block button to silence someone who is typing what you don’t want to hear. People who continually argue, or continue to attempt to entice others in arguing can and will be banned from the site.
Harass – (from webster’s dictionary online) (1) : to annoy persistently (2) : to create an unpleasant or hostile situation for especially by uninvited and unwelcome verbal or physical conduct
harassment (from http://legal-dictionary.thefreedictionary.com/harassment ) (either harris-meant or huh-rass-meant) n. the act of systematic and/or continued unwanted and annoying actions of one party or a group, including threats and demands. The purposes may vary, including racial prejudice, personal malice, an attempt to force someone to quit a job or grant sexual favors, apply illegal pressure to collect a bill, or merely gain sadistic pleasure from making someone fearful or anxious. Such activities may be the basis for a lawsuit if due to discrimination based on race or sex, a violation on the statutory limitations on collection agencies, involve revenge by an ex-spouse, or be shown to be a form of blackmail (“I’ll stop bothering you, if you’ll go to bed with me”). The victim may file a petition for a “stay away” (restraining) order, intended to prevent contact by the offensive party. A systematic pattern of harassment by an employee against another worker may subject the employer to a lawsuit for failure to protect the worker. (See: harass, sexual harassment)
If there is a user who is talking about something that you do not want to hear or is continually pming you after you have asked them to stop, simply click their name on the list of users (participants panel) and select ‘Block User’ – you will not be able to see any of their comments for the rest of your login time. It’s the magical “poof! They are gone button, otherwise known as the iggy button! This could save you from getting kicked or banned, and save your sanity.
If you are generally fucking annoying, you may be kicked or banned. This includes all kinds of things, and may mean different things to different people, but if for example you just type some gibberish, or try to make fun of the rules, or push the limits, or just post some stupid you tube links, or do anything else that annoys the group or one of the moderators you may be kicked or banned under the GFA clause.
Some topics and screen names are only allowed in certain niche rooms.
Edge-play / taboo terms (terms that are not well accepted in the mainstream world) are not allowed to be in the lobby. Certain discussions / screen names that may be tolerated in one room may be reason for a kick or ban in another room.
If you send private messages to people that include edge play / taboo terms and they did not ask for those types of message, you may be permanently banned from the system.
Abusive, forced sex, humiliation or rape like names or discussions are not allowed in the main rooms such as the lobby, and are only allowed in the forced sex fantasy room, a user created room, or perhaps the BDSM room, if others there at the time do not find offense to the discussion.
Any type of incest type of discussion is not permitted in any of the system created rooms aside from the family fun room.
Golden showers and the like are only permitted in the squirting room, or a user create room.
Coming into the Lesbian action room with a dick avatar, screen name that includes references to male genitalia or talking about dick / cock in the open room or via unwanted pms, will get you kicked or banned from the system. Same applies to anyone who would come into the gay / bisexual men chat room and start talking about female anatomy graphically and in the open room. This includes fictional names and terms like futa.
There are too many niche and fetish things to list here, but be aware that if you have a screen name, or engage in a discussion, or use an avatar that a majority of people in the chat room you are in find offensive, you should create your own room, or you may be asked to change, or be kicked / banned.
Many users include their age-sex-location in their screen name. Doing this is not necessary but it is rather helpful and will help decrease the time it takes to find a session.
- Jenny f-25-uk
- Sexy Man-39-TN
- Hard4you 19-m-india
- Wet&wild 46/f/Australia
IM IDs (yahoo, skype, gtalk, msn, etc) social networking profiles, and emails are not allowed to be used as names.
- Imma.scammer6969(sk ype me)
- Horselongdong at FB
Phone numbers are not permitted in names.
- Call me 555-555-555
- Hot phone sex!! 1-888-211-6096
Url based nicknames are not allowed.
This web site follows the ASACP guidelines for unacceptable terms – using any of the terms listed below, or similar variations in your screen name or lobby conversations will get you permanently banned from using this site.
Any name with pedophile, child, kid, or any other terms that suggest that you are underage or are looking for some one underage, or is any variation deemed unacceptable by a Moderator(s).
- Pedro phile 24 m
- Horny4kds 32 f
- Lookin4HS FreshmenChicksM 18
- Lilly f 15
The terms boy and girl are highly discouraged. If you want one of these terms in your name, you should add your age to your screen-name so that your age is made clear.
- Young Hard Boy
- Small Girl Pussy
- Lil wet girl18
- Hard boy19
Taboo / Edge Play Terms in Screen Names
If your screen name may be offensive to a majority of people in a certain room, then you should not be there.
eg – Having a screen name with dick, cock, or eludes to such imagery in the lesbian room is not allowed.
If your screen name eludes to something taboo, make sure you are aware of the taboo terms / edge play discussions rules posted above.
Coming to the rooms with a name including rape, abuse, incest, bestiality, or another controversial term or a variation, you may get kicked from the system if you stay in the lobby. Edge-play / taboo terms (terms that are not well accepted in the mainstream world) are not allowed to be in the lobby. However, you can keep terms that are not accepted in the lobby, as long as they are allowed in the system, if you go to another room such as the forced sex room or the family fun room that do not find the terms offensive.
There is some grey area here with screen names – help!
Names like these should only be in a bdsm or forced sex type of room (not in lobby, les room, ffr, etc)
kick my balls
degrade me please
Virgin wants to be abused
Treat you like meat
piece of shit whore for dom m
Names like these may be okay in the lobby type rooms, but if your open discussions, or unasked for pms included taboo terms, then you may be kicked or banned.
slaveboyslave here for use
A vicious Man
Deeply Depraved Master
Sick Fucking Pervert
Additional information regarding rules in relation to taboo terms, edge play discussions, niche fantasy and role play can be found on the content guidelines page.
Chat Room Etiquette
Intro and ask before pm
Be polite; ask someone in the main chat if they would like to PM with you before start to private message them. Many people, especially women, consider PMing without asking first to be very rude.
If you send private messages to people that include edge play / taboo terms and they did not ask for those types of message, you may be permanently banned from the system.
Not all topics are allowed in the main lobbies. For this reason we have created several niche rooms, and users have the option to create their own room. If you want to take part in such discussions simply click the green arrow and door icon at the top of the chat area to change to your desired fantasy room. (See info above about taboo terms and edge play discussions and screen names)
We have an active community of regular users, also known as regs, here on our site who are usually friendly and helpful. If you’re new here, take some time to get to know the regs and the moderators. Just like in real life, the relationships online take some time to build, so hang out for a while to get to know the other users and vice versa. Enjoy the banter, the interchanges, the craziness, and the humor and you’ll be just fine. Remember, patience and courtesy go a long way to help you learn about how to use the site and help you find a person to have a great sex chat session.
The ignore button is a great feature! If someone is pming you with out permission, or saying things in the chat room that you do not want to hear, simply click their name on the list and select ‘block user.’ You will not see any comment by that person for the rest of your login period in the chat site.
Our chat rooms have volunteer Moderators who help people and enforce the rules to provide our users with a safe and fun chatting environment. When a Moderator is in their ‘Admin’ role, their name will appear red in the list of names to the right of the chat area. Please remember Mods are people too, who want to enjoy conversations with friends and they often have private messages and whispers that they are keeping track of along with the lobbies and other rooms. If you have a problem or witness a serious infraction you are more than welcome to pm a Moderator for help and tell them about the incident, which they will be happy to help you with.
Sometimes the Moderators will be in the room but will not appear in red. Sometimes a moderator will be in a room with a regular screen name, and not in moderator / admin mode. Sometimes a moderator or site admin could be in a room and be completely invisible. Some moderator’s names will appear as yellow or purple. If you need help go into the main lobby and ask for a Moderator, chances are that there will be a Mod logged in or someone who can reach a Moderator for you.
Please be nice to the Moderators, they are very busy people and have a lot of different things to take care of in the rooms. They can easily misunderstand something a person types, so be polite and patient! To make sure the room is taken care of Moderators are given the power to warn (an alert shows up on the selected user’s screen), freeze (the user is unable to talk for a period of time), kick (the user is removed from the room for several minutes to a day) and ban a user and their IP address from our chat system forever.
Many times our moderators will warn and or educate a user before they are kicked / banned – but this is not always the case, there is no rule that moderator must warn before kicking a user who is breaking the rules.
Got complaints? Questions?
If you have a general question or complaint about being kicked out of the chat room, you can post a message in the comment form at the bottom of this page, or use the contact us page to email Admin Nash (site owner) directly.
If you have a complaint about a Moderator or the moderator procedures, there is a Moderator complaint page where you can alert the site owner, or post a public comment asking for info.
You could of been kicked or banned by accident
The chat rooms here get pretty busy, and when moderators click on the names to kick or ban, sometimes the list moves and we end up banning the wrong person. It happens, and if it has happened to you, we apologize, it’s the moving list, and once in a while it’s human error. More than likely the list moved in the process, and the wrong person got bumped. No need to freak out though, when that happens the ban is generally temporary, and you are not added to our forbidden access list. If you were on the forbidden access list, you wouldn’t be reading this post right now.
Violating Sexchatsexchat.com’s Terms of Service, the chat room’s rules, content guielines, or etiquette policies will result with you being kicked from our chat services temporarily or possibly being permanently banned. Some kicks/bans only last for five minutes, while other may last one hour, six hours, twelve hours, or even twenty-four hours. Users who have committed major offenses will be permanently banned. Users who were banned from the chat system and still cannot join the chat after waiting 25 hours, have been permanently banned.
It’s been 25 hours and the chat box still says name or ip is banned. Can I get this ban lifted?
Well first please read the netiquette rules, it only takes a few minutes. Please ask questions in the comments section on that page if you are unclear about any of the rules, and we will work to clarify. Double check that you understand the rules, the content guidelines and terms of service. Maybe you did something innocent and didn’t know that it violates our policies. Sometimes that happens, and if it has happened to you, send me comment below, and explain to me that you have read and understand the rules, and promise to play by them. I’ll consider the situation.
Please note –
Some of the rule infractions will cause permanent banning, and no promises or begging will get you unbanned ever. I’m not going to list all of the things that will make a ban stick forever, but just so you know, if you have posted web addresses to other commercial sites, asked for money, or played like you were not an adult, then you will be forever banned from the site. There are other things that people have done that have led to a permanent ban as well.
Before you ask about your kick or ban from the chat room in the comments below – wait at least 24 hours. Many times when a user is kicked or banned from the chat room by one of our moderators, the ban only last for 10 minutes, or an hour, or 24 hours. 90% of the time when someone asks about being banned and for how long in the comments below, by the time I get to see the comment and look it up, the ban has already expired / auto-cleared by the system.